Vent BM/Dad

Im going to make this as short as possible.

I am suppose to have 11 BM 2 MOHs. Only 8 have paid & ordered their dresses. One dropped out the rest have not contacted me or anything. Im not calling them bcuz I told them the dead line was to order in Aug then pushed it back to Nov (I did send them reminders up to the day). I refuse to chase adults. I assumed that the remaining women no longer wanted to be BMs. My Dad is pissed bcuz the ones who have not ordered their dresses are family (cousins). Hes says Im being a bridezilla bcuz I refuse to contact them & assumed they no longer want to be in the wedding. He thinks its too early to have them order their dresses bcuz the wedding isnt until Aug & nobdy wants to have a dress in their closet from now to then.

Im super pissed bcuz Im far from a Bridezilla, I have been nothing but nice and calm throughout this whole process. Im just really upset.

Thanks for reading

i know how you feel about waiting and waiting for BMs to order dresses ... it's very frustrating

i think you should give them one more shot though ... talk to them in person and tell them that if they don't want to be in the wedding, then you understand ... but if they do want to stay in it, that they need to order the dresses in the next week. Make sure you say it nicely though so nobody gets defensive.

it'll get your dad off your back, and give you closure as well.

ps: i don't think you're being bridezilla at all ...

The reason there's such a big time line to order dresses is because it take a while for them to come in..! You should explain that to your dad.

My best friend ordered our dresses in January of last year.. and we got it a week before her wedding (end of June).. on a RUSH DELIVERY.

Just an FYI.

Ive trying to explain to my Dad that some dresses take 6 months or more to come in...he just doesnt understand.

As for calling them, Ive called just to say 'Hello' and they wont answer...even after Ive left messages.

I just found out one is preggo and due Sept 1, she told me shes out. Two others have changed thier phone numbers, which nobdy in the family seems to have.


They all have had the dress info since MAY, the dress is less than $200 with tax. Its now 10 months later...I dont know what else to say. My wedding is in Miami, FL if they cant buy a dress in 10 months how can I expect them to get to FL?

I definitely believe the dresses should've been ordered by now, but I disagree with assuming they don't want to be in anymore. I'd get in touch with them and ask where they stand. Sometimes we forget that our weddings aren't the only thing on everyone else's mind

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Posted by M_Berk-Glenn

Ive trying to explain to my Dad that some dresses take 6 months or more to come in...he just doesnt understand.

As for calling them, Ive called just to say 'Hello' and they wont answer...even after Ive left messages.

I just found out one is preggo and due Sept 1, she told me shes out. Two others have changed thier phone numbers, which nobdy in the family seems to have.


They all have had the dress info since MAY, the dress is less than $200 with tax. Its now 10 months later...I dont know what else to say. My wedding is in Miami, FL if they cant buy a dress in 10 months how can I expect them to get to FL?

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wow, i can't believe they don't even call you to say hi or whatnot ... very rude! sorry you have to deal with this bull- ...

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Posted by jilliibabii

It's frustrating, but honestly, you are just going to cause more issues/confusion for yourself in the long run. I'd call them and say if you don't order your dress by next week, it won't be here in time and you cannot be in the wedding and then leave it at that.

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I agree. If they don't pick up I would also leave a message saying that. They are not being fair to you, they could at least call you back.

I dont think your being a bridezilla at all! I had my girls order their dresses last september and my wedding is in august too .....(I picked out dresses I liked and didnt want them to be discontinued) Some bridal stores will let you leave the dresses there until the fittings are scheduled.

I would call the girls who havent gone for the dresses yet and ask them if there are any problems or reasons why they havent gone for the dress yet.....I know I waited a month for one of my bm bc of money issues