update thanks ladies
hey everyone thanks for all of your advice it was greatly apreciated! I actually made an appointment with a therapist last night. He agreed to go, we talked alot of our issues out and everything is so much better!!!!!! I think he just needed to say things to a bias person and have it explained in a way that I would understand(he is not very good about getting things across when he is upset) and we resolved alot of things yesterday. Thanks again ladies i REALLY APRECIATED IT