Tough situation

sugarnspice Posted: Sep 03, 2009 11:04 AM

Tough situation

MarjorieFrank Posted: Sep 03, 2009 11:06 AM

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It's not abnormal to have more than just your BP at your b-party.
Tell your BP that you want to include and involve your other group of friends with the b-party, especially since they aren't BMs. Give both groups each other's emails or something so they can all plan it together. That way, your 'fun' friends can give their opinions and hopefully shine some fun onto the b-party planning.

FutureCap Posted: Sep 03, 2009 11:07 AM

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I think you can totally have 2. My friend got married in March and they went to Miami... I was in the BP and could not go in them middle of busy season (and could not afford it since we had just bought our house). I wanted to go, but it was impossible. So I joined a different group of friends and we went for a burlesque dinner/show in the city and to a bar/club after and still had a blast. But she had 2 and no one in either group seemed to be bothered by it...i didn't mind and I was in the BP!

StaceYums81 Posted: Sep 03, 2009 11:09 AM

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the bridal party should be throwing your bachelorette party for you

If the wild party girls want to take you out then let them and just have a good time, but I wouldn't suggest it as a bachelorette party....

mrsdraskin2009 Posted: Sep 03, 2009 11:10 AM

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I say speak to both groups, tell them you want them to plan it together. Give them each others numbers and see how it pans out.

I mean, if there's really no compromise, then yes, I think you could do dinner with the one group and something more wild with the other, but see if they can't work together on your B-party.

Lsorrent Posted: Sep 03, 2009 11:10 AM

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You can absolutely have more than one group of friends at your bachelorette party. The party is not meant for them, it's meant for you. So you can definitely mix everyone up.

I plan to have several of my different groups of friends there....my BP, old co-workers, friends from grad school, and friends that are just really good friends

ETA: Generally the bride gives a list of people she wants invited to the BP......and then they take care of it from there. But anyone you tell them you want invited, should be invited.

AdriandSteve Posted: Sep 03, 2009 11:20 AM

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Posted by Lsorrent

You can absolutely have more than one group of friends at your bachelorette party. The party is not meant for them, it's meant for you. So you can definitely mix everyone up.

I plan to have several of my different groups of friends there....my BP, old co-workers, friends from grad school, and friends that are just really good friends

ETA: Generally the bride gives a list of people she wants invited to the BP......and then they take care of it from there. But anyone you tell them you want invited, should be invited.

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MrsC2010 Posted: Sep 03, 2009 11:23 AM

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Posted by Lsorrent

You can absolutely have more than one group of friends at your bachelorette party. The party is not meant for them, it's meant for you. So you can definitely mix everyone up.

I plan to have several of my different groups of friends there....my BP, old co-workers, friends from grad school, and friends that are just really good friends

ETA: Generally the bride gives a list of people she wants invited to the BP......and then they take care of it from there. But anyone you tell them you want invited, should be invited.

i agree...and i think you can def tell them what you wanna do...like go out and party it up vs have a relaxing dinner or whatever

Jna2010 Posted: Sep 03, 2009 11:27 AM

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if they want to plan 2 b-parties then go for it, but i wouldnt exclude one group from the other party

christine2010 Posted: Sep 03, 2009 11:27 AM

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all of my friends have had two bacherlorette parties. one local & one vacation. the bride did the initial planning (deciding where & when to go & who to invite). then the MOH took over & did the actual research & inviting.

sugarnspice Posted: Sep 03, 2009 11:28 AM

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thats the thing.

MOH 1 is from California,
MOH 2 does not drink

Lsorrent Posted: Sep 03, 2009 11:35 AM

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Posted by AliP2010

thats the thing.

MOH 1 is from California,
MOH 2 does not drink

Ok so it might be hard for MOH 1 to plan.......but MOH 2 doesn't have to drink if she doesn't want to.

Do you have anything in particular that YOU want to do??? Because if you do, then that's what they should be planning!