UGGG! i hate this part of getting married

so im not sure if some of you guys remember the thread i started a while ago about me being unsure whether or not to ask a particular girl to be in my bridal party.... but i decided not to have her in it & i just made 'the call' to her to tell her.

all in all she said that she understood b/c its my wedding and blah blah blah BUT THEN she says 'i cant promise that in the future i wont be as understanding as i am now... so dont be surprised if i snap and get snotty about something wedding related' HOW EXACTLY am i supossed to take that?!? like, is she going to freak out during the e-party b/c shes not a BM?? i sincerely hope not!!! or is she going to be a huge b*tch duirng the bachelorette party?!?

UGGGGG someone help me make something of this!!!

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Posted by MikeandJess

I don't really get it, she was asked and then you un-asked her to be in the party?

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no i was waiting to officially ask her or not b/c i was having second thoughts.... here is the link to my original thread:



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I'm not sure either ....

Perhaps she's just trying to tell you not to expect her to act like a bridesmaid if she isn't going to be one ... like, that she won't be as involved as she would have been if she was a BM???

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Posted by TM2008

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Posted by MikeandJess

I don't really get it, she was asked and then you un-asked her to be in the party?

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no i was waiting to officially ask her or not b/c i was having second thoughts.... here is the link to my original thread:



click me

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Wow your friend took it better than mine. I was deciding whether or not to ask someone also and I decided against it. I had to tell her because she kept hinting at it and basically she told me to f*** off and to have a nice life.

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Posted by kimNanthony

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Posted by TM2008

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Posted by MikeandJess

I don't really get it, she was asked and then you un-asked her to be in the party?

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no i was waiting to officially ask her or not b/c i was having second thoughts.... here is the link to my original thread:



click me

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Wow your friend took it better than mine. I was deciding whether or not to ask someone also and I decided against it. I had to tell her because she kept hinting at it and basically she told me to f*** off and to have a nice life.

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OMG thats horrible im so sorry!!

yeah i have a feeling that she is 'understanding' as of right now, but i feel like she's NOT going to be that way as it gets closer... but she is one of my good friends so its not like i want to just exclude her and not invite her to anything... but then she makes a comment like THAT and i mean, i can understand why she feels that way, but now i just dont know what to think!!!!!

You know I have a real hard time understanding why girls/women feel entitled to come out in each other's weddings.

I don't think you had to explain anything to her. You decided what you decided and she has to accept it.

I hope she will look past this and value your friendship, becuas ein the end, that's what important.

None of my friends are coming out, but they have all offered to help in anything.

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Posted by sassygirl9

You know I have a real hard time understanding why girls/women feel entitled to come out in each other's weddings.

I don't think you had to explain anything to her. You decided what you decided and she has to accept it.

I hope she will look past this and value your friendship, becuas ein the end, that's what important.

None of my friends are coming out, but they have all offered to help in anything.

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i totally agreee!!!!!! i hope she DOES look past this!!!

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Posted by Autumn08

After reading the previous thread this sounds like an example of why you didn't want her in the BP in the first place. I don't know how you should have responded to her initial reaction when you told her but from this point on I wouldn't discuss wedding plans around her. I completely understand why you didn't want he rin your BP, in fact, I agree with you. But from her point of view she is probably very hurt and would be easier in the long run not to discuss wedding related things around her. If you are still friends with her and value this friendship then you will find a way to work things out.

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YES i totally agree with you & thats what i'm going to do!!

thanks everyone!!!

Ouch!! I have to make this sammmmmmmmeeee phone call or convo with one of the girls in my BP also!

I keep putting it off because I feel horrrrrible.

I'm sorry, I don't know what to say!!!

but here's some hugs!

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Posted by Chabellaz830

Ouch!! I have to make this sammmmmmmmeeee phone call or convo with one of the girls in my BP also!

I keep putting it off because I feel horrrrrible.

I'm sorry, I don't know what to say!!!

but here's some hugs!

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awwwww!!! i feel your pain!! if you need some advice on what to say feel free to FM me and i'll let you know how i did it!!