Okay heres the thing. I went to Vegas for the 1st time a few months ago with one of my BMs (before I was engaged) and I loved it! I have been wanting to go back so bad lately especially since my BM is going this weekend with some of her other friends and we have been remembering our time there. I am not a pushy bride to my BMs (yet) and I dont think I will be in the long run. I have been saying that I want to go to Vegas again before I am married but I think my parents and my FH will think its kind of selfish of me to take a vacation with my friends when I am supposed to be paying for a wedding and I understand where they are coming from! Well, I really want to go for my bachelorette party because I just really want to go. I mentioned it to one of my BMs and I even said that I would pay for myself and one night while we are there we can do a 'bachelorette' night so the whole weekend isnt about them paying for dinners, drinks, etc. Does this sound unreasonable?? Also, I am going to try and pay for part of their dresses with a gift certificate I won to a bridal salon. I can use it for that so whatever I dont use on myself - I will use on them. If you were my BM and I brought this up, would I sound like a b*tch?? Keep in mind that its not that my 4 BMs cant afford it either, I just dont want it to seem like I am trying to put them out for tons of money when they can just do a night in the city or AC.
TIA!
Princess Cut Bride
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
I don't think you are being pushy at all. One of my co-workers actually suggested that we go there for my bachelorette party with my close friends from work. As long as everyone can afford it I don't see what the problem is. You are being very generous in helping them pay for part of their dress expense. Good luck!!!
Jesses Girl
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
as long as everyone can afford i dont think it would be a bad idea if u want to go. run it by them and tell them to be dead honest how they feel about it, if they can afford it
Kris10546
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
Posted by Princess Cut Bride
I don't think you are being pushy at all. One of my co-workers actually suggested that we go there for my bachelorette party with my close friends from work. As long as everyone can afford it I don't see what the problem is. You are being very generous in helping them pay for part of their dress expense. Good luck!!!
Thanks for your comment....oh and I am only helping them if my gift certificate has some credit left. I was lucky enough to win a $3500 gift certificate and it includes whatever I want: alterations, veil, tiara, BM dresses, so I am going to use every last cent on them if I have it left. I wouldnt let that go to waste!
Princess Cut Bride
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
Posted by Kris10546
Posted by Princess Cut Bride
I don't think you are being pushy at all. One of my co-workers actually suggested that we go there for my bachelorette party with my close friends from work. As long as everyone can afford it I don't see what the problem is. You are being very generous in helping them pay for part of their dress expense. Good luck!!!
Thanks for your comment....oh and I am only helping them if my gift certificate has some credit left. I was lucky enough to win a $3500 gift certificate and it includes whatever I want: alterations, veil, tiara, BM dresses, so I am going to use every last cent on them if I have it left. I wouldnt let that go to waste!
That's awesome!!!!
JACK808
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
I don't see anything wrong with you asking your BMs to take a Vegas vacation and celebrate your bachelorette party while you are there. However, I don't think you can expect that everyone will be willing or able to do it. Taking time off from work, budgeting a vacation, organizing a time when everyone can go, and just traveling in general can be a bit of a challenge for some. I think it totally sounds like a fun time, I love Vegas, definitely bring it up - but don't get too upset if not everyone jumps on the idea.
femmes
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
Posted by Princess Cut Bride
Posted by Kris10546
Posted by Princess Cut Bride
I don't think you are being pushy at all. One of my co-workers actually suggested that we go there for my bachelorette party with my close friends from work. As long as everyone can afford it I don't see what the problem is. You are being very generous in helping them pay for part of their dress expense. Good luck!!!
Thanks for your comment....oh and I am only helping them if my gift certificate has some credit left. I was lucky enough to win a $3500 gift certificate and it includes whatever I want: alterations, veil, tiara, BM dresses, so I am going to use every last cent on them if I have it left. I wouldnt let that go to waste!
That's awesome!!!!
Very well put, if you do decide to go and some BM cant, maybe you can reserve a night in manhattan/dinner/dancing to make up for it..
Kris10546
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
Posted by femmes
Posted by Princess Cut Bride
Posted by Kris10546
Posted by Princess Cut Bride
I don't think you are being pushy at all. One of my co-workers actually suggested that we go there for my bachelorette party with my close friends from work. As long as everyone can afford it I don't see what the problem is. You are being very generous in helping them pay for part of their dress expense. Good luck!!!
Thanks for your comment....oh and I am only helping them if my gift certificate has some credit left. I was lucky enough to win a $3500 gift certificate and it includes whatever I want: alterations, veil, tiara, BM dresses, so I am going to use every last cent on them if I have it left. I wouldnt let that go to waste!
That's awesome!!!!
Very well put, if you do decide to go and some BM cant, maybe you can reserve a night in manhattan/dinner/dancing to make up for it..
If 1 BM can't - I will axe the whole idea. Its only my 4 girls and me, I dont care about anyone else...if my other friends want to come, they are more than welcome but I am only going if all of my BMs agree.
snwb08
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
absolutely positively without a DOUBT you should definitely go to vegas!!! It's your celebration of the end of your single life forever - you should go wherever you want! I'm definitely doing a bach away somewhere because i use any excuse i can to take a vacay; my friends all know this and whatever friends can't or don't want to come, we're having a NY bach too. They are fine with this, as would i be if it were anyone else. it's all about what the bride wants for her bach. I've been to Vegas for my other friends bach (and numerous other times) and it's totally affordable... do it and have a blast!
Mizzdimple
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
YOu only do it once so why not. I mentioned to my BF to push for Vegas..and everyone agreed..SO far..if they cant do it , I understand.
Julybride08
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
I don't think you are pushy at all. I would deinetly go!!! I wanna do a trip with my girls to. But I know alot of them don't have the money right now. I guess will see when the time comes. You can talk to them and see what they think about it.
BellaChandella
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
AW!! I think the same way!! Ive been wanting to go on a vacation with just a friend and me, but I feel horrible about leaving the FH behind. Do what makes you happy. !!
Espo22
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
There is nothing wrong with bringing up this idea...Talk to them and see how they feel, and let them know you also don't want to make them do something they can't afford so to be honest with you. You never know they just might be completely fine with this. Also if you see it might be a problem for them then you have to be understanding of that too...Also maybe a few of the girls will be fine with it and others wont, so you can go with some of the girls and then also do something with everyone here at home, a night of bar hopping, dinner or whatever. Good luck
dream426
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
I don't think there is anything wrong with you bringing this up to them. The worse they could say is no. You aren't forcing them to go. And as long as they have the money I am sure they would love to go. I know I would
MrsQ-in2007
Posted:
Member since
Re: Vegas? I need your opinion...a little long...
'07er crashing
I told my girls that I wanted to go to Vegas for my bachelorette party and only one of the three is going to go. THat's fine with me - I mean, I reallllllly wish they could go, but I totally understand about finances etc. If I were a BM, I probably wouldn't be able to go either. But, I am the bride, this is my only chance to have an away bachelorette party, so I really want to go. I am planning the whole thing and have invited all my girlfriends. It looks like it will only be about 4 of us total, but I think that's great.
I personally think it's A-OK, but for me, I also told them that if they can't make it, then that's fine. I know you mentioned that you only want to go if they all agree, so that's a totally different scenario. Just be prepared in case they don't all want to go. Sometimes people don't want to or feel they can't shell out the money for a trip - DESPITE the fact that you are paying for their dresses. So, be prepared for it to go either way so that you're not disappointed. I hope you guys make it out there!!!
