UGH!!! Why can't everyone get along

jpavig Posted: Mar 10, 2005 06:33 PM

UGH!!! Why can't everyone get along

So I asked my sister my MOH to try to plan my bridal shower earlier in the summer because of financial reasons for my BP. We have 2 other weddings with in 3 months of mine so I didn't want everyone to be stressed financially. So I have FH calling me to make sure that MOH involves FMIL. He keeps telling me to make sure I tell her this and tell her that. Make sure it's not at this place or that place. Then I have MOH saying she's not going to let FMIL start dicating stuff.

WHY ARE THEY INVOLVING ME????? I'm not supposed to have anything to do with this right?

I don't care where it is, I don't care who plans it, I don't care who pays for it. Just leave me alone and do it.

That felt good. Sorry for the rant!!!

ckgmwedding Posted: Mar 10, 2005 06:42 PM

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Completely agree! Justified Rant!

angelbear217 Posted: Mar 10, 2005 06:45 PM

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OMG! I went through the same thing. I had to get involved in my shower because my MOH and my BMs weren't agreeing on stuff. It's my shower, I don't want to know anything about it. Act like adults and work it out. I totally know where you are coming from!!! They need to leave you out of this!

PrincessPeanut Posted: Mar 10, 2005 07:01 PM

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Jpavig I am so sorry you are going through this. I am in the same situation and its ridiculous. Everyone should just be able to do things peacefully for one damn day for someone who is supposed to be one of their best friends. It stinks. I hope it all works out for you.

MrsA814 Posted: Mar 10, 2005 07:03 PM

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Right you are no suppose to be in it. You can rant all you want

chachou22 Posted: Mar 10, 2005 07:04 PM

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I know how you feel

jpavig Posted: Mar 10, 2005 07:49 PM

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I am going to try to nip this one in the bud. If it gets out of control I am going to sit with MOH and FMIL and tell them both to figure it out together and to leave me and FH out of it! I can see it now, it'll cause fighting between us and I just can't deal with that now.

Jamie&MarkSept.'05 Posted: Mar 10, 2005 08:01 PM

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I feel your pain...my Mom was asking me if it was OK if we have it at home or if I want to have it out. She said she is leaning towards having it at home, which is completely fine with me, but now I know where it will be, which I hate!

I have never had a surprise party and was looking forward to the idea of being surprised and now I feel like I won't be at all!

JPC1125 Posted: Mar 10, 2005 08:50 PM

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i feel like the total opposite of you all...i want to know when it is so i can be ready and look pretty

and im scared that if im not involved, then moh, my mom or fmil who really dont know my style at all, wont give me something ill enjoy.

So im telling FH what id like and hes giving everyone 'clues' as to what i want to have

micmar Posted: Mar 10, 2005 08:50 PM

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stupid nonsense - wedding planning takes to bring out the 'best' in everyone.

attn2details Posted: Mar 10, 2005 09:11 PM

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I hear you - as if you don't have enough things to plan!! I think it is very smart of you to tell them sooner than later - maybe they don't realize the effect of their actions - don't let it get you too upset - it will be fun in the end

jimmysgrl Posted: Mar 11, 2005 08:47 AM

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You yell at the top of your lungs and say: LEAVE ME OUT OF IT! And hand your FH your MOH phone number

AnniesSS Posted: Mar 11, 2005 10:15 AM

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Ugh It must be an epidemic I just got a rant from my mom this morning about my shower. My sis is my MOH and my FSIL and FMIL are suuposed to be 'helping' her with the setup and whatnot. Well apparently, FMIL or FSIL is trying to change the plans or tell my sister what should/shouldn't be done and my sis is NOT someone you can boss around. She is the only one in the BP and is determined to do things her way.... but she goes and rants to my mom - who is not doing anything cause she can't keep a secret and won't know the day of the shower until that morning - and she's coming to me and complaining!!! I DON'T WANNA KNOW!!!

So FH gets the job of calling everyone and calming down cause my mom can't and I don't want to.... and if I get involved, I will take over the planning and no one will have any decisions.

Sorry to hijack your thread.... I just got off the phone with FH filling him in about my story and then read your thread and it got me going again

Dooodles Posted: Mar 11, 2005 10:34 AM

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sorry they are doing this to you. I ended up in tears telling my family I no longer wanted a shower. That got them to straighten out and figure it out on their own!