VENT - im sad

for anyone that does not know me, ive been with my FH for about 9 years off and on...7 years into our relationship he proposed to me. it was beautiful and everything i could ask for...we started planning right away and set a date of 12/1/12 at Jericho Terrace...then 6 months later i called it off because I felt that we grew into different people and were not supposed to be together. we stayed friends he was adamant about that and it was great...i dated around while staying friends with him and in the end realized that we could not be MORE perfect for each other. i spoke to him about my feelings and he totally agreed. things have been great and i feel totally different towards him, ive never loved anyone like this before he is by far the love of my life...it sucks i took so long to realize but im glad he took me back...

but i cant help but obsessively think that i could still be planning a wedding and getting married in less than 6 months

im such an idiot.

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Posted by rdhbride

Don't be sad! You did what you had to do in order to be sure you guys were meant to be! Had you kept your original date, you might still be questioning if you were making the right decision! It's better to know!

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Definitely agree! It worked out for you regardless, you were able to think things through and it made you realize the value of your relationship. It is better to be sure than to second guess yourself. Anyway, you're probably thinking that you could have had your wedding this year instead of next year but time really flies, so use it to your advantage and just enjoy the moment.

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Posted by pixietina

I was so sad to hear when you split up and I am really happy that you two realized you want to be together. Don't worry about dates because you two will spend the rest of your lives together.

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thanks hun!

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Posted by pixietina

I was so sad to hear when you split up and I am really happy that you two realized you want to be together. Don't worry about dates because you two will spend the rest of your lives together.

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This totally!!!

you are all definitely right, the time i hurt him ****** but it was needed to truly appreciate him as a man and his love for me....it amazes me how forgiving and generous he is. i LOVED my old engagement ring but when we got back together I told him I could absolutely never wear that ring again, its bad luck to me now! i thought he was going to be upset because he took the time to custom make it, but his response was 'u want a new ring u got it, whatever it takes to make u happy' ugh

Do not beat yourself up! What is most important is that you have no doubts that this is the man you are meant to spent your life with. Many people get married never having that knowledge. That is what is most important, not how long you have been engaged for. Your wedding day will be so special for you because you now have a deeper appreciation of your FH & your relationship and that is what is most important.

Seriously, everything happens for a reason.

DH and I had to postpone our wedding for several reasons and we ended up getting married 5 YEARS after our original wedding date. On one hand I feel like, wow, we could have experienced so much more and been married and so happy like we are now so much sooner, but on the other hand I know he experiences we went through really helped us to grow up and mature and paved the way for how amazing and strong our marriage is. That moment of inrospection you had, and that time to date around and really think about things will only HELP your relationship because now you're really sure. And besides, it could be worse..it could be 5 years!

DON'T beat yourself up. You want to talk about making sure that the person is right for you, my FH is my HS sweatheart. We broke up over 20 years ago, married other people, had 1 child each and divored. Found each other on classmates and here we are getting married.

Being apart for a brief period of time to make sure that the person is the right one is sometimes what needs to be done.

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Posted by dawnbon26

DON'T beat yourself up. You want to talk about making sure that the person is right for you, my FH is my HS sweatheart. We broke up over 20 years ago, married other people, had 1 child each and divored. Found each other on classmates and here we are getting married.

Being apart for a brief period of time to make sure that the person is the right one is sometimes what needs to be done.

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what a sweet story...

Everything happens for a reason. Now you really appreciate one another! Some day you guys will get married and you get to enjoy the process all over again!

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Posted by ksugar44

Everything happens for a reason. Now you really appreciate one another! Some day you guys will get married and you get to enjoy the process all over again!

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I definitely agree, I even think he might be thinking of something soon. we are closer than ever and i happen to be going thru some family drama and hes there for me as always and keeps saying well when we get married blah blah and sooner than later to getting married so I think maybe Im whining for nothing

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Posted by futurearias

went through pretty much the same with my FH..it def. makes you stronger as a couple tho...

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definitely...ive never felt closer to him in 9 years!

so happy you two were able to work things out and are soo happy together. and thats all that matters, that you two are happy together. dont stress yourself over the 'coulda's' cause now you know you are 100% doing the right thing.
sometimes you need that space to clear things up.

so happy you two worked things out!

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Posted by irisheyezrsmilen

so happy you two were able to work things out and are soo happy together. and thats all that matters, that you two are happy together. dont stress yourself over the 'coulda's' cause now you know you are 100% doing the right thing.
sometimes you need that space to clear things up.

so happy you two worked things out!

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