we all know how on valentines day FH's brother got engaged ,...
and how they decided to have thier wedding the month after ours ....
So ... this has been really upsetting ... I have been crying and me and FH think they should wait at least a few months, so all the parties don't run into each other ..
so I live with FH and his parents in the hamptons ... and I spoke to FH's mother about how it upset me ...
long story short ... . she does not think that this is an issue and they should have the wedding whenever they want ... so instead of having an argument I just walked away ... so I could have myself a good cry.
now she won't even talk to me .. AHHHHHH
she has been bitching all day and making this about her, Now FH is upset, this is causing so much stress!!!
I think it might have been better if FH would have spoken to her about it since she is automatically going to side with her own child. Then it would be between the 2 sons, not between you and her other son. I would try not to let this bother you, I know its upsetting but being upset isn't going to make them change their wedding date. Be glad that you are getting married first and when they go to the next wedding maybe they won't have enought $$$ left for a decent gift...
Hope you feel better about things...
soontobecruz
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I totally agree that they should wait. Has FH talked to his parents? Maybe hw would have more pull with them. Sorry you are going through this. Some people just don't get it when it comes this stuff.
Not to change the subject but where do u live in the hamptons bc my FH is from there too
KellyGirl 2010
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I totally agree that they should wait. Has FH talked to his parents? Maybe hw would have more pull with them. Sorry you are going through this. Some people just don't get it when it comes this stuff. Not to change the subject but where do u live in the hamptons bc my FH is from there too
we are in east quogue ...
I feel like I live in the middle of no-where out here!
I totally agree that they should wait. Has FH talked to his parents? Maybe hw would have more pull with them. Sorry you are going through this. Some people just don't get it when it comes this stuff. Not to change the subject but where do u live in the hamptons bc my FH is from there too
we are in east quogue ...
I feel like I live in the middle of no-where out here!
You are my neighbor! I'm in Westhampton
TapOutBride10
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I total agree with you and could under stand how that would bother you. Maybe if your FH will talk to his brother and mother, explain how it's going to be a little difficult for there family to have two large events back to back, like the showers and stuff, It's a lot to deal with!. Not to mention you don't want to take anything away from them, you want them to have there own time in the spotlight too.
I went through a similar situation. My FH cousin, who happens to live across the street from us, was set to get married the month before us. And I will tell you, all I heard was how it was ' going to be really busy for our side of the Family' Everyone was taking about how our showers were going to have to be planned out sooo far in advance!!!! - Unfortunately Now there wedding was called off.
KellyGirl 2010
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we are in east quogue ... I feel like I live in the middle of no-where out here! You are my neighbor! I'm in Westhampton
ok .. qotd ... where is a good bar out here in the off season?????????????
soontobecruz
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Ohhh he is from Hampton Bays!! Btw there is nothing good out here off season!! Boardy barn is right around the corner though!!!
KellyGirl 2010
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Ohhh he is from Hampton Bays!! Btw there is nothing good out here off season!! Boardy barn is right around the corner though!!
we can actually hear the boardy barn music from here on sundays!! lmao!
Before FH g-ma died ... she suggested we have our reception there ....
she was a little off her rocker ... we miss hewr now though ...
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i think you have every reason to be upset!! i think what they are doing is really rude and inconsiderate!
i am pissed that my cousin decided to get married 4 months before me... she wasnt even engaged when she decided to set her date 4 months before mine..
and if you fh's mom doesnt seen anything wrong with what they are doing, then she needs a wake up call.. she probably didnt have to deal with that crap on her wedding day..
tell fh he needs to talk to his mom and brother about this..
soontobecruz
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Haha I have had friend suggest the same thing. This was waaayyyy before I was ever engaged and usually it was said while we are there so you know the drunken stooper we were in! Lol
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i agree with u i would be upset also. i would def talk to ur fh and tell him that he needs to talk with her.even if she don't understand where ur coming from at least he should tell her to start talking to u.
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I understand how you are upset! I would be the same way. And I would have talked to fmil as well especially if you are close with her. You need to have FH talk to her b/c it is weird and selfish and not for nothing why would they even want to share this whole experience with anyone else? Why wouldn't they want to wait till you guys get married to have everyone celebrate there marriage?
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Gosh you have a ton of drama to deal with. BREATHE...and talk to FH and see if he could help mend the relationship with your FMIL. As for the brother, there is really nothing you can do, but try to forget about it. Thats their own problem. I mean its really nervy of them, and they are the ones that will be stressed trying to live up to what you and FH have already done. I would look at it as an advantage and maybe become friends with your enemy... you maybe able to get better deals with vendors and you can have another bride to bytch to...
KellyGirl 2010
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Posted by GonnaBeeMrsG
I understand how you are upset! I would be the same way. And I would have talked to fmil as well especially if you are close with her. You need to have FH talk to her b/c it is weird and selfish and not for nothing why would they even want to share this whole experience with anyone else? Why wouldn't they want to wait till you guys get married to have everyone celebrate there marriage?
we are all going to have a sit down tomorrow ..
but now FH wants to elope if his brother won't change his mind...
he thinks its sibling rivalry and that his brother is being selfish and jealous that we were getting attention!
we will see ... I am not feeling as bad because I smuggle a bottle of booze and started drinking a bit
FallBride2010
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I think the good news is that yours is first. I understand it stinks...but I've had a few friends in similar situations and it worked out fine
jaxx929
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I kind of understand your situation. We got engaged this past Valentine's (yay!!)...but then my fiance's brother proposed to his gf two days later! It's causing a lot of drama. His family doesn't think the brother did anything wrong, and it's driving me crazy!
KellyGirl 2010
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Posted by jaxx929
I kind of understand your situation. We got engaged this past Valentine's (yay!!)...but then my fiance's brother proposed to his gf two days later! It's causing a lot of drama. His family doesn't think the brother did anything wrong, and it's driving me crazy!
I am going to save your info .... we need to be liw pals since we are going through the same thing
