Vent

kavirtue Posted: Jul 04, 2007 10:57 AM

Vent

I wish this B**** would STOP calling FH. Why won't she stop? They messed with each other very early in our relationship. This relationship has been over for 3 years. She keeps calling. She calls his job. She calls his cell all types of hours. It is driving me crazy. Why is it driving me crazy? I should be over this..... My biggest nightmare is that she will show up at our wedding. I am so mad. She just called a few minutes go. I picked up the phone and told her to stop calling him. I know this is what she wants, but can she get a life. What is wrong with her???? Could someone please explain to me why is she calling him. I mean FH is drop dead sexy and the sweetest guy and such a gentleman, he loves his momma, he is committed, and would be an amazing father. But he is my FH. FH feels like I should not have to answer her calls. He feels like he is failing me because he can't make her stop calling and I feel like I have to handle the situation. Can she get this, can she just move on. Help me understand her, help understand why I am so aggravated with this situation.

Mich0621 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:00 AM

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She wants what she can't have...here are the options: get him to change his number, threaten an order of protection (works sometimes), or set her up with someone...this way her attention will be diverted...You have all right to be mad...this is pathetic of this girl!

Licee15 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 11:44 AM

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I think it would mean more if he told her to stop calling not you...I had this issue like the first year of dating...And after he told the Crazy Biznatch to stop calling she did....When I used to pick up the phone and stay stop it she would laugh at me....

And Now 7 years later, I'm laughing...

kavirtue Posted: Jul 04, 2007 12:55 PM

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Thanks ladies, FH did tell her in the beginning to stop calling but it made her call more.

ammy1403 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 01:11 PM

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Change all of the numbers (espeically cell and work) - if he works with a corporation it takes one call to the i.s. phone department and its changed.

MikeandLisa Posted: Jul 04, 2007 01:13 PM

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frankly, she sounds nuts. threaten to call the police, then do it. she is harassing you.

joan_db Posted: Jul 04, 2007 01:24 PM

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i think its your FH decision to ask her to stop calling him. i assume that your FH entertain her call thats why she keeps calling back. I understand how you feel but it takes two to tango you know.

Mich0621 Posted: Jul 04, 2007 03:08 PM

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Posted by kavirtue

Thanks ladies, FH did tell her in the beginning to stop calling but it made her call more.

Save her messages, make sure to make a log of how much and when she calls each day. Tell her that you are planning on seeking a no contact order of protection. Make a police report. If it continues, call the DA and ask to file an order of protection requesting a stay away with no contact. What she is doing is Harrassment 2. I am an attorney in Family Court and I do these ALL DAY LONG. And if you get an OP and she continues, she can face jail.

HTH