Between my fiance and i we have 13 nieces and nephews who are under the age of 10 who can over age three. We are being forced or guilted into having them in the cermony and at the wedding...its just too many kids for a night wedding and for a bridal party...any suggetions how to break the news?
kitty1224
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I am having a FG and 1 RG, but 5 kids all in all.
angnick
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i would just be completely honest. that is a lot of kids.
have them as a part of the wedding and then have a babysitter either pick them up and take them home. or if there is a hotel near by have a babysitter watch them.
i went to a wedding with about 10 kids running around under the age of 7 and it was a nightmare.
1 or 2 is fine, but when u get over that, it gets a bit out of hand. one of them tripped a waiter and he dropped an entire tray of food and water!1!
eden
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You have the same problems I had...
I had 11 kids from 2 months to 7 years of age. It sux!!!
Luckily 4 of the kids couldn't make it 'cus the parents didnt have transportation ;) (hint, find a place far away!)
And 2 of them couldn't make it 'cus the parents felt bad about having them there. We explained our predicament and they ended up getting babysitting instead.
We were thinking of hiring a babysitter but the parents not only refused that, but said they WON'T come to the wedding if the kids aren't invited.
People have no concept of kids being expensive to feed at weddings at half price! And who the hell wants their kids at party when they are supposed to be boozing?
FM me if you wanna vent more.
CLMon7906
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Honestly, your bridal party will be nothing but kids! Stand your ground...and if you must, pick the youngest girl and boy to be the RG and FG and say that is all you want. No one can argue with it. Your justification for who you pick can be 'we picked the YOUNGEST' so no one gets their you know what's in a bunch. Even if you would love 2-3 others, it might be easier to ONLY include 1 FG and 1 RG. that way it's simple and traditional.
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I am in a similar position but no one is forcing me. I originally had 2 juniors BM and 2 FG and 1 RB. I just couldnt exclude my god daughters and my niece they ment to much to me for me not to have them... then MY GRANDMOTher THERW A HISSY FIT that no one from my fathers side of the family is in the wedding party. I was F'IN STEAMING!!!!!!!!!! But I siad fine my cousin can be in it but I am making my grandmother pay for EVERYTHING she needs and thats it! I am still pissed about it
billandme
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My FI does not have any neices or nephews. I on the otherhand have lots!!!! Becuase of that, we've opted not have any children in our wedding party at all. It was just easier. That way, no body was upset that their child was not included in the wedding. Hope that Helps! :)
MJDoc12
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STAND YOUR GROUND!!!!!!!
weddings can bring out the WORST in ppl! parents who want their kids in the BP and/or don't want to pay for a baby-sitter....will totally make you feel bad about not letting their rugrats come....DON'T LET THEM BULLY YOU!!!!!!
this always angers me....cause it's basically someone telling YOU who should be allowed at YOUR wedding!! (my family tried to pull this crap on me!)
let them know you are NOT about a romper room wedding...and be be prepared for the consequences! they will argue, fight with you, guilt you, manipulate, make snide commnets....and may even 'threaten' not to go if their kids aren't allowed....LET THEM POUT!!!!!!!
don't be bullied by ppl who are SUPPOSED to be friends and family...*****************!
ML110
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definitely stand your ground... that is too many kids... the worst wedding i ever went to was my best friends wedding... she had 6 kids IN the wedding, and about 30 or 40 AT the wedding... the reception was like a 5 year olds birthday party, and the older people couldn't even dance because the kids were just running around on the dance floor.... and, i was MOH, and can i just tell you that taking pics was a nightmare! trying to get 6 kids to stay in one place took FOREVER.... i would totally stand your ground on this one... or maybe even get a room at the hotel you're using for OOT guests, and set up a 'kids reception' there- a few games, some kids meals, snakcs, etc....
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