VENT. Anyone else feel like they just are at the breaking point??!!

VENT. Anyone else feel like they just are at the breaking point??!!

I am so sorry to do this. But I dont know who else to vent about this. This is the only place that I know people understand the total and utter stress that is going on.

I havent been lucky in the sleep department. In fact, lately its been getting worse to the point that I wake up now more than 4 or 5 times during the night and that is after i finally fall asleep !! I am so stressed about money. I hate it. I seriously think about it all day every day andr i am starting to make myself sick. The bigger problem, ok, so not bigger, another issue is the fact that I dont know how much longer I am going to mentally be able to handle my stupid job. I ABSOLUTELY hate it. I am not kidding when i say that i get yelled at for everything and everyone elses mistakes, i am not a supervisor or manager by the way, not to mention that the pay SUCKSSS!!! I took this job with the hope of moving myself up the beurocratic bull-sh!t ladder. and with all of the promises that have been made to me, you would, as i did, SWEAR that it would happen.
So another thing. I first want to say that i adore my FH - like all of you - but is anyone else nervous about stupid things - like merging checking accounts, paying bills, things like that? My FH makes a lot more money than i do. He is also considerably older. (BTW> he has never been married, and no kids - he is a divorce lawyer - so that is why) hehehe.. I on the other hand am trying to get myself back in school, but financially cant swing it - so eventually i will - working at a what could be great job, but i hate it and cant stand the abuse any more.

i dont know what i expect any of you to say, but i just needed a place to typographically scream and cry. so thanks

jennifer

Re: VENT. Anyone else feel like they just are at the breaking point??!!

I know how you feel With the wedding a month away and the possibility of this house I am freaking out. We saved money for a long time for this so between the wedding and down payment most of our money is gone We still have a small safety net in the bank but still I am sooo worried about money. I can't fall asleep at night and I have a very hard time waking up in the morning.

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I also constantly feel stressed about money matters. My FH hates his job too at this time. I also have a hard time falling asleep b/c I keep thinking of too many details of this wedding. Don't worry you are not alone.

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i cant take it anymore. i just hate it. its like evil dollar demons!!! eeeew.

and job demons
and wedding planning devils!!

im cracking up i am telling you!!

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I totally understand!!!! I hate my job. I hate waking up to even go. I am forever late. I can't wait to leave after the wedding. I also have had enough with the planning. I can't wait until the planning is over. Not to mention my FI is no help. I have been making all of the decisions. I asked him to help me with the readings for the church and to help me pick our vows and he told me to do it!!!!!!!!!!!!! The only reason I am doing this whole Catholic wedding is for him. I am not even Catholic

Re: VENT. Anyone else feel like they just are at the breaking point??!!

Re: VENT. Anyone else feel like they just are at the breaking point??!!

i can totally relate...

what does FH think? i had a hard time making the switch from 'my money' and 'his money' to 'our money'. have you guys talked about how the merging of the funds is going to work?

about the job, completely disassociate yourself. i have had to do this before and it works wonders. once you realize the place is a lost cause, just do what it is what you have to do and do it with a smile. don't let them 'beat you'. my mother once told me 'look at it like summer camp, it will come to an end at some point and you will move on'. put the negative energy to work and find a new job! if you are like me and needed to keep the funds flowing until the big day, you must just suck it up and then start looking once you get back from your honeymoon...



wedding stress doesn't help - it sucks

Re: VENT. Anyone else feel like they just are at the breaking point??!!

Thats kind of funny - I posted about hating my job this morning in the NWR board. I signed a contrat (Note to brides: dont EVER sign employment contracts!) I plan on quitting the second my contract is up - So why aren't you quitting


BTW - I'm an auditor

Re: VENT. Anyone else feel like they just are at the breaking point??!!

there must be something going around.. i just posted on NWR earlier today that I was so upset and frustrated with my job also (amongst other things...)

I know that the job crap along w/the added stress of an upcoming wedding is enough to push you to the brink.. I don't have much advice, but I just wanted to lend my support and give you lots of with the hopes that things get even a little better for you as each day passes!

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My FI is a divorce lawyer too and I am finishing my dissertation this year so I am not working. I am a little nervous about money because my parents' have always significantly contributed to my lifestyle. The pay my rent, they bought me my car, all the insurance, tuition, cell phone, etc. FI pays the rest of the rent, and all of the other bills for the apartment. I have used the money I make from tutoring to pay for clothes, food, the pets, etc. So I am definitely worried about whether I can maintain my lifestyle once we get married. It sounds like you need to talk to your FI. Divorce lawyers make good money and maybe he can afford you working part time or not at all. I guess you should ask him what he expects to pay for.

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My theory is that everything is INTENSIFIED while you are planning a wedding.

Examples:

1 . What would have been a small fight with FH turns into a huge screaming match....and me crying.

2. What would normally just 'bug' me at work turns into 'I hate my job and I'm leaving it and going back to school to change careers!!!'... and me crying.

3. Our electric bill being $20 more this month becomes 'We're going to be bankrupt!!! We have no money!!'...and me crying.

So basically I just cry a lot - and I'm not normally a crier. But then I'm over it and know I'm being silly, which doesn't stop it from happening the next day, but makes me feel like I have some perspective.

The messed-up thing is that I will probably miss the planning when this is all said and done!!!

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Yay, I found someone getting married on the same day as me!

I think it's just natural to stress right now. It's hard not to. I was figuring out how much I'm going to need to pay vendors yesterday, and we don't have enough in our savings at the moment. We will probably have to charge some, and we already have bad enough bills as it is. And then I think about how much we have to tip everyone, and it adds up to a lot.

I think it is not only the wedding that's stressing you out, but what you want to do as a career and if you want to go back to school. That's a whole different thing to stress about. Only you can decide what you want to do about that.

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I am right next to you, I can sleep but I wake up thinking money, and all day...We just took 1/2 of our wedding money for a deposit on a house, a house I love, and want, but now we are short $$$ for the wedding and I can't do a few things for the wedding which I wanted to do. Which frustrates me and I feel suffocated b/c I can't spend money on anything right now!!! It is horrible. I am sliently freaking out b/c FH is not working OT on Saturday...to me right now HE does not even have a choice, and I feel like he is not stressing as much as I am...But I know he is b/c we haven't been 'close' for a few weeks....uggh....

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I'm definitely with all of you. I'm stressed about money, yet we keep spending it on the wedding. FH and I are having our own issues right now and we're going to be away from each other for almost a week. I keep on planning stuff when sometimes I just want to run away and forget about the whole thing (the wedding, not FH.)