Update bday/5 million post contest kinda gave me an idea

Yesterday FH asked me what I wanted for my bday. He was saying how bad he was at buying gifts and he just wanted for me to tell him what I wanted. He mentioned a few things but I wasn't really interested in anything. We went into the city last year. We did a show for his bday too. I figured been there done that.

I'm sooooo bad at asking for things and I almost never buy things that I want for myself. I feel like the money could be spent in better ways.I don't like anyone to make a fuss and go out of their way. I honestly don't like him to overdo it and I feel guilty when I get gifts.

I was planning on let him surprise me anyway but then I started to think.....Since I'm positive I didn't win the contest and I've always wanted an Ipod or mp3 player.....why not let him do that for my bday.

Question is, how do I let HIM think he came up with the idea?

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Now my vent. So now my bday has passed.

I know its not about gifts and this is probably really selfish of me to say. I tried to hint about the ipod/mp3 and how dissapointed I was that I didn't win the contest. How I really would have liked one yada yada yada

Stupidly I made the mistake of saying, 'OH I don't really need anything for my birthday'. BIG mistake. FH tends to take thins literally and doesn't get the fact that while I might say it, that's not really what I mean. He gave me a card for my bday, a Bingo scratch off and nothing else. I really need to learn to say what I mean. I should have outright told him what I wanted for my bday.

Admittedly he took me to dinner twice this week for my bday, which was really nice (and not exactly inexpnsive). Last weekend we went to a wine and cheese place in the city, and on my actual bday we went out with some friends.

Again a part of me wanted an actual gift or flowers. I'm not going to say anything to him because I know its selfish to give him a guilt trip.

I usually just tell FH what I want, especially if he asks or hint at a it a million times!

Have you mentioned this contest to him? and how it would be so great to win b/c it would be nice to have an mp3 player??

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Posted by bigrd37

I usually just tell FH what I want, especially if he asks or hint at a it a million times!

Have you mentioned this contest to him? and how it would be so great to win b/c it would be nice to have an mp3 player??

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He was sitting next to me last night while I was typing away. I was getting all antsy and excited but I wish I had hinted more then but I didn't really THINK of it until now.

I should probably just tell him but I figured it would be an esteem thing if he 'thought' of it himself.

i understand, we all want them to feel good and proud of themselves! hehe...

i don't know when your birthday is, but i'm sure you will have time to mention the contest again. or maybe if you happen to be looking at an mp3 player online, in a magazine, etc and show him or casually mention it. when the moment is right you'll know or just work it into a conversation. i'm not the best at that, but somehow i always manage to do it!

good luck!!!

I hope you get your mp3 player!!

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Posted by bigrd37

i understand, we all want them to feel good and proud of themselves! hehe...

i don't know when your birthday is, but i'm sure you will have time to mention the contest again. or maybe if you happen to be looking at an mp3 player online, in a magazine, etc and show him or casually mention it. when the moment is right you'll know or just work it into a conversation. i'm not the best at that, but somehow i always manage to do it!

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My bday is in 2 weeks. Man I feel old. I say i'm still 21 but i'll officially be in my 30's (31). I'm really not a fan of my bday.

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Posted by davenjess

On Tuesday let him know how upset you are that you lost the ipod... make a big to-do about it...

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good idea!!

I agree with making a big to-do about not winning the ipod...

Say that your so upset you lost, you weren't really expecting to win..but you would have absolutly loved having an ipod..you were even planning your perfect playlist..hehe :)

Definately talk about the contest, maybe how bummed you were that you didn't win cause you could have used a MP3 player?

good luck, I hope he gets the hint.

FH and I usually talk about what we want ahead of time and we tell eachother were gonna drop hints and to pay attention. Im sorry you didnt get what you want but men are retarded sometimes. On a lighter note, I bet if you won a million dollars from that bingo card you would have been ecstatic

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Posted by Songstress1212

FH and I usually talk about what we want ahead of time and we tell eachother were gonna drop hints and to pay attention. Im sorry you didnt get what you want but men are retarded sometimes. On a lighter note, I bet if you won a million dollars from that bingo card you would have been ecstatic

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I like that, men are retarded.....Unfortunately the card was a dud. I didn't win anything.

LMAO