Umm, ok the question no one will ask...

Original post by Noiva06

Jun 23, 2005 11:12 AM

Ok...I don't mean to pry and get all in your private business... I was just curious as to what other couples are doing today....

IF YOU DON'T FEEL COMFORTABLE ANSWERING THEIS QUESTION, THAN DON'T.

Are putting off 'being intimate' with your FI anytime before the wedding day? In other words, are you not having sex or not being intimate with your fiance for a specified amount of time before your wedding? If so, how long?

nala3378 Posted: Jun 23, 2005 04:37 PM

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We discussed it, but I don't think we will last...

Friends of our are getting married this weekend and they decided 6 months that they were going to hold off until the wedding night...

They slipped up 1 & 1/2 times....

I don't even want to know the 1/2...

Kerrycec Posted: Jun 23, 2005 04:40 PM

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yes, since our wedding is march, we are starting no nookie rules after New Years Day. So about 2 months. Why not feel special that day.

nala3378 Posted: Jun 23, 2005 04:42 PM

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We can't do that...

MY FI's 29th b-day is 3 days before our wedding... It just isn't fair...

SuzBride Posted: Jun 23, 2005 04:43 PM

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We haven't even talked about it! I think if we do hold out it would be max 2 months, but I think we will definitely do about a week. I live at home now (and my parents are strict) and he's been living in my basement (long story) so holding out 2 months will be NO problem at all

Mariec Posted: Jun 23, 2005 04:44 PM

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ok dont take this the wrong way everyone is entitled to there own opinion but taken a week or a month apart.. how does that make it more special then every other time? My FH and I will be taking no time off.. I will be stressing as is and so will he so why neglect ourselves

summer06bride Posted: Jun 23, 2005 04:46 PM

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Posted by JessicaM.

I am..and it's not on purpose, believe me! LOL we just never have time for it as much anymore!!!!

Thought I was the only one having this problem

Tommylove Posted: Jun 23, 2005 04:48 PM

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Posted by summer06bride

Posted by JessicaM.

I am..and it's not on purpose, believe me! LOL we just never have time for it as much anymore!!!!

Glad I am not alone

Me too, I'm sure my FH will be happy to hear that he isn't the only 'deprived' FH.

SIBride06 Posted: Jun 23, 2005 06:38 PM

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Posted by nala3378

We discussed it, but I don't think we will last...

Friends of our are getting married this weekend and they decided 6 months that they were going to hold off until the wedding night...

They slipped up 1 & 1/2 times....

I don't even want to know the 1/2...

lol

I dont know about us....
He might turn into a beast or something and attack me
No matter what, the honeymoon will be special.. Your going to be in a totally different type of enviornment (mostl likely in a romantic setting) the mood will be there and it will be special. I have no doubt.

sarahthegreat Posted: Jun 23, 2005 06:42 PM

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probably the week before - mainly for lack of time, not lack of need. and honestly, it helps RELIEVE stress, so to me there is no reason not to do it

soontobemrsv Posted: Jun 23, 2005 07:04 PM

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we are going to try, who knows if that will work...lol

shellnroc Posted: Jun 23, 2005 07:40 PM

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I never even thought about this or discussed it with FH. I doubt we will do it deliberately. I think whether you have sex the night before you are married (not that I will who the hell will have time) your wedding night will be special.
But maybe I'll run it by FH just to see what he says. lol
There have been times we haven't been intimate for a period of time since our schedules are so different.

conigs25 Posted: Jun 23, 2005 07:49 PM

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NO WAY!!! With all that stress surrounding the wedding, I will need some kind of release

steflily Posted: Jun 23, 2005 08:07 PM

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We haven't talked about it but I doubt it. FH and I are at opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to sex drive (guess which side he's on? ). I couldn't do that to him if I was actually in the mood.

MrsStefan Posted: Jun 23, 2005 08:19 PM

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I would like to hold off as of the 1st of October..the wedding is October 14th. He says no, but I think we should. I am sure we will talk about it some more once it gets closer

beachgirl558 Posted: Jun 23, 2005 08:36 PM

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I think it is a very interesting question and one that my FI and I have actually discussed. We are a little older (in our 30's) and by the time of our wedding we will have been living together for 6 months. So, we decided to spend the night before our wedding apart and I won't see him until I walk down the isle...but as far as the rest...I think we will need to be with each other to help ease stress and feel close to each other during that time.

M&LSept1606 Posted: Jun 23, 2005 08:42 PM

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if I even mentioned this, I don't think he would marry me.

no, just kidding.

But seriously, we definitely are not holding out.

Steph62406 Posted: Jun 23, 2005 08:44 PM

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We have a 3 year old who never wants to go to bed, so when ever I can get it I'm happy. So as far as waiting I don't think so!!!!

marymoon Posted: Jun 23, 2005 09:33 PM

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lol..you mean we're supposed to be ahving sex? what is sex? I think I lost it somewhere..I'll check under the couch!

No. jk. We were thinking from 1-3 months

06NovBride Posted: Jun 23, 2005 11:19 PM

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We haven't really discussed it, but I don't think we'll hold out. I think it might happen accidentally the week or so before the wedding, just with all the running around and planning. We shall see.