Totally over this - Long, but I need some support/advice

So FH's family are at times very nice, but most of the time they are so ridculously dependent on him. To the point that it has seriously interfered with him achieving his own goals throughout his life.

So his mom 'gave' him a car a few years ago, he had made as many payments on it as she had when she was driving it. So last July she decided she wanted to trade cars with him b/c the engine on hers was messed up. So she pretty much wanted the car that worked and to give us a car that would cost $2000 to fix. FH said no and I hadn't heard anything else.

A few months ago it came up again. FH again said no, and even offered to give her some $$ to repair her car. So a few weeks ago FH's sister (who has 2 illegitimate children and lives with FMIL and is supported by her) car had a electrical shortage and literally went on fire. So FMIL calls FH yesteray and says 'I'm taking back your car, giving it to her and I'm keeping mine' Leaving FH with NO car!!!

I am LIVID!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He continuously gets screwed. At this point I said fcuk it, just give her the cars back. So I tried talking to my parents about it b/c my dad knows a lot about money things and my mom just can't stop running her mouth. 'Oh it'll be your loan, what is he going to contribute' blah blah blah.

So I pretty much told them that I needed help but not that tyoe of help. Said goodbye and hung up.

I'm just so sick of everyone

I have no advice, but I can give you

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Posted by Lsorrent

I have no advice, but I can give you

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Same

im sorry!

awww i'm so sorry Lori. I don't have any advice either except if he wants to get even or whatever, 'sell' the car back but do it legitimately with the title and everything.

there's only so much a person can take by being dumped on

I love you Lori families **** and I know what it feels like to be stepped on. My parents do it to me with car insurance. You know how I feel about how they treat him its not fair they are all adults and should be able to take care of themselves do they think this is going to happen when he is a married man?!?! Ugh your in laws

So sorry!

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Posted by bluj786

im soo sorry. what about he gives the car back and gets one of his own?? wait hes making payments on the car she gave him??

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Thanks girls!!

The original plan was that FH and his mom switch cars. But now that his sister has no car his car goes to her and his mom keeps her car!!! That's the crazy part!!

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Posted by lori7570

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Posted by bluj786

im soo sorry. what about he gives the car back and gets one of his own?? wait hes making payments on the car she gave him??

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Thanks girls!!

The original plan was that FH and his mom switch cars. But now that his sister has no car his car goes to her and his mom keeps her car!!! That's the crazy part!!

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well that would give me even more of a reason to give the car back and get my own. why cant she get her own car??

im sorry you guys have to go through this.

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Posted by bluj786

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Posted by lori7570

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Posted by bluj786

im soo sorry. what about he gives the car back and gets one of his own?? wait hes making payments on the car she gave him??

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Thanks girls!!

The original plan was that FH and his mom switch cars. But now that his sister has no car his car goes to her and his mom keeps her car!!! That's the crazy part!!

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well that would give me even more of a reason to give the car back and get my own. why cant she get her own car??

im sorry you guys have to go through this.

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Because his family is filled with selfish dirtbags

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Posted by lori7570

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Posted by bluj786

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Posted by lori7570

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Posted by bluj786

im soo sorry. what about he gives the car back and gets one of his own?? wait hes making payments on the car she gave him??

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Thanks girls!!

The original plan was that FH and his mom switch cars. But now that his sister has no car his car goes to her and his mom keeps her car!!! That's the crazy part!!

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well that would give me even more of a reason to give the car back and get my own. why cant she get her own car??

im sorry you guys have to go through this.

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Because his family is filled with selfish dirtbags

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im sorry again. hang in there

I already told you what to do to his mom, I'm sorry you have to deal with his family

Thats ridiculous! But honestly you guys will be better off just getting your own car that they can't say jack about. Sorry families suk sometimes.

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Posted by MrsHazel2B

So if his mom is supporting his sis, is mom planning to make two car payments? FH better not make another payment! Can the two of you finance together?

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No - she will be making no car payments b/c the two cars she has now are paid off. And when his sister gets a check from her insurance company for the replacemnt value of her car that was totaled - I wonder where that money will go???

We're just going to buy a used car together but it's another payment that we shouldn't have to pay for

Thanks again girls

Some parents are absolutely effing rediculous....my FILs included...and FH knows this. You have know idea the shyte I have gone through with $ and the FILs over the past year or so (I can seriously write a novel...but I will spare you of that). If you need to vent - please, feel free to FM me - I feel we are in a very similar situation whereby our FHs have been taken advantage of financially and emotionally...

What doesnt kill you makes you stronger (at least thats what I keep telling myself!)

Sorry Lori you have to go throu this kinda agrivation, It makes it worse when you get it from both sides of the family. Im not saying to do this but the hood in me would make sure the car didnt make it home when she came to pick it up
Hope the weekend is a lil more stress free for ya

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Posted by Cookie De La Devine

Sorry Lori you have to go throu this kinda agrivation, It makes it worse when you get it from both sides of the family. Im not saying to do this but the hood in me would make sure the car didnt make it home when she came to pick it up
Hope the weekend is a lil more stress free for ya

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LOL - I'm tempted to take off the 4 new tires and new brakes that I spent spent $2000 on 2 months ago


Thanks again girls