Vent and some questions....

Well I have 2 vents with 2 questions....

1. We got engaged over Memorial Day weekend. I know my 1st cousin knew she would have to be my MOH since we made a deal when we were young for this, neither of us has sisters, and I already fulfilled my obligation to her. I left her a message that weekend, and SHE HAS NOT CALLED ME BACK ONCE!! Now she only lives in Queens, and I realize she is busy with her 18 month old son, but I'm upset that she hasn't called for even 5 minutes!! My father thinks she is avoiding me because she knows this means a lot to me but maybe she can't handle the responsibility. I would prefer for her to tell me this if that's the case. Should I leave another message on her machine asking her to call me (which I've done 4 times now) or just choose someone else as my MOH?

2. I found my dress at Lestan bridal in Brooklyn. However, I wanted to find the same dress in another shop because when I told the saleswoman I wasn't sure I had enough for the deposit, she threw her arms up and walked away. But by the time I got dressed and went upstairs, my father had paid for the deposit. When I asked if I would get a call when the dress comes in, she only said 'just call us 2 or 3 months before the wedding for the fittings'. This worries me as I plan on losing weight, and even though the dress fits me perfectly now, I don;t think it will right before the wedding. Would I be wrong to call them and ask them exactly when my dress will be ordered and when it will come in? Not knowing things drives me crazy!!

TIA for letting me vent and for any answers you my have!!

1. Memorial day weekend was weeks ago. shed should have called you back by now. like you said, even for a few minutes. That's wrong. I don't know what to suggest here. That's a tough one.

2. You should INSIST on having them call you the minute your dress arrives. as far as I am aware, that's their job!

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Posted by dleeny

1. Memorial day weekend was weeks ago. shed should have called you back by now. like you said, even for a few minutes. That's wrong. I don't know what to suggest here. That's a tough one.

2. You should INSIST on having them call you the minute your dress arrives. as far as I am aware, that's their job!

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DITTO on all counts

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Posted by prncssrachel

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Posted by dleeny

1. Memorial day weekend was weeks ago. shed should have called you back by now. like you said, even for a few minutes. That's wrong. I don't know what to suggest here. That's a tough one.

2. You should INSIST on having them call you the minute your dress arrives. as far as I am aware, that's their job!

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DITTO on all counts

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I agree with the others, as far as your MOH its really what feels right for you...speaking from experience, I chose my MOH for the wrong reasons and I've paid the price for that....
as for your bridal salon, that's just insane, it is their job to contact you when your dress comes in! that was rude of them! JMHO! Good luck!

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Posted by prncssrachel

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Posted by dleeny

1. Memorial day weekend was weeks ago. shed should have called you back by now. like you said, even for a few minutes. That's wrong. I don't know what to suggest here. That's a tough one.

2. You should INSIST on having them call you the minute your dress arrives. as far as I am aware, that's their job!

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DITTO on all counts

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I agree.

Some people have had GREAT experiences with lestan's. My mom was just there with a friend for a MOB dress, and she said the service was horrible and the saleswoman was very rude. You have right to know and be updated regarding the status of your gown!!!

Have you called your cousin more then once or just once? If only once, I'd call again. If you've already called a few times, then I think it might be time for you to move on. Are there any other family members who you might be able to speak to about what is going on?

As for the bridal place, that seemed to be very rude of the saleswoman. Then again, I'm not having much luck with the place we're getting bridesmaid dresses from. These people really need to realize that in the business they're in, they need to treat us the right way. Not like we're all bridezillas or anything, but we do have a lot on our plates, and if thier job is to help us along and to provide a service to us at a price we definately pay, they should at least do it with courtosy. I wish you the best of luck in everything.

-Melissa:

Thanks all for the replies....

I'm just upset now because I just read a bunch of horrible reviews about Lestan. I shot my father an email begging him to contest the credit card charges as I don't want to get my dress there!! Unfortunately they have a no cancellation policy, so my poor father will be out the $700 deposit he placed for me and I will have to pay him back!!! AUGHHHHH I just KNOW I can find this dress for cheaper than they charged me not to mention they refused to give me the style name and number.

1. did she even call you to say congratulations?...anyway maybe she is nervous..it is a big responsibility..she does have an 18 month old like you said..so maybe shes scared..but i would just call her and let her know that no matter what you love her..and you would totally understand if she cant be in the wedding..or just the moh..maybe she could be a bm or a reader or something...but dont end up fighting over this..life is too short and you will have PLENTY to deal with with this wedding..

2. DEFINATELY tell them you want them to call YOU when the dress is in..you will have alot on your plate with wedding stuff by that time to even think of having to call them..that is THEIR JOB!!!

I left a msg for my cousin last night telling her I kow it's a lot of responsibility to take on the role of MOH and if it's too much to let me know and I'll understand. She called me back this afternoon and we talked about it. She said things should calm down after next week (she's a teacher) and that to send her any dress ideas I have via email. So finally things are beginning to get settled!!

As for the dress issue, my mother said she will call them up tomorrow since it was her idea to put the deposit down right then and there. I also made a note in my appointment book to call them in November, in case I haven't hearsd from them by then. (I figure 5 months out should be enough time even if they screw up!) But good to know my mother has my back on this one. I'm planning on stopping by there this weekend to get a picture of me in the dress so I can buy some other things, so I will talk to them then about it.

Thanks all for your advice!! I was beginning to lose it last night about all of this, but today everything seems to be a lot better!!!