I am the first one of my close friends/most of my bridal party to get engaged and they just dont seem to care. I know that my life is already and will be different from my single friends but lately I feel totally left out. Its not that I want to spend all my time with them but its tough when I do see them and all they talk about is the stuff that they have done together when I wasnt there. They are all also totally unsupportive with wedding stuff and tend to make things about them. I am in no way demanding but would hope that for once they could see that its my day. Am I being selfish for wanting some attention/ respect?
Jdegeronimo22
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I don't think you're being selfish at all. I'm feeling the same way right about now. I'm the first of my siblings/cousins/friends to get married. I was also the first to get pregnant and have a child at a young age..but now that I'm getting married, it's not as exciting to them because I guess it's just expected at this point. My sisters and best friends are miles away along with FH's family and honestly..as supportive as my FH is, it's just not the same as having your girls. My mom see's this wedding as one giant expense that we can't afford. The lack of support is upsetting..esp. when we're already so stressed planning and everything. Maybe have a sit down dinner with them and explain to them how you're feeling? it should be about you!! go ahead and be the center of attention, you should be!. Even if your friends can't relate right now, they should still be supportive and be excited for you. It sucks when it feels like they aren't. I'd just try being upfront about it with them. HTH!
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That's what LIW is for! Honestly, all of us have 'wedding brain' but sane people don't want to talk about STD fonts or whatever. That's what makes this site great, all of us are willing to obsesses over that with you. I think its hard when your life changes in any way different than your friends, it's harder to relate. It's also very possible they are jealous.
LindsaylovesJustin
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I think this is something we have all been through - it stinks, but wedding planning really helps to weed out the people you dont need anymore.
MrsCtoBe5512
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Posted by lindseynaggle
That's what LIW is for! Honestly, all of us have 'wedding brain' but sane people don't want to talk about STD fonts or whatever. That's what makes this site great, all of us are willing to obsesses over that with you. I think its hard when your life changes in any way different than your friends, it's harder to relate. It's also very possible they are jealous.
this exactly... luckily some of my friends are engaged, but I still feel weird talking about wedding stuff to them all the time, but these lovely ladies are here for non-stop wedding discussion and advice :)
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I can relate..sort of. My situation is a little different though, I'm the last out of my family/friends to be getting married and I feel it's all been played out already. Both my sisters and cousin are married with kids and I still have another 9 months to go before my wedding. It sucks but in all honesty it really makes you see people's true colors and I think it just shows their jealous. Hopefully your family is more supportive then they are.
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Posted by lindseynaggle
That's what LIW is for! Honestly, all of us have 'wedding brain' but sane people don't want to talk about STD fonts or whatever. That's what makes this site great, all of us are willing to obsesses over that with you. I think its hard when your life changes in any way different than your friends, it's harder to relate. It's also very possible they are jealous.
EXACTLY this. We are all at different stages in our lives some of us are the first to get married, others are the last to get married (I'm the last of my closes friends to). While your friends may no show an interest in whats going on and especially the little details, that is what we are here for!
Fianag24
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THANKS EVERYONE! My friends are great to me most of the time but at times i feel like we are starting on different roads (which is true), just something i need to get used to.
Anna614
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Posted by LindsaylovesJustin
I think this is something we have all been through - it stinks, but wedding planning really helps to weed out the people you dont need anymore.
perfectly said. Only need the people that need you.
