FH's mom (i'll never refer to her as FMIL or MIL) finally emails us her guest list. Today she sends an email and says. ' Don't invite the out of state cousins. I know they aren't going to come and that will put them on the spot to send a gift'. Who the heck is she to tell us what to do. She hasn't offered 1 cent to help, nor has she every offered to help w/any plans such as looking at vendors, etc. If these relatives don't send a gift thats fine, maybe they will want to send a card w/their good wishes.
tricia3381
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Posted by AllJoy
FH's mom (i'll never refer to her as FMIL or MIL) finally emails us her guest list. Today she sends an email and says. ' Don't invite the out of state cousins. I know they aren't going to come and that will put them on the spot to send a gift'. Who the heck is she to tell us what to do. She hasn't offered 1 cent to help, nor has she every offered to help w/any plans such as looking at vendors, etc. If these relatives don't send a gift thats fine, maybe they will want to send a card w/their good wishes.
i say as long as FH is ok witu inviting them, then invite them.
LaurenRich
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I say if you are paying you invite who you want......ultimately it is your decision!
thelastresort
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What?! Never mind the gift issue...how about how those relatives may be forever insulted that you didn't invite them to your wedding? Saying 'Oh. FH's mom said not to' isn't going to cut the mustard! That's not her decision to make. Invite them.
madseason
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can you make a trade??
AllJoy
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Posted by lollipop
What?! Never mind the gift issue...how about how those relatives may be forever insulted that you didn't invite them to your wedding? Saying 'Oh. FH's mom said not to' isn't going to cut the mustard! That's not her decision to make. Invite them.
I agree. Thanks. She's so clueless!
Kaytea
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I got the same treatment about the guest list, i'm inviting those people anyway.
Captsarkasm
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I would say check with your FH....but if he is fine with it, then who is your 'FMIL' to tell you who not to invite. The relatives that don't want to be there, won't come. GOOD LUCK!!
JeanetteandSteve
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omg first of all it's YOUR wedding so you do what you want.
not to mention if she's NOT paying anything...she has absolutely no right.
snydl40
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If you want them there, then invie them. If you don't mind not inviting them, then save some $ and don't.
