trying to ruin wedding

My parents and fils do not get along.
Fmil & her fam are horrible to me and my fam.
I told her if she had anything to ask or say about the wedding to ask me or fh.
She keeps trying to go over our heads and calling my rents. My mom is fuming-and when my moms upset...im upset. Last night fhs step dad called and left a message for my dad. w.t.f???? My dad doesn't do phone calls.
This is suppose to be a happy occasion and she is trying to ruin it.
At my shower fmil showed up a few mins before I got there (so 35 mins late to what it said on invite) and didn't say congrats to me or anything she just spoke about how we should invite fhs dad that hasn't been in his life and how she wants the photographer at her house. f u lady you aren't putting a dime into this wedding.

How do I handle her??
update:
sooooo fh spoke to her and her husband called my dad to ask why I was so disrespectful to his wife and how he doesnt like it. So now she played the innocent card to fh and he fell for it and im so upset now. I hate her even more.

That's what Caller ID is for. Let her call, ignore it, then have your parents check the voicemail. If she's calling so frequently, let a few voicemails pile up and get back to her with the answers (or let your parents get back to her) in one fell swoop.

eta: Sorry she's being beastly!

oh im so sorry you are going through all of this.

Ugh. I feel your pain. I have a FMIL who always pee's in my cereal too.

I would say silence is golden, BUT since they upset your parents, they may be the ones that need to say something.

Are your parents very passive??

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Posted by Spring143

My parents and fils do not get along.
Fmil & her fam are horrible to me and my fam.
I told her if she had anything to ask or say about the wedding to ask me or fh.
She keeps trying to go over our heads and calling my rents. My mom is fuming-and when my moms upset...im upset. Last night fhs step dad called and left a message for my dad. w.t.f???? My dad doesn't do phone calls.
This is suppose to be a happy occasion and she is trying to ruin it.
At my shower fmil showed up a few mins before I got there (so 35 mins late to what it said on invite) and didn't say congrats to me or anything she just spoke about how we should invite fhs dad that hasn't been in his life and how she wants the photographer at her house. f u lady you aren't putting a dime into this wedding.

How do I handle her??

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sooooo fh spoke to her and her husband called my dad to ask why I was so disrespectful to his wife and how he doesnt like it. So now she played the innocent card to fh and he fell for it and im so upset now. I hate her even more.

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Posted by Spring143

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Posted by Spring143

My parents and fils do not get along.
Fmil & her fam are horrible to me and my fam.
I told her if she had anything to ask or say about the wedding to ask me or fh.
She keeps trying to go over our heads and calling my rents. My mom is fuming-and when my moms upset...im upset. Last night fhs step dad called and left a message for my dad. w.t.f???? My dad doesn't do phone calls.
This is suppose to be a happy occasion and she is trying to ruin it.
At my shower fmil showed up a few mins before I got there (so 35 mins late to what it said on invite) and didn't say congrats to me or anything she just spoke about how we should invite fhs dad that hasn't been in his life and how she wants the photographer at her house. f u lady you aren't putting a dime into this wedding.

How do I handle her??

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sooooo fh spoke to her and her husband called my dad to ask why I was so disrespectful to his wife and how he doesnt like it. So now she played the innocent card to fh and he fell for it and im so upset now. I hate her even more.

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are you effing kidding that her husband called YOUR DAD?!?!?!!?! THAT IS SO OUT OF LINE!

People are simply unreal!!
So sorry you and your family are going through such nonsense!!!!!!

wow....i cant believe she got him to call ur FATHER! lmao like ur 15 or something!!!! i'd be so pissed!!!! i'm so sorry that ur going thru this it's absolutely ridiculous. i think it's time to have a serious chat with ur FH as to what the heck is going on and how it's making u feel....and who he should be siding with here

Im sorry but under no circumstances should they be calling your parents. My FMIL likes to dish it out but if you say anything back to her she cries LITERALLY in front on everyone. So now I just ignore her really, share nothing of the wedding plans with her and just try to spend as little time as possible with her. At thanksgiving we were with FH family and she mentioned something about xmas eve, so I said we are spending it with my family since we were with them for Thanksgiving. She made a pouty face like a 2 year old and then I heard her later telling FH aunts that I was stealing him away from her. I told FH this and hes supposed to talk to her. He knows how she is though and always sides with me so thats good. But honestly FMIL are just a pain in the ***!!!!