Upset and PO'd

littlebookworm4 Posted: Sep 28, 2005 10:04 AM

Upset and PO'd

My BP and I have known for a year that we wanted to do a Spa Day for the Bachelorette Party. Everything was all planned. One of the girls now has to work, 1 is too far out of state that she's not going to make it that weekend, so that leaves 4 to come. Now the one just got engaged and we're in each other's bridal parties. Hers is next year. She goes away all the time, spends money on other things and now all of a sudden going for a 2 hour spa day is too much. We are all getting one of the most inexpensive packages that lasts 2 hours. That's it. So now she wants to show up for an hour at the most and then leave! I just want to tell her nicely not to bother. Some Bachelorette Day. I'm at the point I don't want to do it anymore. She's also a very good friend of mine. She's supposedly freaking out about money now but yet like I said she does all this other stuff and she's always making references to how much money she's spending on this wedding when I know how much she's spent!! Is she forgetting that the week after my wedding I have to go get the dress for hers and all that? I don't plan on scrimping out on her wedding. I haven't asked for anything expensive or anything crazy. I'm just so hurt and mad because she's known about this for a long time now. Am I just over reacting? I'm just so tired of the money references and it makes me feel guilty even though I shouldn't.

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Sep 28, 2005 10:15 AM

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I'm really sorry!

maybe she is realizing how much money her own wedding is costing and is starting make budget cuts.

are you gals going out for dinner too? maybe she can just join you for that?

nicknmb Posted: Sep 28, 2005 10:17 AM

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I hear ya! I am having similar problems with my BP. Some of them are just not wanting to spend money. I feel that same as you - I almost feel like - am i not important enough to spend money on? And they will have their time also - this is mine - why can't people stop being so cheap!

brooklynbridezilla Posted: Sep 28, 2005 10:19 AM

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that is pretty irresponsible, she had a whole year to put $ aside for this and should ahve let you know if she couldn't handle it.

KimberlyBride Posted: Sep 28, 2005 10:21 AM

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I am so sorry. That is messed up. She has had plenty of time to save and plan for your BP.

bridget&jimmy Posted: Sep 28, 2005 10:31 AM

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I have been having the same problem with some of the girls in my bridal party, they complained about the place my sister wanted to have the shower saying it was going to cost to much, so my sister had it at her house instead, and they did not help out much at all. Only a couple offered money to help out. Also I wanted to go to the city for my bachlorette party and they all complained it was to expensive, so I said fine and changed it to around here and know I hear they are still complaining about they don't have the money and are not going to be able to make it, but yet they are all going away this weekend. And it is not like I planned my wedding in a couple of months. I have been engaged for 2 years and 7 months by the time I get married and I asked them about 3 months into the engagement. I just wish if I could go back and do it again that I would not have asked them to be in it. They have really hurt my feelings.

PeterNChris Posted: Sep 29, 2005 10:30 PM

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That is one of the many reasons I am only having my sisters.

jackiez Posted: Sep 29, 2005 10:39 PM

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I am so sorry for you. I don't know whether it helps that so many of us are going through similar situations, but we are. I can only hope that our BPs don't realize what they are doing/saying and that it hurts us.