two situations:

1. me and FH set up two of our good friends at our e-party in oct....needless to say they have been together since. well MY friend has been having all these family issues..and em and FH live together....so she comes over ALL the time until her honey gets of work adn jsut hangs out with us and i'll make dinenr for all of us and we'll just do whatever cause she doesnt want to go home to deal with her parents....ANYWAY....she sent FH an email and attached were emails she wrote to her boyfriends ( FH's bestf riend) going on and on how she thinks me and FH are SO boring...she hates having to hang out with us all the time...she cant stand working with me because i ignore her ( god forbid i WORK) and she doesnt want to listen to my 'biAtching'...she wantes him to get home early and save her from having to deal with us....yah know ' they used to actually be FUn..now god forbid they do anything' HELLO i am having a $50,000 wedding!!!! are you kidding me!!!!

2. Another friend ( who actually set up me and FH at a bar) hasnt returned a phone call of mine in about a year..ive talked to her maybe twice ( only because she was in a fight with her friend melissa)....but otherwise she is NEEVR around..NEVER calls back...didnt even come to our e-party!!..do i just give up and let it go until the wedding and see if she realizes that umm HELLO you're a bridesmaid ( which she is WELL aware of) MY FRIENDS SUCK!!!!!!

sorry so long ( im stressing!)

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Posted by JP&EP

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I am sorry I cant only say ditto to the hugs... good luck.

if this is something thats bothering u, i say talk to them....and if they dont understand where ur coming from, then u know what kind of friends they are.

remember....they all realize what they had once they lose it!

The first friend is not a friend at all. That was rude....very rude!!!! Stop going out of your way for her!!!

The second one...you need to contact her again!!!! Don't just let her forget that she is a BM, remind her and mention that if she doesn't want to do it...it is ok, just to let you know!!

What is wrong with people?

thanks girls

I DONT KNOW WHATS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE!!
the first friends wont stop calling me....Im just blowing her off..she knows im pissed about something..and the second....I think all hope os gone.....if i bring up anything wedding related..she changes the topic or ignores me...it jsut hurts my feelings...i do always have back ups though ( sad to say)....so i know i have others i can count on......but you know what im talking about.....

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Posted by pinkstar025

thanks girls

I DONT KNOW WHATS WRONG WITH THESE PEOPLE!!
the first friends wont stop calling me....Im just blowing her off..she knows im pissed about something..and the second....I think all hope os gone.....if i bring up anything wedding related..she changes the topic or ignores me...it jsut hurts my feelings...i do always have back ups though ( sad to say)....so i know i have others i can count on......but you know what im talking about.....

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i know EXACTLY what ur talking about...a friend of mine that got married last year...i went out of my way to help her literally from A-Z...her MOH was good for nothing and I was a BM and took care of things for her, and grant it shes happy for me that i'm getting married now, but she doesnt seem to be interested in any details, and this past week shes been ticked at me and cant give me a reason, now i hear its bc she heard something bout me in regards to her, but instead of talking to me abouti it she kieeps saying she would if she could but she cant....

i tell u i dont understand anybody anymore

It's funny -- weddings do wonders for weeding out your so-called friends from your real ones.

Friend A needs to be cut off. I don't understand why she sent your FH this email but no one is forcing her to come over your house every night. I would have booted her *** a long time ago anyway... why do I need someone over my house every night? She'll be back though, if she is a true friend.

Friend B should be dropped also. She's a BM???? Well, not if she hasn't returned a phone call in a year. I would stop initiating contact with her. If she never gets around to picking up the phone and contacting YOU, she should no longer a be BM.

Sucks, I know.

First of all, I can't believe the balls of that first friend, what nerve!!!!! I would confront her on with what she wrote in the emails for sure!!!!!
Second, the other friend sounds like a convience friend, only there when it suits her, maybe you've grown apart? That happens in the best of friendships. I would try to get her on the phone and talk.
That first friend I would have nothing more to do with!!!

friend b sounds gone...hey its their loss......

friend a... sounds like you should talk to her, tell her that you dont know how she got it in her head that you require her coming over each day, and that you would be happy to have the alone time with you honey instead

Regarding person # 1. She has a heck of a lot of nerve! Has it occured to her that she has been a third wheel all of these months?! Her behavior has been very self centered. She is not an invited guest that should be 'entertained.' I wouldn't consider her a friend. (Maybe FH should reply to her e-mail so that she gets the whole attachment and see's what she's done.)

Regarding person #2. Is she single? She may just feel that she has more in common with her other friend now that you're getting married. I wouldn't consider a good friend at this point, and I would very seriously consider whether or not you really want her in the bridal party. If she is behaving this way now just wait. There are still dresses, shoes, fittings, the shower, and all of the other pre-wedding activities to come. If she's not around now, she probably won't be around then.

I'm sorry that they women are giving you such a difficult time. Good luck