Vent - Parents - OOTers & Honeymoon (kinda long)

There are 9 family members (8 on myside) coming from Poland for our wedding - they are arriving 4/17 and 7 of them are staying until 5/5 (a monday) so my mom asked me if we could hold off with the honeymoon until 5/9 - i was like ehhh that su*cks but whatever - shes' like we need to show them nyc, niagra falls, blabla - and 7 people is alot to deal with since they're all going to be living at my parents---- so I told FH lets just go on the 9th of may and forget it ---- so today FH and I went to my parents to pick out the menu & the conversation started---- my dad was saying how we should be going on our honeymoon on sun or monday after the wedding not waiting 3 weeks - that the guests from poland arent our responsibility and how we're not going to want to drive up to niagra falls and all this crap so then my mom and dad started arguing (mind you they like never ever argue) & my mom was saying how this is my moms family coming from poland &theyre spending so much $ on the tickets adn they want to see a little bit of ny & blablabla....
so then Im like to FH --- lets just go i dont want to hear this--- and hes like oh i thought you were the one that wanted to leave for our HM on the 9th of may and im like noooo if it was up to me then we'd leave on sunday - so now i know there is drama bc i called my mom about 20 min ago and im like are you alright? and shes like im not involving myself anymore, im not going to comment or make suggestions you guys do whatever you want!!!



ETA: I do want to stay and spend some time with my family for Poland but at the same time I dont want to wait 3 weeks - I know we'll wait the 2-3 weeks just so theres no drama but its annoying you know? Plus my mom always said how her mom (my grandma) planned her entire wedding and she doesnt want to do that to me.

i just needed to vent

I think this may be one of those situations that time will actually heal. If it is not a big deal to postpone your HM, then do it. You never know, you may actually enjoy being a tourist and showing off all NY has to offer. Plus, it is probably something that means a lot to your mom. I'm sure dad was feeling badly that you postponed your HM and now your mom feels guilty, but I do think it will settle.

Good luck!

While I agree that it would b nice to spend some special time with those family members coming all the way from Poland.
It's not your responsibility to entertain them for 3 weeks!

just try and think about what you would like to do the most....if its going to kill you the whole time your home knowing...'wow i should be on my honeymoon right now' then dont worry about everyone else..its your wedding...do it however you want. If its not a big deal and you would rather spend time with the fam then it would make you feel better about them coming over and what not...its really how you feel

BTW i agree with the previous post...i dont think its your responsiblity to entertain family for 3 weeks..that would be my opinion

how long will your HM be? Not 3 weeks, right? I would think you could go on the HM and still get back in time to spend some time with the OOTers? Might be better to just appease your mom if you don't mind postponing the HM.....good luck figuring it all out!!

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Posted by Snick n Nick

how long will your HM be? Not 3 weeks, right? I would think you could go on the HM and still get back in time to spend some time with the OOTers? Might be better to just appease your mom if you don't mind postponing the HM.....good luck figuring it all out!!

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Thanks - I was actually thinking about leaving on the 20th and we'd be back by the 30th --- that would leave us one weekend to hang out wiht them -