I have a ton of girls I would love to have as BMs - we grew up together, partied together and have stayed in touch through the years. FH wants to only ask his very best of friends to be a part of our wedding.
What do you girls think of a bridal party where the girls out-number the guys by say three or so?
Also, a few of our BM and GM will be couples and there are a few single girls who I already know will give me a hard time about walking in solo. How do you deal with this? Do I just pick a smaller number to avoid not having couples or complaints?
msabla1
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I was an odd bridesmaid out when I was in a wedding party 10 years ago.. It's no big deal. When it was time to enter the reception, me & the other odd BM escorted a GM in. We had more BM's then GM.
However, some may feel out of place in the pictures. Personally, it didn't bother me.
msflesch
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I have 8 BM and my FH has 5 GM I do not see a problem and did not want to cut anyone out!
PegaLega
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We had an uneven BP, one more guy then girl...we just had one girl walk with 2 guys. I think if you want to make your BMs then dont sweat the numbers
DGoldfarb0776
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IMO uneven parties are not too bad- you can even have two ladies walk down with one guy so it looks nice still- for a while I was having an uneven bridal party and I didn't really care that it was the guys that outnumbered the girls.
FalNBill
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Do what you want... it's your day.... my bp is HUGE and up until about a week ago I had more ladies than guys... and it really didnt bother me..
robinandjoe
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We had an extra girl...so we paired up one GM with 2 BM's...he LOVED it! They were so funny coming into the reception. It looked great...it's your wedding, so have who you want!!!
Nicola22
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My sister is having more girls than guys, I dont mind walking in by myself. I dont think its a big deal.
lyss0908
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I have 10 BM and he has 7 GM Since i have 2 MOH the BM is walking with both on the way back- they will each walk solo down the aisle and then we will have another2 GM with 2 BM
I don't think its a big deal
bemyyoko
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my girls out number his guys. i think it's fine. and i have ocd so you'd think it would bother me but it doesnt
Kristina2009
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Thanks girls. Glad to hear this is not uncommon!
lonal
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I will be having uneven numbers and some are couples. couples are walking down together and I'm doubling up the other ones.
HeatherRose
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i had an uneven # and we had 2 girls to one guy, and it actually looked cute!!!
tlp123
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We also have 2 girls to 1 guy in the bridal party.
JennNicole
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It is very common to do this. I had two BM and one BM. It worked out fine. My girls walked alone during the Processional and the Recessional I had my MOH walk w/the BM - who is my DH dad and the other BM walk w/my Dad who is divorced from Mom so he didn't walk alone.
My point is that there are options If the girls feel strange about walking alone you can have them walk with some close family member for the Recessional and or pair two girls up together.
Remember this is Your day - do it however you like and don't let others dictate to you how things should be done. You only get 1 shot at it and it is over as fast as you can blink an eye!
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we had an unven party---i had 1 BM and 1 MOH and Dh has 2 GMs and 1 BM. worked out fine. DH and i both wanted only the ABSOLUTE closest friends that are dearest to our hearts to stand with us that day....for me, that is who your BP should be. people that mean everything to you and you are asking to stand beside you on the biggest day of your life
just a little word of advice---remember...i don't care how close and wonderful your friendship has been thru the years......MANY THINGS CAN CHANGE when you ask someone to be in your BP.....especially with women!! the more girls, the more drama that can happen. especially when you have a year or more to go--and you ask someone to be in the BP--a lot of emotions can change in a year.....so just keep this in mind when you ask any of your GFs to be in the party.
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Posted by MJDoc12
we had an unven party---i had 1 BM and 1 MOH and Dh has 2 GMs and 1 BM. worked out fine. DH and i both wanted only the ABSOLUTE closest friends that are dearest to our hearts to stand with us that day....for me, that is who your BP should be. people that mean everything to you and you are asking to stand beside you on the biggest day of your life
just a little word of advice---remember...i don't care how close and wonderful your friendship has been thru the years......MANY THINGS CAN CHANGE when you ask someone to be in your BP.....especially with women!! the more girls, the more drama that can happen. especially when you have a year or more to go--and you ask someone to be in the BP--a lot of emotions can change in a year.....so just keep this in mind when you ask any of your GFs to be in the party.
Thanks you for the advice. I definetely understand what you mean in terms of female drama. I am very low key and my girlfirends already seem to assume they will be part of the wedding and are picking out dresses! I planned to hold off but they all seem to be wedding planning for me!
sunflwr06
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I think thats fine. Thats how it will be for my fh and myself. I may have two bridesmaids walk down together and my moh right before me.
zoe282
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I am having 6 girls and FH is having 8 guys. I don't think it's fair to ask 1 partner to cut out some of his or her friends just to be even. I don't think it's a big deal at all. it should be about who you want to stand up with you on your day.
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i think its actually really common for the bridal parties to be uneven nowadays. in my cousins wedding i walked down the aisle with 2 guys and it didnt bother me at all. you could also have all the GM waiting up at the alter and just have all the bm walk down solo if you wanted to.
