I have 6 BM's. 5 have gotten measured and of course I'm waiting for 1 more. I emailed all the girls in the middle of Feb. saying they had until March 15th to get measured and leave the deposit. They all did except one. She was going to go with my sister and another girl on the 13th of March but had a med. procedure done so she couldn't, fine. She was going to go on her own on the 20th and didn't cuz something came up and she had to drive to Boston for a fam. reason and then lost her cell phone. FINALLY she was supposed to be at my house at 10am on Sat and I would drive her cuz she gets lost ALL THE TIME! My mom and I were waiting at 10am and when 11:30 came we had to leave to do stuff. I called and texted her A LOT and haven't heard from her since I confirmed with her Friday night. I've known this girl since 2nd grade and we grew up together so it's really upsetting that she's doing this. I'm 99% sure she's ok and nothing horrible happened where she couldn't contact me.
I think i'm going to have to write her a email asking if she wants to be involved or not. To just not call or show up on Sat wasn't right.
AngnShaun
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not cool at all... it sounds like she either has really bad luck, or she is avoiding doing it... i would definitely send an email asking if she is still interested
Lsorrent
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Wow A I'm sorry to hear that. Unless something drastic happened, not calling you is inexcusable. I just don't know where people get off doing sh!t like that.
halfbaked
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Wow! That's really annoying!
MrsSx2
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I'm sorry you're going through this with your BM. I think the best thing to do would be to just sit her down and ask her. She is really not acting like she wants to be involved and you don't want someone like that flaking out on you in tast possible minute! JMO. Good luck with this!
mzmahagony
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I'm not a fan of emails, this tent to come off wrong in a n email, this is a convo that should be verbal.
NewYorker09
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That's really sad, I would be very hurt and insulted. I hate confrontation, but I'd probably ask her to step out of the bridal party. That is just really rude and it sounds like you've given her MORE than enough chances to come through. Also, with my BM dresses they wouldn't even place the order until ALL the girls had been measured and left deposits, so one person could seriously screw everything up! I'm sorry you're dealing with this, wedding planning causes so much unneeded DRAMA!!!
Jna2010
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its so annoying when people get their shyt together, theres only so much slack you can give them... id prob do the same
shelbylove918
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wo thats pretty crappy!!! :( I would not be happy at all.. If you say your goin to be somewhere you be there... or else have the decency to call and say you cant make it.. its really rude and you are doin her a favor by going with her.. She is taken away your time cause she's not goin on her own to do something that everyone else in your bridal party did awhile ago.. its def not fair to you and I think you should def have a talk with her. sorry you have to go through this
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You know how I feel.... You also know I went through something sooo similar....
My feeling was for my BM she got the same emails, and texts, and phone calls as everyone else. She said she wanted to be it and never held up her part by getting this stuff done. I wasn't going to beg her to be in my BP.
I would send 1 email and ask if she wants to be in it but I would say if you don't hear back from her in 2 or 3 day.... move on. It's really sad, but we all know you learn who your true friends are while planning a wedding
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Posted by mzmahagony
I'm not a fan of emails, this tent to come off wrong in a n email, this is a convo that should be verbal.
I'd talk to her in person or on the phone if she'd answer!!
mzmahagony
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Posted by AdriandSteve
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I'm not a fan of emails, this tent to come off wrong in a n email, this is a convo that should be verbal.
I'd talk to her in person or on the phone if she'd answer!!
I get that, leave a VM to give you call. The reason I said this is because I was having a similar prob with some1 and I sent a email and it turned into something bigger than what it needed to be. JMO
mariedsgn
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UGGGGGGG!!! I had the same thing it was such a pain I don't get why people do this!
runnerbride1023
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That is really annoying, and you have every right to be fustrated and upset. I think you should try to call her to meet for coffee or something and speak face to face instead of via email.
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I had the SAME problem with my cousin. After six months of practically begging her to get her measurements she is not only NOT a part of my BP but shes uninvited to the wedding.
Im sorry you are going through this. Hang in there. I dont think you are out of line one bit for questioning her intentions.
