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VENT!!!!! ( LONG, SORRY!)

RKellner Posted:

VENT!!!!! ( LONG, SORRY!)

So I need to vent, where better to than here?!

So last night was interesting to say the least!!!!
Me and FH are/were staying with his parents since right now we are trying to pay the wedding off ourselves....
His father is an a$$hole, and thats me being nice!!!!
He has a drinking/drug problem and he likes to start trouble alot!
So we have a 14 month old daughter and FMIL took her in her room for the night (his father sleeps on the couch, no one can stand him!!!) which was great cos we had a little alone time (yea we are fun, we watch Tila Tequila in our alone time hahaha!)... Well his father was drinking apparently and started up his crap with FMIL so of course FH gets up and was telling his father to shutup that he is going to wake the baby.... FFIL( God help me!) was like 'I DONT CARE, ITS MY F'N HOUSE, GET OUT IF YOU DONT LIKE IT!'
So of course this sets off FH... Meanwhile his father is still continuing on with his mother saying hurtful things and finally she snaps... She starts beating him with the mop(LMAO!) and then he grabs it and throws it at her... Then lifts his hand like he was going to punch her... Of course FH jumps in the middle of that (NO ONE touches his mother!) and then him and his father start going at it.... OIIIII! His father proceeds to punch him in the face 4 times... BASTAR D!!!! But no marks on FH, no pain, I love him LOL, he's so strong! So anyways... FH goes at him and his father flinches and raises up to FH so FH pushes him, his drunk legs come out from underneath him and he bashes his head open on the counter.... Now at this time, Im getting mine and the baby's stuff together to go to my mother's.... My daughter wakes up, Ive never seen her jump out of fear so high in my life!!!! And then she starts screaming... I just looked at his father and told him he will NEVER see my daughter again, and I promise him that!!!!
Ive had it... He did this a couple times before with my daughter right there... He did this while I was pregnant but with my mother... He started shoving my mother and I got involved then.... but thats another LONG story...
Anyways we called the police and the only way to get him out of the house was for FH to press charges against him, which is hard for him since it is still his father, but he did it anyways.. And then his father throws his USUAL ACT claiming his heart hurts, blaaahhhhh blaaahhhh, but we warned the cops ahead of time he would pull this..... so before he claims his heart... he tries to get tough with the cops!!!!! He says...'DONT YOU DARE PUT YOUR F'N HANDS ON ME, ILL F YOU UP, ILL SMASH YOUR F'N FACES IN'
So they take out their flash lights and raise them up.... but they didnt have to hit him since thats when he started with his heart pains and crying, blah blah blah....
So like 10 cops were inside all laughing at him....
Anyways, they took him away and he will without a doubt be out today... So I am NOT going back there with my daughter!
Ive never hated someone so much in my entire life... I wish the worst would happen to him, even though I shouldnt.. I cant help it!
Sorry so long, I needed to vent... If you read this whole thing.. THANK YOU!!!!
bluegreen08 Posted:

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SB7308 Posted:

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awww i'm sorry you are going through this. He needs to get help but he wont get it until he hits rock bottom.
You and your FH need to do whats best for your daughter. She should not be in that environment.

I hope everything works out.
futuremrsfab Posted:

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wow so sorry that that happened to you and your fh and your daughter- i am really glad to hear that you are not going back there to live. good luck & keep us posted
Kimbalina Posted:

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WOW! that is awful. Families can be a mess some times. I hope that it all works out for the best.

skinny237 Posted:

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Wow, I don't even know what to say...
How horrible!
AllyDrew1108 Posted:

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I wish you guys could move out. That doesn't sound healthy for you and your little family
mariaobride Posted:

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omg so so sorry to hear yup defintely dont go back there especially with your daughter not a healthy environment-
mandag Posted:

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That is so terrible and I am very sorry for how painful it must have been. Has anyone ever tried to stage an intervention with your FFIL?

Good luck and I hope you have somewhere else that is safe and calm to stay for now!

RKellner Posted:

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Thanks girls!
yea I gotta talk to FH tonight after he gets home from work...about not staying there cos I KNOW his mother will take him back!!!!
As much as I feel bad leaving his mother and grandmother alone, my daughter comes first!!!!
Ill move in with my mother for now...
OIIIIII I HATE HIS FATHER SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!
SparklingBride10 Posted:

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RKellner Posted:

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Posted by mandag

That is so terrible and I am very sorry for how painful it must have been. Has anyone ever tried to stage an intervention with your FFIL?

Good luck and I hope you have somewhere else that is safe and calm to stay for now!




never could happen!
Ive thought about it but his father is a powerhouse...
If we all tried to talk to him about it, he would flip, go out, and come home blitzed! And then start with everyone all over again!'

Isnt there a way for his mother to force him into rehab?
I know a spouse could put the other in a mental institution... why not rehab?!
mandag Posted:

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I completely understand where you are coming from - sometimes it WOULD be good if a wife could force a husband or vice versa into rehab.

I'm sorry an intervention won't work for you, either - it sounds like until your FMIL refuses to deal with him anymore he won't change, though!

Has she (or your FH) ever thought about attending Alanon? It might help give her tools to deal with him.

Hang in there. My thoughts are with you.
JoesFutureWife Posted:

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Omg that is terrible I hope this never happens again!
MrsHtobe Posted:

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oh wow, but I think you made the right decision. That is no environment for your daughter to be in. You need to do what is best for her!

Good luck!
Shell84 Posted:

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Wow that is horrible
RKellner Posted:

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Posted by mandag

I completely understand where you are coming from - sometimes it WOULD be good if a wife could force a husband or vice versa into rehab.

I'm sorry an intervention won't work for you, either - it sounds like until your FMIL refuses to deal with him anymore he won't change, though!

Has she (or your FH) ever thought about attending Alanon? It might help give her tools to deal with him.

Hang in there. My thoughts are with you.



Never heard of it but Ill look into it...
She wants to divorce him but he wouldnt ever sign the papers.. So she is going to refinance the house, get a lawyer and sue him for a divorce. Only way she would be able to do it is to buy him out.. So shes going to have to give him like 100K and who knows when she will be able to do that... I doubt she ever will... She always forgives him...
She wants to put FH on the mortgage and then have us pay the extra money after refinancing.. But we dont have it... I told FH NO WAY!!!! If we had that money, we would own our own home!
I cant wait to get away from everyone LOL!
Celest Posted:

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That is horrendous & I am so sorry you all had to experience that. Your right it S*cks and how you feel is completely understandable. I will be sending you positive thoughts today.
Celest Posted:

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Has Fh ever gone for counseling? I know they have it for people whose parents have an abuse issue. & it ***** for anyone to have to experience that, it leaves scars on people & it is not fair. It is not easy for anyone to go through that.

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