Unwanted Guest???

If you read the back story here where it says #2: FH's 'friend' you'll know what Im talking about.

That same friend that pretty much ditched us before we even made it to FL has decided to come back into the picture and sent FH Myspace messages, apologizing AGAIN and saying how their broken up AGAIN and he realizes the error of his ways AGAIN. Not only that, he pretty much invited himself to our wedding!!!! We sent an invite to his mom and her HUSBAND. But apparently her guest now is him. He already took time off from work and is flying in from Florida (supposedly, who knows he'll probably get back with her on May 23rd and not show up).

I honestly dont really want him there. Its going to cause aloooot of tension with FH, him and the rest of his friends. There are about 5-6 other guys that used to be friends with him that will be at the wedding and they have nothing but negative things to say about him. Im just afraid they wont have a good time because he's there.

wow thats a rough situation but I totally agree with you- I dont see how your fh can let him back into his life- seems like he keeps making the same mistake over and over & is not learning from it- I am not sure how you can tell his mom not to bring him- awkward- good luck & keep us updated

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Posted by Maria31

If I were in this situation, I'd have FH call him and let him know how he feels about him coming to the wedding. It's going to cause a LOT of tension and if you don't want him there on the biggest day of your life, then he shouldn't be there!!

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im not sure how FH feels about this. in the heat of the situation last summer, fh insisted that he would never talk to him again but he actually responded to his messages so who knows. i just know once he tells his other friends that hes coming, their going to give him a hard time.

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Posted by LnF0405

Why dont you tell FH to send him a message saying that to prevent problem he will prefer if he do not attend the wedding

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yea but im not sure if fh doesnt want him to come. i would tell him myself i dont want him coming but i dont wanna come off as a cranky bridezilla when its really up to fh

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Posted by jennandrolo

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Posted by Maria31

If I were in this situation, I'd have FH call him and let him know how he feels about him coming to the wedding. It's going to cause a LOT of tension and if you don't want him there on the biggest day of your life, then he shouldn't be there!!

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im not sure how FH feels about this. in the heat of the situation last summer, fh insisted that he would never talk to him again but he actually responded to his messages so who knows. i just know once he tells his other friends that hes coming, their going to give him a hard time.

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Oh man! So sorry you have ot deal with this BS!
It really is FH's place to let the guy know the deal, since he is his ex-friend.. Why would he even want to be there if he knew that no one likes him!?! Some people are unbelievable!
Good Luck! This is a tough situation!

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Posted by empressdani

I'm so sorry Ihave a similar situation so I can kinda understand how you feel. It sux that people just think they can just walk in and out of your life. If he comes things become about 'I can't believe X is here' & people look for your interaction. I say be cordial, don't sweat it people will take your and FH's lead on how to respond to the 'friend'

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i hope his friends are smart enough to not make a big deal about it.

that's a tough situation. It will be up to your FH to decide if he 'un-invites' his former friend. clearly this friend thinks he is doing the right thing by attending...trying to make ammends. what is your relationship with the mother.. will it cause problems for family if her son is uninvited??

if he does attend with his mom.. just plan if possible to seat them at a grownup table away from the former friends. You should not worry how the guests will interact... at best they should just put up with him for your benefit... or ignore him.

best of luck

just spoke to fh....he only wants to let him come so he can get $ out of him men!