Long story short.....2 years ago my aunts and sisters got into a brawl over...i dont even know what, actually i dont think anyone knows why. Anyway, I have nothing to do with this fight and I feel like I'm being punished! I've done everything in my power to keep my family together and its failed horribly..
My aunts and cousins that have been part of my life through everything (up until two years ago) aren't coming to my wedding. Not the church, not the reception. Why you ask? Because they don't feel comfortable 'seeing my sisters during this time of trouble'
ARE YOU %^&*(*&^%$%^&*(*&^% KIDDING?! So I'm the wrong one why??? I've been crying all night I'm so betrayed and hurt..Ugh.
Has anyone gone through this??
spdy540
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Sorry you are dealing with this. I have people not coming because my mom who is most likely not coming and my one of grandmother is not coming because my last wedding was called off. It's a sh*try situation and unfortunately people are just ridiculous see if you can talk to them if not don't let their petty stuff ruin your day
atitus724
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There's SO much more to this too...I can't even stomach my 'family' right now..
angelscri
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Sorry you are going through this, I know exactly how you feel. 2 of my cousins (twins) are not coming to my wedding either, because we got into an argument a few months ago, and a few weeks later I was planning my other cousins baby shower for her she decided that she did not want any men at the shower, I told her that I thought she shouldn't exclude the guys, well she had already told the family that she did not want men at her shower, and my aunt (the twins mother) decided to turn around and tell everyone that I was the one who made up the no men policy as a way of excluding the twins from coming. I had to hold my tongue throughout the entire shower. Needless to say, I plan on telling her off after the wedding, cause she still does not know I know what she said. Hopefully your family changes their minds and attends the wedding, until then try not to let anyone upset you.
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People are soo rediculous!! I dont understand why people just dont give up their petty problems for a day, so someone else can enjoy their spotlight problem free? I'm sorry you have to go thru this hun.
atitus724
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thanks girls...i just never thought my wedding would be without family..
PhyllisNJoe
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Sometimes even family can be disappointing. One of my brother's didn't come because of him not talking to my other brother. At first he wasn't walking to my brother, sister and mother, but right before the wedding he started talking to them but still had an issue with my brother. SO, I cried about it for while bc he and I are very close, but realized it's his loss, not mine.
It was hard enough keeping it together missing my father every second of that day, it would have been nice to have all of my siblings there.
The day was still wonderful and yours will be too! All the people who love you will be there to support you and wish you well and believe me, you'll feel it
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I totally understand what your going through i have a very similar issue with my mother's side of the family. I know FH side of the family is going to be there but my family will probably be maybe 3 tables I really honestly think that this is a time to celebrate the unity of two people, its not about them but some people dont understand that. I look at it this way, if they are my family and are happy for me and want to share that day with me then they will put there differences aside and go, i hope it works out for you, personally me i have hard headed aunts so i already know they are not coming :(
atitus724
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ugh...then they're expecting my sister to kiss their arses..are you kidding me? nlo way
VCanizalez
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I am SOOO sorry chica!!! WOW I cant believe it! I dunno wy ppl do this type of sh!t!!!!!
I got the same thing but for his fam.. 'Since u invited X person, I amy not come & If i come You better sit me with X & X' Like WTGFFFFFFFFFFFFF
BEHAVE LIKE AN ADULT!!!
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AWWW
yes i have ... but a little differently
my husbands aunt NO SHOWED $(#&@#**)@#% our wedding because she got into a fight with my husbands mother
she didnt come and she didnt bring her two daughter ( who we paid for)
my husband and I got punished because she hates my mother in law
we lost out on 3 plates!! (*#$%(&@#%&*@#$*)&@#$
so in a way...be happy she is telling you in advance and not just punking out afterward i guess
AudioLoveStory
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Same thing happened to me. NO ONE from my mom's side of the family came because they didn't want to have to see my mom.
Kelli218
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It's sad but everyone has issues like this in their families... it's just a part of life.... We just have to be happy with our decisions and it's their loss if they don't celebrate our day!!!!
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It's your wedding day!!!! Family doesn't always have to be blood related. I'm sure that you've invited friends that are closer to you than your own family. the people that really love and care for you and are truly happy for you will be there. yes, people are so selfish. but don't let this affect you on your day. everyone says the day goes by so fast, you don't want to not enjoy yourself because of someone else, don't give them that power.
Ang9483
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I have moronic cousins who don't come to anything and I doubt they will come to the wedding. They are soo freaking weird I swear. They don't even have a valid excuse they are just miserable. If they show up I will be in utter shock. I guess I will have to wait and see.
