VENT Guest List...

So I'm working on getting all the addresses together for my guest list and it turns out that we are inviting over 350 guests! and still growing! Now FH has a BIG family which is fine but I really see this as being out of control. I mean FMIL is inviting people from Texas, Nevada, Canada, South Carolina people I have never met and FH hasn't seen in forever. I ordered 170 invitations and now I need to order more. My parents and FH's parents are splitting the cost of the RH but my mom says she is not paying for all the extra people. Our minimum at RH is 215 and my mom does not want to pay for more than 230 people. I don't know what to do FH's mom says she can't cut anymore but meanwhile she has 128 invitations alone! My family only has 45, and my mom doesn't think it's fair she needs to split the cost when FIL's have so many more people invited. Sorry to vent but FH is no help!

Awww sweetie it will be ok. Just breathe in and out. Ummm I kind of agree with your mom, FMIL is getting a little out of hand. Your FH needs to sit her down, cause at the end of the day this day is for you and him and big old party for everyone else. I
'm flipping out and I'm at about 225. I refuse to go any further. My mimimum is 200. You guys really need to nip this in the bud now. In my opnion its not worth it to have so many people cause the it makes the day so hectic, having to say hi and take pics, etc.... ( But I am in NO WAY telling you what to do)

Are kids on the guest list cause thats a good way to shorten the list. That's what I did. Hope all works out. Just have a cool calm conversation with your hubby about this.

I agree with your mom! Why should she pay for all those people she probably won't even get to meet! It might be time to cut down a generation like FMIL and FFIL's cousins and their kids if they're invited, taking out kids (under 18) altogether, things like that. You might find if you tell FMIL that she has to pay for all those extra people, she'll figure out some more people to cut. As long as FH has your back if need be, there shouldn't be any issue with you telling her what's what.

PLUS you'll have to greet all of those people in like 5 hours! If you have 10 people per table, that's 35 tables which breaks down to 7 tables an hour in a 5 hour reception, which is less than 10 minutes at each table. And that's not counting any dancing, eating, or fun things like enjoying your wedding!

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Posted by mf2009

Awww sweetie it will be ok. Just breathe in and out. Ummm I kind of agree with your mom, FMIL is getting a little out of hand. Your FH needs to sit her down, cause at the end of the day this day is for you and him and big old party for everyone else. I
'm flipping out and I'm at about 225. I refuse to go any further. My mimimum is 200. You guys really need to nip this in the bud now. In my opnion its not worth it to have so many people cause the it makes the day so hectic, having to say hi and take pics, etc.... ( But I am in NO WAY telling you what to do)

Are kids on the guest list cause thats a good way to shorten the list. That's what I did. Hope all works out. Just have a cool calm conversation with your hubby about this.

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I know it's crazy having this many people! If I had it my way I would have a wedding with 100 people! There are not many kids just close family. I know that being the time of year I'm getting married I'm going to get a lot of no's, but it's also during presidents weekend and kids are off of school and I'm afraid people will say yes to take a vacation.

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Posted by abrennan01

I agree with your mom! Why should she pay for all those people she probably won't even get to meet! It might be time to cut down a generation like FMIL and FFIL's cousins and their kids if they're invited, taking out kids (under 18) altogether, things like that. You might find if you tell FMIL that she has to pay for all those extra people, she'll figure out some more people to cut. As long as FH has your back if need be, there shouldn't be any issue with you telling her what's what.

PLUS you'll have to greet all of those people in like 5 hours! If you have 10 people per table, that's 35 tables which breaks down to 7 tables an hour in a 5 hour reception, which is less than 10 minutes at each table. And that's not counting any dancing, eating, or fun things like enjoying your wedding!

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HaHa I plan on talking to these people during the CH and MAYBE make a quick round during dinner or something, otherwise if you need me I'll be on the dance floor!

But seriously FIL's have their cousins, their aunts, uncles, neighbors etc. Like I have more friends I would've like to invited from college and work but I don't think I can because of all her people!