uninvited guests ** WITH UPDATE

collywoll19 Posted: Jan 23, 2007 04:49 PM

uninvited guests ** WITH UPDATE

UH OH - I got my first response where someone wrote that their baby will be attending (when it specifically said 'Mr. and Mrs.' on the envelope)
I have to call her and address it - just wondering how other people have handled this.
It's not an option - I have 30 cousins and 20 second cousins...waaay too many to not set an age limit (which we set at 13). We can't make exceptions, so any help with dealing with this call would be greatly appreciated

UPDATE** I spoke with my cousin and she was totally understanding. She said that she was already trying to make arrangements, but said that she would definately get in touch with me if she needed help. I am soooooooo relieved!! Thank you all for your encouragement and advice

bettybcafe Posted: Jan 23, 2007 04:51 PM

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Yikes...havent sent out any invites..but I am also afraid of this happening..even tho you write MR and MRS...they dont get it sometimes..

eperlman Posted: Jan 23, 2007 04:52 PM

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Wow... that's a weird situation. I agree with you... No kids! We want everyone to be themselves and have a good time, which means lots of drinking and dancing.
Best thing to do is call them and say that you're sorry, but there's no kids. I'm totally looking forward to having you guys... yada, yada, yada.

vmystique33 Posted: Jan 23, 2007 04:56 PM

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Posted by eperlman

Wow... that's a weird situation. I agree with you... No kids! We want everyone to be themselves and have a good time, which means lots of drinking and dancing.
Best thing to do is call them and say that you're sorry, but there's no kids. I'm totally looking forward to having you guys... yada, yada, yada.

I agree!! I just hope your not dealing with one of those pushy people!!

cbunnie66 Posted: Jan 23, 2007 04:56 PM

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I know it's too late for you... but I plan on having it state 'Adult Reception following...' I know my friend did that. Sorry that you have to deal with this

HamptonsBride Posted: Jan 23, 2007 04:58 PM

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Posted by cbunnie66

I know it's too late for you... but I plan on having it state 'Adult Reception following...' I know my friend did that. Sorry that you have to deal with this

me too...and we have spread the word thru FH's family that kids are not invited..but we will have babysitting for OOTers with kids

bettybcafe Posted: Jan 23, 2007 05:00 PM

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Posted by cbunnie66

I know it's too late for you... but I plan on having it state 'Adult Reception following...' I know my friend did that. Sorry that you have to deal with this

That is a great idea.

lisalisa27 Posted: Jan 23, 2007 05:00 PM

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You have to nip that in a bud quick. I dont blame you.

CKJ906 Posted: Jan 23, 2007 05:05 PM

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Hey Colleen

Like the girl above just wrote..you def have to nip that in the butt!! Let them get a babysitter, IMO a wedding is not a place for babies!!

How are the responses coming along?? I heard the invitations are beautiful!

MJDoc12 Posted: Jan 23, 2007 05:05 PM

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just be firm. remember, they will guilt you into letting them bring kids. if you don't want them...make sure they understand it and stay by your decision!!!

SusanAdam Posted: Jan 23, 2007 05:11 PM

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I am sorry to hear this is happening to you. I can't imagine how frustrating it must be and I know my time will come for it too. We have a lot of cousins with little kids all under the age of 5 and will barely have any room left in our room if most of the people rsvp that they are coming. I have my parents and FILs on my side with this, but they all warned me to expect some bad attitudes about my cousin's little ones not being invited. I have to agree with the above posts...a wedding is not a place for babies or really young kids. I think they would be much happier staying with a babysitter than being stuck at a wedding late at night. I can't understand why people aren't more understanding of this. I hope they don't give you a hard time.

TLC1018 Posted: Jan 23, 2007 07:37 PM

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You definitely have to call them and explain it to them!!!

Pencils Posted: Jan 23, 2007 07:43 PM

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can't understand why people aren't more understanding of this.

People aren't more understanding because although they totally understand that other people's kids are annoying and get into trouble, their little angels can only be an asset to a party--any party. Also, they're too cheap to get babysitters. Mostly the second part. I don't get it myself. When I was a child, my parents were desperate to get out without us! Their problem was they couldn't afford a babysitter very often. Not enough, anyway, to get away from us brats.

SoulMates422 Posted: Jan 23, 2007 07:44 PM

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Thats a tight one.... I handed over my list and invites to my planner so if someone RSVP for more seats than alloted she will call them and explain that its by invites only for those named on the envelope... This is a situation that I want to avoid.

Future Mrs. Posted: Jan 23, 2007 07:45 PM

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Yes, I had this happen.....twice.
I called the guest and explained that we are not inviting their children. We'd love to, but simply cannot do it and can only have adults and children who are immediate family there. The setting is not appropriate for kids.