UGH!!!--vent!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Did I miss something? why on earth are you allowing this women to control you and your plans this way? Only you can allow this type of treatment. How did she force you to book a band you didn't want? You and your FH once again allowed her to sway your decisioon or annoy you into it- again all within your own control.
Call the salon asap! Tell them that there was a misunderstanding with one of your BMs and that you want ALL of your appointments back the way they were. Also, as the bride remind them that NO ONE but you can change or cancel your appointments.
Right after that you must have your FH get involved. He should call this women (his family, right?) and tell her that she is to stay out of all wedding plans. He needs to make it very, very clear that this is NOT her wedding and you will NOT tolerate any further involvement. And he can even give her a choice- enjoy the wedding day that you are planning or stay home.
In regards to comments that are just plain rude and anti-semetic- do you tell her 'DO NOT speak that way to me or my family'? Do not allow it. When and if she makes a comment, no matter where you are, turn to her and say 'I will not allow you to make such anti-semetic comments to me anymore. I will not have someone like you around me or my family' and walk away. It isn't hard to stand up for yourself. But this is not something you should crying over- you need to act and stop this at once.

oh no!! and now i just fm'd you my bad news (maybe!) too!!


don't let her get to you! you are better than her!!!

My FSIL used to be like that before FH and I were engaged.. I almost didn't have her in my wedding. She always talked down to me (she is 8 years older than me) and blamed me for EVERYTHING, from the bathroom not being clean to much, much worse, turning FMIL against me too. One day I had it and turned around and said to her, 'I am not a child, you have no right to treat me as such, NOR are you in charge of me. Furthermore... ' and I went on to let her HAVE IT because I hadnt done a single thing she accused me of.

She has been good ever since, has turned out to be a wonderful MOH and FSIL, and she is planning my shower. Speak up to her, and if she doesn't change her behavior IMMEDIATELY, boot her out of your BP.

Out of curiosity, where do your FILs stand on this?

Jamie, that is horrible, just take it easy, brush everything she does off your shoulders, and after the wedding don't talk to her ever again~!

What a beatch!!!! i would call the salon and keep your appointments. You may need to tell her off or have FH do it!!! Good Luck!! I'm glad your fitting went well

Geez Jamie...I'm so sorry that you're going through this!!!!
Want me to egg her house???? I will you know!!!!


to you!!!!

OMG!!! i can't believe the nerve of some people!! you definitely need to put a stop to her behavior!! since FI is on your side, i would have him talk to her - it's time for an ultimanum (sp?) - act like a freakin' adult or get the hell out of the BP!!

good luck!!!

OMG Jamie, she is NUTS !!

*sidenote-when I was reading your first post, I thought it said 'I came home to get a massage from...' I was like 'HUH ?? I thought she hated her ??!!' LOL. OK, youre probably like YUCK. Hey, I havent had my coffee yet


I wish you can just kick her out of the BP ! and I cant beleive the salons allowed her to cancel. They should wait to hear from the bride

I hope Frankie can stand up to her. Otherwise, I'll have to chew her up and spit her out.

you know i understnad what having a sister ruin your day is like so if you need me.....i am here at liw, er.... work all day!!