Hi ladies!!! Could really use some advice on a dilemma I am having... I have three cousins who I grew up with but never see. Of the three cousins I was closest to the oldest sister growing up but as years passed that completely changed. This oldest cousin sent me an invite to her wedding (what I felt was last minute via facebook) I did not attend her wedding. She moved to PA and never even told me she was moving, got pregnant and never shared the news with me. She did not congratulate me on my engagement but I feel if I invite her mother (my aunt) and my other two cousins how would it look if I did not invite her. I should also point out that they all attended my first wedding. Would it be wrong to just invite my aunt and exclude my cousins. The youngest of the sisters is the only one who congratulated me.The middle cousin liked the pic of my announcement of my engagement on FB and I really tried reaching out to her via fb through the years butgot tired of always commenting and liking photos on her page and getting nothing in return. FH says not to stress and just invite them all and expect them to decline but I'm not so sure.... Torn!!!!
rcotter90
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I agree with your FH, just invite them. Save yourself the future headache of all the potential drama. They probably won't come anyway, based on your description of your relationship with them. Good luck!
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I agree with your FH, just invite them. Save yourself the future headache of all the potential drama. They probably won't come anyway, based on your description of your relationship with them. Good luck!
Agreed.
prautumnbride15
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Thanks So Much!! I agree too just sometimes helps to get another opinion.
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I agree with your FH, just invite them. Save yourself the future headache of all the potential drama. They probably won't come anyway, based on your description of your relationship with them. Good luck!
This!
prautumnbride15
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Ok fairly new to this board and loving it!Silly question how do you highlight a comment as above that you agree with and post lol?
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I think you should invite them. I'm not very close to my cousins anymore, and barely talk to them and having a small wedding, but it's less of a battle if I just invite them and see what happens. If they really aren't involved in your life they may just not come and then at least you saved yourself from some family drama.
prautumnbride15
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Omg I love that and it totally makes sense. You are so right and if they do come perhaps it could be a blessing and if they decline than at least I will know I did all I could. Thanks so much
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I would invite them because they are family. If you are tight on funds, space or you just don't want them there, then invite just your aunt.
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Ok fairly new to this board and loving it!Silly question how do you highlight a comment as above that you agree with and post lol?
Under their post click 'quote' and it'll bring you to a message page where you can write under it :)
prautumnbride15
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Posted by prautumnbride15
Ok fairly new to this board and loving it!Silly question how do you highlight a comment as above that you agree with and post lol?
Under their post click 'quote' and it'll bring you to a message page where you can write under it :)
lol ok lets see if this works... Thanks
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Invite them all!
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Invite them all!
Agreed
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I agree with the general consensus, I would invite them all and pray for some no's! But if you are going to exclude I would just invite your aunt and if they comment let them know that you are having a smaller wedding and can't invite all of the extended family.
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Invite them all and extend the olive branch. That way the ball is in her court to make the decision of whether she attends or not.
prautumnbride15
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Thanks so much for all your thoughts and input. I have just decided to invite them all and hope for the best... You ladies rock!!!
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Invite them all!
This! Always better to be safe and invite them that way no one can make you out to be the bad guy.
prautumnbride15
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Posted by Megglez108
Invite them all!
This! Always better to be safe and invite them that way no one can make you out to be the bad guy.
