totally stressed about $$ (kind of long)

meara Posted: Jan 01, 2009 09:57 PM

totally stressed about $$ (kind of long)

So when I started to plan my wedding my Dad offered to pay for most of it. . FH and I were going to contribute what we could and take care of things like HM, our rings obviously, gifts, etc. .now due to some really awful, totally unforseen things, there is really no money to do this. .my dad is still trying to help but I really don't think he can. . now I am soo stressed and anxious b/c we have put deposits on everything but it is NOT NOT a wedding we could afford on our own. . we would have done a million things different if that was the case but if we cancel things then we will lose so much money and still have to pay for a 'cheaper' wedding. .anyway I just don't know what to do but I get pretty stressed/depressed/anxious about this every day. . and then feel even crappier b/c I am worried about my wedding when there are a lot worse financial issues for a lot in my family right now. . don't feel like I can really explain more on here right now. . but just needed to vent and don't know what to do. . part of me just wants to cancel it all but know that I would be so devastated. . any thoughts?

MrsList09 Posted: Jan 01, 2009 10:09 PM

Re: totally stressed about $$ (kind of long)

Maybe you can call all of your vendors and see if you can push your wedding forward to next year to give you time to save. Your RH can work with you on the date - some other brides on here have done that successfully. I think they'd rather work with you for a successful event than taking your deposit.

You could also cut down on your wedding to save money.
You could have a cocktail reception if your RH will work with you.
Your florist may allow you to drop down to smaller boKs and CPs
Cut down the guest list.
Have your photographer only take photos but not do the albums.
DIY invites or get cheaper ones.

Good luck! Your vendors can work with you.

gina409 Posted: Jan 01, 2009 10:12 PM

Re: totally stressed about $$ (kind of long)

im so sorry u r going through this..try to call ur vendors and see if u can downgarde rather than get ur deposit back and cut back anyway u can say keep the bo-ks from the florist and use candles for cps,maybe cancel the video and out that money on the photo or if u were having 2 limos use 1..hth fm me if u want to talk anytime

MrsCastanedain09 Posted: Jan 01, 2009 10:14 PM

Re: totally stressed about $$ (kind of long)

Hey Sweetie, so sorry you're going through this.
Has alot been invested in Battery Gardens...I know they are pricey and that's probably where you can save most, if you switched RH.

that's the first place I would start.
Happy New Year and keep your head up, this will all work out.

meara Posted: Jan 01, 2009 10:54 PM

Re: totally stressed about $$ (kind of long)

Thanks for the advice and support girls. . sadly. . I think I have cut back on everything I can. . didn't do any upgrades, have a friend doing my flowers, no video, minimum at the RH. .. they don't offer a cocktail hour so that's not an option but I might see what they can do to 'downgrade' I'm already getting a cheaper package from them though so have to see. . I know it will all work out. .. but a pig roast on the beach is looking good now!!!

Ugh . . . okay i'm done being a downer. .

endlesslove116 Posted: Jan 02, 2009 01:40 AM

Re: totally stressed about $$ (kind of long)

im really sorry about what is going on and what you are going thru right now! :( i really hope that everything works out for you guys! good luck with everything hun!

dazies1011 Posted: Jan 02, 2009 01:43 AM

Re: totally stressed about $$ (kind of long)

Posted by MrsList09

Maybe you can call all of your vendors and see if you can push your wedding forward to next year to give you time to save. Your RH can work with you on the date - some other brides on here have done that successfully. I think they'd rather work with you for a successful event than taking your deposit.

You could also cut down on your wedding to save money.
You could have a cocktail reception if your RH will work with you.
Your florist may allow you to drop down to smaller boKs and CPs
Cut down the guest list.
Have your photographer only take photos but not do the albums.
DIY invites or get cheaper ones.

Good luck! Your vendors can work with you.

I was thinking along these lines also.

FutureMrsG Posted: Jan 02, 2009 01:49 AM

Re: totally stressed about $$ (kind of long)

You could call your reception hall and see if you can change your wedding date to a month that is 'off peak'. When we were first planning our wedding I tried to convince FH that we should get married in March because it was nearly half the price of what we are paying. Most vendors will allow you to apply your deposits to any date as long as you do not break your contract. Other places you can save money are flowers, invites (Take a look at the americanwedding.com) and favors.