My MIL she has quite a few grandchildren but lives upstate and most of them live in Long Island she complains that she doesn't get to see them that often and that MArissa (my daughter) isn't really gonna know her cuz they dont' see her alot. So my FH and I take trips up to see her at least once a month and she doesn't bother with my daughter she will be all into her for like 10 15 mintues and thats it. But when her other grand daughter that lives upstate comes over she makes a big deal about her and pays no mind to marissa and I don't think thats right cuz you see her all the time and never really see my daughter. Plus when she comes down to the city she will say she is gonna stay by me or one of her other children to spend time with the grandchildren but then stays at her sisters and goes to bingo 24 - 7. She has been complaining that my mom (lives in PA)had her for a week and FH father and stepmother (live in LI) get her every now and then for a weekend here and there and its not fair that she don't get a chance with her so I jsut told her that bingo is more important then your grandchildren and when we come up there my daughter gets pushed a side. She didn't know what to say cuz she knew it was the truth. SO just recently Fh Stepdad was talking to FH and he wants to take my daughter upstate for the week. I am not to keen on it but FH said to let her go and see how it goes I am very iffy about it cuz like I said MIL doesn't pay her mind I know Fh stepfather is very good with her and his sister will be there after she gets home from work. I don 't kn ow if I should let her go or not.
boobobunny
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How old is Marissa?
If she is under a year....I wouldn't let go with out you or her father. She is too little to be left with people that she is not used to. This is not saying that they wouldn't take good care of her...but its like you said she doesn't see them that much... and as little as she is she knows her people and recognizes those that she spends the most time with.
We have to leave our son in August when we go on our Honeymoon...but he will be a just a year and he is staying with my parents who watch him everyday while I am at work...on LI, close to his doctors.
I can't imagine leaving James with someone for a week that he is not used to. He would spend the week screaming his head off.
iffer042373
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She is 9 months and I told my FH this cuz she does know who people are and doesn't g o to strangers and things like that I am very very iffy about leaving her there
michele31
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Personally, I would not leave my 9 month old for more than a few hours...NOT overnight. JMO. I would not be comfortable with it, unless it was for an emergency or something like that. Since this is for a visit MAYBE I would go with my daughter and tell my MIL that when Marissa is older she can stay with her but for now, you and your DH will go out for a nice night and she can play with Marrissa for the next 3-4 hours. See how that goes before leaving her there for so long...especially a WEEK! That is nuts IMO.
iffer042373
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I have left her with my mom for a week once cuz I had to have surgery and once cuz my mom just wanted her but this was a while ago and once a month my FH stepmom and father take her for the weekend.
The thing with his mom is that she just doesn't seem into my daughter so thats why I am iffy about leaving her
