I'm going out of my mind. We have 12 people in our bridal party and I feel like NONE of them could care less that we're getting married (just about none of them). 1/2 of them are constantly making my life hard and when they aren't - the bridal shops are!!! I just got an email after being on the phone OVER A DOZEN TIMES w/ the bridal shop about my girls fittings ! One of my bridesmaids writes : 'This isn't necessarily going to work for me.....blah blah.... you can pick the dress up for me and bring it to me and I can get my fittings done here' EXCUSE ME!!?!?!? Get it yourself- I have enough to do w/o running errands for you!! I can't even write her back right now b/c I know it's going to come out nasty!
NYCHICK
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The bm blues. Yep you wonder what people start to inhale after they become a BM or MOH. All of a sudden their lives gets busier and you start getting grey hair over them. What does she mean' not going to work for her' she is a classic one
SReidy
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She works for the NYC public library. Originally the bridal shop told me 'whenever' is fine for when the girls want to come in for their fittings so I told my BMs that April 3rd would be a good day b/c they want them in about 5 weeks before their wedding. I told them all to hold off on doing anything until I was SURE that this would be the right time but she requested the time off and doesn't want to change it. The problem is that they only do weekend fittings 1 day a month and it only starts in April so that;s the ONLY weekend they'll be able to go before the wedding. I'm having a really crummy wedding planning day here at work!!!!!!
NYCHICK
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why would she ask for time off prematurely, that was silly of her. How is she supposed to get fitted if she is not physically there? What are people thinking?
luvsun27
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I'm confused....are you trying to coordinate all your BM's to go for fittings on the same day? Why don't you just let each of them schedule a time with the salon that works for them?
SReidy
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They're all from out of town and for out of towners they only do 1 saturday each month, starting in April. If they want to get their dress then by all means, they should get it themselves or have it sent to them. I don't think I should have to drive all over the place and go out of my way constantly to do this for them. When they got their measurements taken I drove them out b/c I was trying to make their lives easier but that was when we didn't have as much planning to do, etc... now we have to meet w/ people and do precana and work on centerpieces/favors...the list just goes on and on.
lullabella
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They're all from out of town and for out of towners they only do 1 saturday each month, starting in April. If they want to get their dress then by all means, they should get it themselves or have it sent to them. I don't think I should have to drive all over the place and go out of my way constantly to do this for them. When they got their measurements taken I drove them out b/c I was trying to make their lives easier but that was when we didn't have as much planning to do, etc... now we have to meet w/ people and do precana and work on centerpieces/favors...the list just goes on and on.
Why don't you just telling them that you don't have time to do it and that they need to figure it out?? It seems like you are getting yourself all stressed out for no reason.
SReidy
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All of my bridesmaids know that the place is about 15 mins away from my FH's parents house and that we go there a lot. Unfortunately they don't realize that while we're there we don't leave. All of the stuff for the centerpieces is there and mostly all of the stuff that we're doing for the wedding is there. It would look more rude to me if I was in someone's bridal party for them to say 'I don't have time' rather than just figure out a way to get what needs to be done and make everyone happy. There's just too many people to try to accomodate- especially when they're not trying to accomodate me in any way... and they've never been married so they don't have A CLUE as to how much work this is.
