why do they still get so surprised and talk cr@p when fh tells them i wont be coming to their annual mother's day dinner....
i said it before and i'll say it again
i have a mother, and i want to spend mother's day w/her..... leave me alone
Becca2010
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What is wrong with people?
I bet they said something like, 'Well, bring your mother too!'
Sounds like my FILs. Annoying.
latinaj
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What is wrong with people?
I bet they said something like, 'Well, bring your mother too!'
Sounds like my FILs. Annoying.
fh just called me and asked why cant i just go for a little... ummmm bc ure going 1.5 hrs away.... geeeesh
this is the 4th mothers day we go through this.... dont they get it yet?
and what is my mom who speaks no english supposed to do w/polish women who also speak no english?
ummm no thx
MR1223
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can you and FH split up the day? like the morning with one side of the family and the rest of the day with the other side?
Becca2010
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Posted by Becca2010
What is wrong with people?
I bet they said something like, 'Well, bring your mother too!'
Sounds like my FILs. Annoying.
fh just called me and asked why cant i just go for a little... ummmm bc ure going 1.5 hrs away.... geeeesh
this is the 4th mothers day we go through this.... dont they get it yet?
and what is my mom who speaks no english supposed to do w/polish women who also speak no english?
ummm no thx
That's riDONKulous! I get that people want the families to get along and be friendly, but making them feel awkward and uncomfortable shouldn't be a part of that.
latinaj
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can you and FH split up the day? like the morning with one side of the family and the rest of the day with the other side?
no... unfortunately our fams live far away from ea other... (1.5 hrs) and mother's day is like an all day event... my mom is cool w/not seeing him lol... she has never asked me 'why isnt dave coming'....his mom is the only needy one in this relationship
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What are you going to do when you're married? You and FH are going to have to figure out a way to split up all the different holidays. Can you start hosting mothers day and have everyone come to you? That's what we do so that way we both spend the day with both of our mothers.
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Posted by Lsorrent
What are you going to do when you're married? You and FH are going to have to figure out a way to split up all the different holidays. Can you start hosting mothers day and have everyone come to you? That's what we do so that way we both spend the day with both of our mothers.
ITA. I don't think it's a good idea to spend the holidays seperately, it's already become an issue and can only turn into resentment later on in your marriage. I say figure a way for both of you to celebrate with BOTH moms. She is going to be your mother in law after all. If traveling in a span of one day is too hard, try to see if you can celebrate with one mom the day before or after.
latinaj
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other holidays are ok...its just mothers/fathers day
we figured otu we'll make compromise when we have children.
Jna2010
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yeah that gets tough if you cant split the day, they should def understand why youwouldnt be able to join them though, i mean would they like it for your fh left his mom high and dry on mommies day?
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i don't know. my stance is that... you should try to work it out so you can split it. if you're close enough - see both moms in one day. OR... see your mom this year. his mom next year.
in a few years you won't have to deal with this cuz you'll have your own kids and the grandmas can come TO YOU.
