Update on bottome: Need women advise especially if you are married to a man in uniform. Sorry Long

Original post by idovig

Aug 29, 2006 11:48 AM

Hello ladies! As you know I got married in July and when we got back from honeymoon, DH was transferred to a different precint. He was kind of fine with that but he was happy he wasn't on foot anymore he drives the police car now and on top of that he leaves to go to work at 9:30 pm and comes home at 9AM (I would be at work already). So I only see him when I get home to make dinner at 6:30-9:30. I miss him in bed with me but I know that is part of the job so whatever. He also wanted that time slot for he won't have to deal with a lot of Sargents.

Ok now that you know the background here is the dilema, he has been acting very weird like if he's irritated about something or me. I asked him what's wrong and he says he's fine. But ladies you know when your man acts different. I'm thinking it's the shift change because all I see him do is sleep and play Play Station. When I try to have time with him I feel ignored. Or If I give him a hug and a kiss I feel he doesn't want to hug me. Maybe I'm looking to into it. Should I not ask him anymore questions and shut up and see what happens? I feel like I did something but he says i didn't do anything and that he is fine. I have been crying every night because I feel bad if his schedule is irritating him and he just doesn't want to tell me.

Any Advise?

autumn Posted: Aug 30, 2006 03:10 PM

Re: Update on bottome: Need women advise especially if you are married to a man in uniform. Sorry Long

My FH is a FDNY and his schedule always changes. Its hard that I don't see him, and when I do there are times where he can be moody because of his shifts. Working a 24 hr shift isn't easy but he loves his job. After the wedding will be our first test in living together for the first time. I am scared and excited at the same time. I don't know what its going to be like because I work nights and he works both days and nights.

And Yes I agree with the other ladies are saying, it is a new relationship as husband and wife. He needs to learn how to open up/comunicate with you. Good luck