UPDATED: Just the kind of Stuff I don't 2 days before my wedding.
It isn't a huge deal. It is all my own fault.
You know the whole thing with my in - laws and the rehearsal dinner, right? They were making me miserable because every plan I had didn't 'suit' them in some way -so I ultimately decided to just not have a rehearsal dinner and instead go to a mexican restaurant with friends. I could tell it meant something to Rob to have his family included. So I took a last stab at things. I told his mother sunday that we would be doing something Thursday or Friday. She tells me 'Well it can't be Friday because Johnny (her grandson, Rob's nephew) has a little league game.' Okay - I should have taken that as a HUGE clue how UNIMPORTANT we are, but I swallowed it and said we would do it on Thursday and that I would get back to her as soon as I figured out the logistics. Fast forward to TODAY - the DAY BEFORE THE SCHEDULED DINNER. She tells me that NOBODY WILL BE COMING FROM THEIR FAMILY. I asked why and she said 'We are all really busy running around this week... the wedding is in a couple of days.'
Umm... it IS my wedding. I know when it is. I planned it. If ANYONE has a lot of running around it is ME.
She goes on about how Rob's sister has to take her son to get his suit and how Dad has a doctor appointment and Laura (Rob's other sister) is going to her daughter's choir concert. Note that she herself isn't doing anything... but whatever.
SO I call Rob's sister Laura - who happens to be dating the best man. He has been one of my closest friends since childhood. I ask her and she says 'Yeah I can't be there... I am going to Kayla's concert..' I ask if Mike is going with us. She turns on the phone and asks Mike. OUR BEST MAN SAYS HE IS NOT COMING TO THE REHEARSAL BECAUSE HE HAS KAYLA'S CONCERT TO GO TO!
I am angry. I am hurt. I am frustrated. I can't believe that these people... these people who are supposed to love us and value us and want to be there with us are not going to be at our rehearsal dinner.
I am not horrible. I understand how important your kids are. I am a mother. I know how important little league games and choir concerts can be. BUT REALITY CHECK FOLKS! Kayla will have more concerts... she isn't a soloist - and frankly - she doesn't sing all that well. Johnny will have more Little League games. He isn't the star pitcher - he is actually a little slow and overweight. ROB WILL NOT HAVE ANOTHER WEDDING. THIS IS HIS FIRST AND HIS LAST!
You think they could manage to squeeze us in... but no...
It hurts.
UPDATE: I wasn't going to call the best man at all... I was SO angry. But I did. I called this morning and told him that I was really hurt. YOu wanna know what is REALLY messed up? He had NO IDEA it was the rehearsal dinner. His girlfriend (FH's sister) just said 'Oh Jeannie and Rob are having people over for some food tomorrow... do you want to go or are you going to the concert that Kayla (her daughter) is doing?' THAT is why he said he was going to Kayla's concert. He thought it was just supper at my house. I WANT TO WRING ROB'S SISTERS NECK.![]()
You know the whole thing with my in - laws and the rehearsal dinner, right? They were making me miserable because every plan I had didn't 'suit' them in some way -so I ultimately decided to just not have a rehearsal dinner and instead go to a mexican restaurant with friends. I could tell it meant something to Rob to have his family included. So I took a last stab at things. I told his mother sunday that we would be doing something Thursday or Friday. She tells me 'Well it can't be Friday because Johnny (her grandson, Rob's nephew) has a little league game.' Okay - I should have taken that as a HUGE clue how UNIMPORTANT we are, but I swallowed it and said we would do it on Thursday and that I would get back to her as soon as I figured out the logistics. Fast forward to TODAY - the DAY BEFORE THE SCHEDULED DINNER. She tells me that NOBODY WILL BE COMING FROM THEIR FAMILY. I asked why and she said 'We are all really busy running around this week... the wedding is in a couple of days.'
Umm... it IS my wedding. I know when it is. I planned it. If ANYONE has a lot of running around it is ME.
She goes on about how Rob's sister has to take her son to get his suit and how Dad has a doctor appointment and Laura (Rob's other sister) is going to her daughter's choir concert. Note that she herself isn't doing anything... but whatever.
SO I call Rob's sister Laura - who happens to be dating the best man. He has been one of my closest friends since childhood. I ask her and she says 'Yeah I can't be there... I am going to Kayla's concert..' I ask if Mike is going with us. She turns on the phone and asks Mike. OUR BEST MAN SAYS HE IS NOT COMING TO THE REHEARSAL BECAUSE HE HAS KAYLA'S CONCERT TO GO TO!
I am angry. I am hurt. I am frustrated. I can't believe that these people... these people who are supposed to love us and value us and want to be there with us are not going to be at our rehearsal dinner.
I am not horrible. I understand how important your kids are. I am a mother. I know how important little league games and choir concerts can be. BUT REALITY CHECK FOLKS! Kayla will have more concerts... she isn't a soloist - and frankly - she doesn't sing all that well. Johnny will have more Little League games. He isn't the star pitcher - he is actually a little slow and overweight. ROB WILL NOT HAVE ANOTHER WEDDING. THIS IS HIS FIRST AND HIS LAST!
You think they could manage to squeeze us in... but no...
It hurts.
UPDATE: I wasn't going to call the best man at all... I was SO angry. But I did. I called this morning and told him that I was really hurt. YOu wanna know what is REALLY messed up? He had NO IDEA it was the rehearsal dinner. His girlfriend (FH's sister) just said 'Oh Jeannie and Rob are having people over for some food tomorrow... do you want to go or are you going to the concert that Kayla (her daughter) is doing?' THAT is why he said he was going to Kayla's concert. He thought it was just supper at my house. I WANT TO WRING ROB'S SISTERS NECK.
