VENT about FBIL GF kinda long need advice

VENT about FBIL GF kinda long need advice

So why is it that some people cant be happy for anyone else but themselves. . . . This may be long so bare with me. . .I'll start from the beginning. . . My FH brother always complained about how horrible my FH ex was that she wouldnt talk to anyone but the FH and she was nasty and ruined everything cause she had to be the center of everything. . He also would say that he didnt understand how my FH went out with her for a year when she wasnt nice to the family and how she made my FH so distant from family. . . and how hes happy we found eachother cause Im totally the opposite. . . so from 2001-2006 everything was awesome. . then in feb of 2006 this brother got a GF who is exactly like my FH ex. . she tried pushing me down the steps, she speaks in spainsh in front of me when she talks to the FH brother thinking i dont understand sorry to tell her i do..... I told his brother that they should come hang out with us and she said in spanish, i dont want to hang out with them i dont like them. . meaning me and my FH thats his brother shouldnt he say something No nothing. . ok so in oct at our engagement party she was jumping into all the pictures. . so FH mom was like lets take a family pic with the whole family meaning my family and his so SHE gets into the picture so FH mom says please leave for this one pic. . she gets all upset and cries ....shes not family. . . the during the party she just sat there like a lump on a log and all pouty so my FMIL was getting upset. . then this girl gets up and tells my FBIL she wants to go home. . . now FBIL is the bestman and was going to give a toast. . . .so he gives his toat and leaves. . . tells us his gf doesnt feel good and hes taking her home. . .oh and BTW she spent like 30 min in the lobby crying and carrying on that we dont like her cause we made her get out of the picture. . . W T F we didnt say anything FMIL did and when me and my FH were dating I would never jump into family pics i wasnt family that is just rude. . . . anyway all that was at 2 party started at 1 2 hours passed and he wasnt back and when we called he was like she wants me to stay so i told him that if he doesnt get back then we will have problems between us. . . . ok so lets move on cause they are still together. . at my shower she sat in the far back corner not talking to anyone when we got back to the house to open the wishing well gifts she leans to FBIL and goes I dont feel good take me home. . . funny how when its something for me or my FH she feels sick same thing happened for my FH birthday we all went out and all of a sudden she felt sick . . . and for my bday she was to sick to come out. . . Why doesnt FBIL see this, and now he wants to propose and me and FH are so disgusted cause she is a nasty girl . . . . . . so now im worried shes going to ruin my wedding. . . . . what should i do......?

Re: VENT about FBIL GF kinda long need advice

Pray that she gets sick and has to leave.

Re: VENT about FBIL GF kinda long need advice

Oh no! I'm so sorry she is like that!


I don't know if there is much you can do....Has anyone said anything to FBIL???

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They said stuff and hes like your just jealous cause you wish you had her. . BTW shes really not that good looking. . . . . but he thinks everyone is looking to get a piece. . . but everyone talks about how he could do so much better and how she looks like a boy. . . and i try to be nice to her and all but its her not me. . . and my FH doesnt understand why hes with her cause FH cant stand her either hes like shes jealous we are enggaged but we were engagged when they met. . . and we dated 5 years and engagged 2 w t f does she want

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Posted by LuckiestGirl

They said stuff and hes like your just jealous cause you wish you had her. . BTW shes really not that good looking. . . . . but he thinks everyone is looking to get a piece. . . but everyone talks about how he could do so much better and how she looks like a boy. . .

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I have to admit that sometimes no matter how much to tell people something, it doesn't work. I have a friend whose boyfriend none of us like and think he's horrible for her (drugs, rude, no manners, etc...) but she doesn't listen.

The best thing would probably be to let him know how you feel without sounding confrontational. It sounds as if he will do what he wants regardless--even when the family has obviously been vocal about their dislike of her.

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Yea, i just hope she doesnt ruin my day.

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Posted by LuckiestGirl

Yea, i just hope she doesnt ruin my day.

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I'm sure it won't. It's your day, so don't let it get to you--don't give her that satisfaction. Enjoy it all!

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Hopefully he'll come to his senses and get rid of her or she'll get sick and not come to the wedding.

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she sounds God awful! part of being happy is how well one gets along with family & friends. if no one likes her, she'll soon figure out that's it's everyone against her. wish for the best for FBIL and pray that she's isn't it!

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Honestly my first thought is get to act like an *** in front of him. I nvite them out to dinner or over for dinner repeatedly. If she keepscoming up with excuses, maybe he will see. Make sure you are overly nice to her. So sorry you are going thru all of this. an FH talk to his bro, mention you want all your kids to grow up together and if this B!tch is his niece and nephews mom, he's worried he won't be that big a part of thier lives beause your family makes her SICK!!! Good Luck, I hope it all works out for you

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I doubt their relationship will last, engaged or no. Just DO NOT let her ruin your day. She'll probably get sick and leave early. Just don't pay her ANY attention.

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thanks ladies. . its just so annoying. . . . i love my FBIL he is a great guy and I know he deserves better than her. . .So get this we were all supposed to go out Friday (me FH, FMIL, FFIL, FBIL and Her.. . ) well I was just told by FH that she cancelled today said she has to work. . . guess when she found out it was only the 3 couples she decided not to come. . . . and he doesnt see this.

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but she shouldnt they have been together a year and a half. . . grow up . . . . .

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shes 24 and hes 23

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