UPDATE (a little long) need some advice: ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhahhhhhhhhhhh

blu6385 Posted: Dec 21, 2006 08:19 PM

UPDATE (a little long) need some advice: ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhahhhhhhhhhhh

i am in sucha horrible mood ... MOH totally pissing me off .... long story short we've know each other for voer 17 years were suppose tob really good firends well i feel sometime she could give to shits less that were friends ... FH is getting on my nerves ... xmas is putting sstress on me ... wedding stress ... i just cant take anymore today .... i just want to screammmmmmmmmmmm..................aaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ...
ok sorry had to let that out ... i must get off for the night ... hopefully soon i'll be able to spend more time on this site so ican get my count up night all ...
UPDATE: ANOTHER HORRIBLE DAY!!!

Ok so my MOH has told me that she no longer wants to be friends with me ... the short version of the story ... yeah i am a btich everyone knows it .. but the reason why i am a ***** is because i speak the truth ... well she coulndt handle me telling her so now she doesnt want to be my friend ... honestly i really could care less right now ... she will probably get over it one day soon ... but here my real problem ... now lets note that though i am a ***** i was actually very nice about what i had to say she just obviously couldnt handle it ... you really need to read the email chain to see what i am sayin ... well anyway she had the nerve to try to hurt my feelings so she wrote to me that shes thinks that my marriage isnt going to last very long and that FH is going to leave me and shes been thinking this for a while ... now it didnt hurt my feelings and i could really honeslty not care about her opionon the girl never had a seriuos relationship ... ok so the problem even if we do make up and she aplogises there is no way i am keeping her MOH she still can be a Bridesmaid but there is no way she will stay MOH .. i dont think my MOH should ever think something like that ... so now how do i ask one of my bridesmaids to be MOH without insulting them?????

cherish83 Posted: Dec 21, 2006 08:33 PM

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Feel better!!! Maybe MoH is jealous that your engaged. But we are here to listen to you vent. Lord knows we've all done it before and will have many more in within the next 2 years!

Espo22 Posted: Dec 21, 2006 08:34 PM

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yeah trust me we all have those moments...I am having them now too. Just don't let it get to you too much and try to enjoy the holidays.

DonnaM Posted: Dec 21, 2006 08:34 PM

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awwww feel better

megzzie Posted: Dec 21, 2006 09:02 PM

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I'm so sorry to hear that you're having one of those days - I had a lot of those days last week since it was finals, so I know how you feel! Try and take a nice long bubble bath. Feel better!

Collweenie21 Posted: Dec 21, 2006 09:04 PM

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I'm having one too. My mom who ain't helping us pay for jack, is hounding me for the $125 car insurance. I feel like telling her to shove it... we have to put a down payment for the eparty real soon.

MillerFord742008 Posted: Dec 21, 2006 09:13 PM

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Girl dont worry I had a day like that too yesterday I didnt know what to do with myself. And I was stressing myself out!

blu6385 Posted: Dec 22, 2006 10:33 PM

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ohhh and thank you all for your support yesterday!!!

Shell84 Posted: Dec 22, 2006 11:09 PM

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your story sound a bit similar to what I'm going through right.
just ignore her, it's the best you can do.

AMGBride2008 Posted: Dec 23, 2006 10:02 AM

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First of all.... sorry your are going thru all of this added stress.... it'll all work itself out.
Second... even if she does come back around, I'm not sure that I would even have her as a BM. I wouldn't want someone standing up there next to me who doesn't have faith in the vows that I am taking with the man that I love.... that's just me though.
Third.... do you know who you would ask to replace her? Be honest, tell her that you had a lapse in judgement when choosing the MOH, and since she's not going to work out, you want to make sure the next MOH who you choose will be there for you and that's why you're choosing her.

Good luck!

Snowflake08 Posted: Dec 23, 2006 10:13 AM

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Posted by AMGBride2008

First of all.... sorry your are going thru all of this added stress.... it'll all work itself out.
Second... even if she does come back around, I'm not sure that I would even have her as a BM. I wouldn't want someone standing up there next to me who doesn't have faith in the vows that I am taking with the man that I love.... that's just me though.
Third.... do you know who you would ask to replace her? Be honest, tell her that you had a lapse in judgement when choosing the MOH, and since she's not going to work out, you want to make sure the next MOH who you choose will be there for you and that's why you're choosing her.

Good luck!

very well said

good luck!

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Dec 23, 2006 10:39 AM

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I'm sorry..thats sounds really immature and shes probably jealous of the fact your engaged and of the love you and your fh share..forget about her..shes not worth it..and I wouldn't feel bad about letting her know that you felt hurt (if you did) and that you don't want her to be the moh

megzzie Posted: Dec 23, 2006 11:27 AM

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Posted by AMGBride2008

First of all.... sorry your are going thru all of this added stress.... it'll all work itself out.
Second... even if she does come back around, I'm not sure that I would even have her as a BM. I wouldn't want someone standing up there next to me who doesn't have faith in the vows that I am taking with the man that I love.... that's just me though.
Third.... do you know who you would ask to replace her? Be honest, tell her that you had a lapse in judgement when choosing the MOH, and since she's not going to work out, you want to make sure the next MOH who you choose will be there for you and that's why you're choosing her.

Good luck!

My ideas exactly!

blu6385 Posted: Dec 23, 2006 07:27 PM

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thank you all so much!!!!!!

blu6385 Posted: Dec 23, 2006 07:38 PM

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Posted by AMGBride2008

First of all.... sorry your are going thru all of this added stress.... it'll all work itself out.
Second... even if she does come back around, I'm not sure that I would even have her as a BM. I wouldn't want someone standing up there next to me who doesn't have faith in the vows that I am taking with the man that I love.... that's just me though.
Third.... do you know who you would ask to replace her? Be honest, tell her that you had a lapse in judgement when choosing the MOH, and since she's not going to work out, you want to make sure the next MOH who you choose will be there for you and that's why you're choosing her.

Good luck!

oh and thank you for the advice you gave me on how to ask my new MOH its perfect!!!!