VENT/ Question

Fh's cousin has been evil to me since we started dating (3 + years ago). At first it didn't bother me that much, because she's BF with his ex-girlfriend and i get the whole stand by your friends thing... but seriously that's olllllllllllllllldddddddddd news- they've been broken up wayyy longer than they were together, and she's still a total b*tch!

She's getting married in Tampa in March and of course we have to go, but i'm dreading it b/c the ex- is going to be a bridesmaid and I'm worried they'll be all 'mean girls' on me.

to top it off she decided on Monday that it's now going to be a 'black tie optional' wedding. WHO MAKES A DECISION LIKE THAT A MONTH BEFORE HER BIG DAY??!?!? was she not planning her wedding the whole time???

I bought this really cute betsey johnson dress thinking it was going to be a normal non-NY wedding. I probably already know the answer to this, but is there anyway I can get away with wearing this, or do i have to go buy a second, fancier dress?

part of me wants to say f-you and wear it, but she's nasty enough already i don't need to give her a legitimate reason not to like me... and as superficial as it is i want to look at least 10x's better than his ex.

Thanks for getting this far, and for your opinion!


edit...ughh the pic of the dress won't post... but here's a link to it if you don't mind looking. http://www.flickr.com/photos/59632306@N05/5456111585/

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Posted by AngnShaun

is she for real... how is it possible to let every single guest know... if i were you i'd take that 'OPTIONAL' to heart and where whatever i wanted....

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I know!!! she just posted it on her wedding website, and it might be on the invitations, which FH's mother said were just mailed out this week.

...can you believe how behind she is????

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Posted by Supermans

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Posted by AngnShaun

is she for real... how is it possible to let every single guest know... if i were you i'd take that 'OPTIONAL' to heart and where whatever i wanted....

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I know!!! she just posted it on her wedding website, and it might be on the invitations, which FH's mother said were just mailed out this week.

...can you believe how behind she is????

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i had 10 views on my wedding website and 250 people came to my wedding...

shes nuts... but i would find a different dress... maybe a darker color...

You don't even want to go, so........I would go with the 'OPTION' & wear what I have. She is going to dislike you no matter what you wear. So what do you have to loose.

check and see what the invites have written on them about the black tie optional part.
while i think the dress is really cute sor like a sunday out or if you had to dress up somewhere, i would never wear that to a wedding, even a non NY one because i think it would be too casual.
I would buy another dress.

I would get something fancy and HOT.

For one reason only, to make the ex girlfriend jealous. hehehehe

It's a cute dress and you COULD wear it if you wanted to. My wedding was 'black tie perferred' and people came in cocktail dresses. Actually a lot of people came in cocktail dresses. I think the people who were actually wearing long dresses looked VERY nice and elegant but stuck out because of all the cute cocktail dresses.

ANYWAY, I think you can get away with this dress. It's in Tampa so she might have done it for the same reason my cousin put it on her invite, she was scared if she didn't put that people could possibly come in dress plants and polo shirt and she didn't want that. The 'optional' tells you that you should dress up but it doesn't have to be a prom dress. Wear the dress but make sure your FH wears a black suit with a white shirt and dark tie.

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Posted by Jsquared

I would get something fancy and HOT.

For one reason only, to make the ex girlfriend jealous. hehehehe

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I totally agree! I would look at this as an opportunity to strut your sexy @*** around for everyone to see. While you're at it, kill them with kindness. 'Everything is GORGEOUS. We're so happy for you guys.' Same with the ex. Prove that you're cuter, sweeter, and clearly the winner of this round.

Ooh, I sound so shallow right now... but I still say go for the fancier option.

Thanks for all the advice.

I really appreciate the support!

I think i'm gonna bite the bullet and buy a more formal dress... a gorgeous sexxxy dress!! Show these ******* whose boss! lol.

is this one too fancy??






http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=528263&CategoryID=18109#fn=SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DEvening/Formal%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D137

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Posted by Supermans

Thanks for all the advice.

I really appreciate the support!

I think i'm gonna bite the bullet and buy a more formal dress... a gorgeous sexxxy dress!! Show these ******* whose boss! lol.

is this one too fancy??






http://www1.macys.com/catalog/product/index.ognc?ID=528263&CategoryID=18109#fn=SPECIAL_OCCASIONS%3DEvening/Formal%26sp%3D1%26spc%3D137

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Ahhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love this dress!!!!!!!! Please purchase and rockkkkk it. Shove it up that biotch's a$$$$$$$$$

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Posted by KatiNoE

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Posted by Jsquared

I would get something fancy and HOT.

For one reason only, to make the ex girlfriend jealous. hehehehe

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I totally agree! I would look at this as an opportunity to strut your sexy @*** around for everyone to see. While you're at it, kill them with kindness. 'Everything is GORGEOUS. We're so happy for you guys.' Same with the ex. Prove that you're cuter, sweeter, and clearly the winner of this round.

Ooh, I sound so shallow right now... but I still say go for the fancier option.

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OMG THIS!! & that yellow dress that you posted would be HOT!

I couldn't find the yellow dress at Macy's (boooo) and FH didn't love it- he didn't think it was grandparent appropriated (double booooooooooooo)

so i bought this, because i thought it was pretty and also a little more demure... but idk if i love it or if it's even dressy enough. Should I return it and keep looking for something a *little* sexier??

http://www.gotryiton.com/looks/15139E9/



Argghhh this wedding is more stressful then my own!!

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Posted by KatiNoE

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Posted by Jsquared

I would get something fancy and HOT.

For one reason only, to make the ex girlfriend jealous. hehehehe

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I totally agree! I would look at this as an opportunity to strut your sexy @*** around for everyone to see. While you're at it, kill them with kindness. 'Everything is GORGEOUS. We're so happy for you guys.' Same with the ex. Prove that you're cuter, sweeter, and clearly the winner of this round.

Ooh, I sound so shallow right now... but I still say go for the fancier option.

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Posted by ChristineNorah

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Posted by KatiNoE

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Posted by Jsquared

I would get something fancy and HOT.

For one reason only, to make the ex girlfriend jealous. hehehehe

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I totally agree! I would look at this as an opportunity to strut your sexy @*** around for everyone to see. While you're at it, kill them with kindness. 'Everything is GORGEOUS. We're so happy for you guys.' Same with the ex. Prove that you're cuter, sweeter, and clearly the winner of this round.

Ooh, I sound so shallow right now... but I still say go for the fancier option.

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agreed! def dont go underdressed!

ps.. i think the second dress u posted is lovely! its not out there sexy but it is def classy