~*~*Tuesday 8/4/09 QOTD~*~*

Good morning ladies!

A friend of mine is going through some problems with her 16 year old daughter. Nothing serious, just normal teenage stuff. It got me thinking

If you could go back in time but with the knowledge you have now, what age would you go back to and what advice would you give yourself?

This was actually a hard question for me to answer. If I could go back and re-do any of my life it would be my early 30's. For all of you who haven't hit your 30's yet - for me, it was the best time of my life. All of the fun of my 20's but without so much pressure to prove myself.

If I had to give the old me a piece of advice, I would go back to being 16 and I would say; SLOW DOWN!! Stop and smell the roses, life goes by too quickly. Don't rush through it - it's not a race.

I hope all of you enjoy your day. I'm looking forward to reading your answers!

~Gina

Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes. – Oscar Wilde

Good question!
I'd definitely go back to college and stick with my original microbiology major. I may be suited for finance but my heart is still with the science But I'd still make sure I met my future husband there!

I would go back to the years when I was 21-25. That was when I had my first 'real' relationship. We ended up living together for a year and a half and came very very close to moving towards 'engagement level'. While he was a great guy, I wasn't happy deep down inside. I always secretly hoped he would change lots of behaviors. But at the time I thought that was normal and just dealt with it. I realized at my best friend's wedding that it just had to end. I broke up with him a week later and moved out immediately.

So my advice would be: DO NOT stay with someone with the hopes that they're going to change! People don't change~the things that annoy you are ALWAYS going to annoy you, it's a matter of deciding what you can live with and what you can't.

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

If i could go back in time i would go back to my college years...umm not cuz i didnt have fun or anything like that cuz college was a blast!! i just would have went to college for teaching! thats what i always wanted to do and still do, but instead i went for buisness! majored in marketing and work as a paralegal! lol go figure! im too broke and too lazy to go back to school for teaching so i would have just did that to start and maybe i could be at the beach today! instead of at my desk! ugh!! lol

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I'm a paralegal too and feel your pain! It's funny 'cause I always say 'I should have been a teacher!'

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Posted by MirabellaNYC

So my advice would be: DO NOT stay with someone with the hopes that they're going to change! People don't change~the things that annoy you are ALWAYS going to annoy you, it's a matter of deciding what you can live with and what you can't.

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That's such great advice! I wish I would have known that then too.

Age 14
Advice: Don't let the kids in school push you around or get to you. In the long run, they are not going to matter at all and if you don't let them get to you they won't try.

or

Age 22
Advice: You dumb idiot, don't break up with Jason, your looking for something in a guy that you will find out you don't want. If you stay with him you could get married 4 years earlier then you would when the economy is better, when you have more time to be married before having kids, and when Jay's father would be healthy for the wedding.


or


Age 21
Advice: Be a teacher, dont' go to film school for your masters, its a waste of time and money. And if you go right into education you will actually have a job when the economy goes bust just as your about to reach 30. (Of course thats the least likely one I would do, because I would have missed out on 3 of the best experiences of my life. But right now when I am jobless its hard to tell myself that.)

I would go back to when I was 18 and just starting college. I would have actually studied and graduated in 4 years instead of the 6 it took me because I was a slacker. I would have become a teacher so I could be sitting on the beach right now instead of sitting in this d a m n cubicle. I would have NEVER dated the dumba s s looser that infuenced me to be a slacker in school and do all sorts of crazy things. But all in all I have to say that without those experiences and the many more that followed I wouldn't be the person that I am today....but I would really like to be a teacher to have summers off!!

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Posted by JennyAPH

I would go back to the beginning. I would do it all over again. Every single day. My advice to myself would be to remember everything I could, do not take advantage of anything or anyone, enjoy being young, be nice to everyone no matter what!! spend more time with family and grandparents, and HAVE FUN

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That's great advice! I'm going to try to remember that starting now.

i would go back to high school...

first off i was in the best shape of my life...

i loved the school,my friends there and how every day i was playing a sport after..we went from volleyball to basketbal to softball and it was the best

no worries about money,or family health problem yet..just pure fun

I wouldn't change a thing about my life. There have been great periods and some pretty bad ones but all in all they made me the person I am today. Do I look back and wish I didnt fail out of college yes....but becasue of those bad grades I didnt get into the law school I wanted....and if I had I would be out in sunny CA and I never would have met DH.

Life happens for a reason...all those bad relationships make you realize what you want in the one you have now.....and all the bad experiences will make sure you don't make the same mistakes.

I would go back to freshman year of college, when I was 18-19. I would tell myself not to get my hopes up too high and just have fun with relationships that I was in. I think it would have made me a lot healthier now in my relationship with FH.

I also would have tried to convince myself to stay with linguistics and just be an ESL teacher, because even though I probably wouldn't like being a teacher either, at least I'd have time off and more money!

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

If i could go back in time i would go back to my college years...umm not cuz i didnt have fun or anything like that cuz college was a blast!! i just would have went to college for teaching! thats what i always wanted to do and still do, but instead i went for buisness! majored in marketing and work as a paralegal! lol go figure! im too broke and too lazy to go back to school for teaching so i would have just did that to start and maybe i could be at the beach today! instead of at my desk! ugh!! lol

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I'm a paralegal too and feel your pain! It's funny 'cause I always say 'I should have been a teacher!'

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LADIES!!!! I realized 3 yrs ago my heart was in teaching instead of event planning. I started Sept of last year & am now wrapping up my masters program & I am cert to teach right now!!!!! You can do it if your heart is in it!!!!!! Pls feel free to FM if you want info on my masters program.

ok....i am going to crash you QOTD b/c I love these!!! And I just had this same convo the other day w/FH & one of my co-workers.

There are two time periods I would like to go back & redo....first is HS, I was so miserable and wrapped up in my own perceptions of what others thought of me, it never crossed my mind to consider the fact that I counted and question how I felt about myself. I would go back and provide myself w/the wisdom that I matter and life is going to get more difficult not easier so I needed to let go, be free and SMILE....it would help me cope w/future life events that are awaiting me. I also would of let FH know I thought he was cute!!!!

second....I would go back to Jan '00, my older bro was just diagnosed w/a brain tumor and instead of being too scared to deal w/it, I would of spent EVERY waking moment w/him and I would of told myself to memorize every part of him good and bad, also to sit w/him and just talk about everything..........memorize his smell, what his hug feels like...not to be scared of him dying b/c it would be ok.
i miss him

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Posted by StellaStar13

ok....i am going to crash you QOTD b/c I love these!!! And I just had this same convo the other day w/FH & one of my co-workers.

There are two time periods I would like to go back & redo....first is HS, I was so miserable and wrapped up in my own perceptions of what others thought of me, it never crossed my mind to consider the fact that I counted and question how I felt about myself. I would go back and provide myself w/the wisdom that I matter and life is going to get more difficult not easier so I needed to let go, be free and SMILE....it would help me cope w/future life events that are awaiting me. I also would of let FH know I thought he was cute!!!!

second....I would go back to Jan '00, my older bro was just diagnosed w/a brain tumor and instead of being too scared to deal w/it, I would of spent EVERY waking moment w/him and I would of told myself to memorize every part of him good and bad, also to sit w/him and just talk about everything..........memorize his smell, what his hug feels like...not to be scared of him dying b/c it would be ok.
i miss him

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This was beautiful. Thank you for sharing.

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Posted by StellaStar13

ok....i am going to crash you QOTD b/c I love these!!! And I just had this same convo the other day w/FH & one of my co-workers.

There are two time periods I would like to go back & redo....first is HS, I was so miserable and wrapped up in my own perceptions of what others thought of me, it never crossed my mind to consider the fact that I counted and question how I felt about myself. I would go back and provide myself w/the wisdom that I matter and life is going to get more difficult not easier so I needed to let go, be free and SMILE....it would help me cope w/future life events that are awaiting me. I also would of let FH know I thought he was cute!!!!

second....I would go back to Jan '00, my older bro was just diagnosed w/a brain tumor and instead of being too scared to deal w/it, I would of spent EVERY waking moment w/him and I would of told myself to memorize every part of him good and bad, also to sit w/him and just talk about everything..........memorize his smell, what his hug feels like...not to be scared of him dying b/c it would be ok.
i miss him

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Thank you SO much for sharing that.

It's so easy to get wrapped up in the wedding planning and I think every once in a while we need to step back and remember what's truly important in life.

My condolences on the loss of your brother.