Updated: Im feeling guilty. (kinda long) Sorry.

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So on Thursday we made definate plans for Today to have lunch and talk.
Well yesterday right before i left the office she called me to tell me she forget her son had a dentist appt!

So our lunch was canceled!

I feel like nothing is going to change!!!



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I have a sister …. Well its my half sister. We were always close growing up.
A few years ago she got married and had a baby. After he was born we drifted apart.
(She pulled herself away from the family)
We did not talk for about 2 and half years.
Now we are trying to get our bond back. (Thanks to MySpace.) But it has been a very slow process.
The last time I saw her was in February at our engagement party.
We are just both very busy me with the wedding and work and her with work and the baby.

When my FH and I were going over who we were going to be putting in our bridal party she never came up on our list.
Now im feeling bad that I have not asked her to be a part of it.

Our wedding is in 5 months and now I feel like I want to ask her to be a bridesmaid.
I also had a bridesmaid drop out back in February, and she does know that but I don’t want her to think im asking her to be part of it bc I have an open space.
I really would like have her involved in our day. But I don’t want her to feel like I'm asking her out of pity.
I don’t know what to do. Please help!!!
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Posted by JozyLee123

explain it to her exactly how you explained it to us. I think she will understand.. Maybe if you write her a letter it will be easier.

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I can do that. Im also afraid she may say no.
I think it also hurts my Dad that she is not part of our wedding day.

Its just a very sore subject for me.

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Posted by autumnbride10

Why don't you have her do a reading or something like that? This way she is still involved, yet she doesn't feel like she is just filling an empty 'spot'...

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I have been thinking about that too. I really dont know what to do. Im so confused.
And have been sitting at my desk crying over this.

I would just be 100% honet with her and tell her exactly what you told us. Explain to her that you guys had drifted apart and that now you are so happy you have gotten close with eachother and it would be an honor to have her take part in your special day and be a bridesmaid.

Good luck!

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

I would just be 100% honet with her and tell her exactly what you told us. Explain to her that you guys had drifted apart and that now you are so happy you have gotten close with eachother and it would be an honor to have her take part in your special day and be a bridesmaid.

Good luck!

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Thanks, but thats the thing... we keep trying to make plans and either one of us can come up with a day or the time to get togther.

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

I would just be 100% honet with her and tell her exactly what you told us. Explain to her that you guys had drifted apart and that now you are so happy you have gotten close with eachother and it would be an honor to have her take part in your special day and be a bridesmaid.

Good luck!

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Thanks, but thats the thing... we keep trying to make plans and either one of us can come up with a day or the time to get togther.

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I know what you mean...we are all so busy with everything!
Time is of the essence because you want to tell her this asap so it doesn't seem like a last minute resort to replace the empty bm slot. If you can't arrange a meeting just tell her over the phone. Say that you really wanted to speak to her in person because this is so important and special to you but since it is hard to make time with your schedules you are going to ask her something....

Don't worry about it...it will be fine. The worst thing that she will say is no but I can't imagine her saying that to you especially if you have been working towards a better relationship.

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Posted by Princess Cut Bride

I would just be 100% honet with her and tell her exactly what you told us. Explain to her that you guys had drifted apart and that now you are so happy you have gotten close with eachother and it would be an honor to have her take part in your special day and be a bridesmaid.

Good luck!

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Thanks, but thats the thing... we keep trying to make plans and either one of us can come up with a day or the time to get togther.

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I know what you mean...we are all so busy with everything!
Time is of the essence because you want to tell her this asap so it doesn't seem like a last minute resort to replace the empty bm slot. If you can't arrange a meeting just tell her over the phone. Say that you really wanted to speak to her in person because this is so important and special to you but since it is hard to make time with your schedules you are going to ask her something....

Don't worry about it...it will be fine. The worst thing that she will say is no but I can't imagine her saying that to you especially if you have been working towards a better relationship.

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I want to try and get together with her this weekend and maybe ask her. FH said its up to me and whatever I want to do is ok with him.

It just upsets me that im closer to his sister than i am to my own.

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That's great! Don't worry it will be fine!

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That's great! Don't worry it will be fine!

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Thanks i hope so!
Im very nervious. I really hope she does not get called into work but at the same time i do!

Now that we have made some steps to getting closer my stomach is all in knots!!!

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That's great! Don't worry it will be fine!

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Thanks i hope so!
Im very nervious. I really hope she does not get called into work but at the same time i do!

Now that we have made some steps to getting closer my stomach is all in knots!!!

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Awwww! It will work out! Relax!

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