Vent...

So sorry that its long.....

Let me start off by saying that last night was practically World War 3 in my house....As many of you already know my father is fully disabled so my mother, my grandmother, and myself have to help to change him because he wears diapers. My mother went out yesterday so I had to help my grandmother by myself and I got somewhat impatient because FH was in our room and did not offer to help and I got pissed off because my fathers healing pads were all over the place (they have to be in a certain position). I call FH to help and since I am already pissed off he can see that and he says 'I dont think I wanna marry you if you are going to have an attitude like that.' For what was that! I said 'Then why the hell did you propose' and I threw my ring on the floor. ( I know I shouldnt have done that) and he says that he is going to leave. Fine, he got dressed and he left speeding in our car, but not before telling me that that 'God forbid when my father passes away, i am going to feel guilty.' As he was speeding away I threw his food at the car and went inside. I started getting chest pains and I knew it was because of what he said. About an hour later, he came back and was asking for the ring, that he would rather give it to someone that would appreciate it. I was so pissed off because why the hell did he have to say that? We didnt talk for the rest of the night and this morning he gave me a kiss on the forehead. I dont know how to feel. I love him so much but I dont know, I am so confused!!

awww i'm so sorry to hear that. I'm sure you guys are just under alot of stress right now. Everything will work itself out. Sometimes big fights bring you even closer after you resolved it. Don't worry i'm sure he feels bad too. If you need to vent or anything let me know. we're here for you.

Aw, it's good that you're venting here.

Make sure you guys talk things over soon and get everything you both were feeling out in the open. A lot of the anger may have been due to stress or being scared about marriage, etc.

Just talk it over and I'm sure it'll all be back to normal before you know it!

I'm sure you are both under a lot of stress. And I can only imagine how rough it must be to see your family like that and have to care for them. He could have offered to help you. But maybe you both need to cool off and then you can talk to him and let him know how you are feeling and why you were angry with him. Sometimes writing a letter is easier than speaking it face to face. You should do it however you are most comfortable.
We are all here if you need to talk. I wish you both the very best! Let us know how everything works out.
Just be true to yourself and to your feelings.

Im really sorry to hear.....

Im sure this is superstressful on your family and I agree he should offer a helping hand.... But try not to explode if you really love him.... Talk about what happened and why you did what you did and he said what he said.... Love is worth the talk... Try to relax... Im sure after you guys speak it will all be ok...

welcome to the world of almost marriage...I fight with Carl alot since we got engaged. And with that being said, I am going to bring this all to the table. Some of you may look at me like I am crazy for getting married BUT-

we both went to premarital counseling for the first time last night. I am not afraid to say it. Things will be rough for everyone-no one ever said it would be easy..its learning how to deal with them.

thats why marriage has been looked at as a sacred institution. We both agreed that we will do this to iron out any of the kinks in our relationship. I'll keep you all posted on how it goes.

Oh no... I am sorry you had to deal with all of that. It is hard when you are caring for a parent and I can understand your frustration when Fh did not help....but he may feel uncomfortable helping. I think you two should sit down and talk about everything that was said...he may have said those things out of anger and frustration...sometimes we say things that we don't really mean.

In the meantime try to be positive. I am sure he was just mad and the words didn't mean anything... but find out.. because you deserve someone who appreciates you and loves you even when you are in a bad mood. Feel better!!!!

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Posted by DonnaPWhite1124

always think of it like this...the worst would be if there was violence involved or infedelity...if a relationship involves those two things, then break the deal...if not, its just a working progress. Keep your head up. its just a bump in the road

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No none of that

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Posted by DonnaPWhite1124

Good! Im glad thats not the case! Because that in and of itself, is the worst scarring possible! I despise men who cheat and abuse! Bastards!

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I told him that if he ever lays a hand on me that the relationship is over.............i know he wouldnt do it because he saw it as a child with his parents and it was hard for him

Girl that was words of anger and frustration. MY FH has said MEAN things before and I wanted to really KILL HIM!

But look he didnt mean what he said to you. He was just upset probably seeing u upset. Just calm down u have alot going on with u and inside...I know a million and one things are racing thru ur head at this present moment.

I've been where u are before if u ever need an open listening ear or convo feel free to FM me!

Sorry it took me so look to respond to this I was at work and couldn't stay on long.
I really hope you guys are working things out. Sorry that the fight got so heated. I hope everything is ok with your dad.

oh i hope everything is ok! sending 's