Upstate weddings - question

kbeana24 Posted: Jun 04, 2006 12:06 AM

Upstate weddings - question

Next weekend Im going to a wedding in upstate NY. I didnt know where they had registered so I emailed a mutual friend. He said they had not registered anywhere, but they could use knick- knacks. ???? I had planned to just give them a check, but it sounds like people will bring wrapped gifts to the wedding.

Has anyone gone to a wedding upstate? I did a search but there were posts that were a little old - from 2 years ago.

Has anyone had a more recent experience?
Should I bring a gift (as opposed to $$)

any thoughts???
TIA

Tiggeruth Posted: Jun 04, 2006 12:31 AM

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I have been to several weddings upstate and have always brought a gift, however, if you are not sure what to buy just give a card and a check.

mcb916 Posted: Jun 04, 2006 09:06 AM

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I have not, but I would just give a check. Even if it's customary to bring a gift, I would think they would be happy to get a little money to bring on their HM or buy what they need.

bride2b24 Posted: Jun 04, 2006 09:07 AM

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Posted by Tiggeruth

I have been to several weddings upstate and have always brought a gift, however, if you are not sure what to buy just give a card and a check.

same here.....where upstate is the wedding?

dbleplay17 Posted: Jun 04, 2006 09:10 AM

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i would do a check anyway....I mean who doesnt want a check?!?!?

If you want so you feel like you are giving them a gift..get a nice little bud vase or photo frame and wrap it along with a check that is what I would do

nbc188 Posted: Jun 04, 2006 09:10 AM

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Posted by bride2b24

Posted by Tiggeruth

I have been to several weddings upstate and have always brought a gift, however, if you are not sure what to buy just give a card and a check.

same here.....where upstate is the wedding?

Yeah, where is it? I'm originally from upstate, and I don't know about the knick-knack thing, but registries aren't as big up there, I know that much.

sunshine1813 Posted: Jun 04, 2006 09:13 AM

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I've always given money.

m&m Posted: Jun 04, 2006 09:20 AM

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We went to a wedding in Albany last year and although some people brought gifts, there were an equal number with envelopes/checks.

sarahradio5 Posted: Jun 04, 2006 09:39 AM

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Posted by kbeana24

Next weekend Im going to a wedding in upstate NY. I didnt know where they had registered so I emailed a mutual friend. He said they had not registered anywhere, but they could use knick- knacks. ???? I had planned to just give them a check, but it sounds like people will bring wrapped gifts to the wedding.

Has anyone gone to a wedding upstate? I did a search but there were posts that were a little old - from 2 years ago.

Has anyone had a more recent experience?
Should I bring a gift (as opposed to $$)

any thoughts???
TIA

First of all, LOVE your avatar picture. How HOT is he?!?!?!

Second of all, I would just give a check. Especially if they're not registered.... money is never a bad idea for a wedding gift! I'm going to a wedding at Mount Mohonk on July 1 (kind of upstate), and I'm giving $$).

Mandyin2007 Posted: Jun 04, 2006 09:45 AM

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My friend si getting married near Albany. We were discussing the whole money/gift issue. For her, she really would rather money over gifts (Although she wasn't opposed t gifts). She had the mentality that what good it a toaster if you don't have a house to use it in.

I think it is more traditional to give a gift upstate, but I think either way the birde and groom will appreciate the thought.

waterspout4 Posted: Jun 04, 2006 10:19 AM

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I am originally from upstate and have only lived here for 2 years. Weddings here are definately different from up there.

Money is accepted at a wedding anywhere. So are gift cards. Typically, you'd receive mainly gifts at an upstate wedding, then gift cards, then money rounding out the top 3. It is odd that they did not register.

If you do decide to get them a gift, it is proper to send it to the house before the wedding day. Although you'll see many people bringing gifts to the reception, Miss Manners would yell at them. The bride and groom aren't supposed to worry about the transport of gifts on their wedding day.

And there you have it! Good luck!

ewickens Posted: Jun 04, 2006 01:10 PM

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I'm from Rochester and Buffalo and have been to so many weddings, I can't count them anymore.

Registries are a big thing up there as they are here, but not at the department stores, per se, but stores like BB&B, Target, etc.

It's really up to you and what you want to give as a gift. Don't think anything of it to bring a gift wrapped - I did this for a friend's wedding b/c she still needed her bath towels, so I bought what was left. Or you can give a gift card in any denomination to the and from any store you choose (they can order things off the web if a store isn't near them) or give them a card and check with whatever amount - just realize that if you are planning to cover the plate, it's not as pricey up there as it is down here!!

tjs Posted: Jun 04, 2006 01:36 PM

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I dont know how far upstate you are talking but Im from Buffalo and am actually having my wedding there, my cousin recently got married there also.....there were mayeb 3 wrapped gifts at her wedding!

kbeana24 Posted: Jun 04, 2006 03:53 PM

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The wedding is in Sanataria Springs, 15 away from Binghamton. I think I will give a check.

Tria1110 Posted: Jun 04, 2006 07:11 PM

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How about getting an American Express gift card and wrapping it in a box?

waterspout4 Posted: Jun 04, 2006 07:51 PM

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Posted by Tria1110

How about getting an American Express gift card and wrapping it in a box?

I like that idea!

I'm from Rochester too. Shout out!

kbeana24 Posted: Jun 05, 2006 05:41 PM

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ewickens Posted: Jun 05, 2006 05:47 PM

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Posted by kbeana24

thats a good idea. Where do i get an AMEX gift card from?

You can purchase them from any drug store, like Rite Aid, CVS, etc.

donegal419 Posted: Jun 05, 2006 05:59 PM

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I would definitely bring a check.. we can all use moeny. i would particularly bring a check if she is from LI or NYC where giving CASH is the norm... although she may be living up there now where weddings traiditions are a bit different and she might be expecting the check.

Or I've also done a gift off the registry + a cash gift. Make the cash gift and registry gift = what you want to give in total.