VENT!...FMIL woes (long)
Okay, my FMIL has always been very nice, etc and I thought wow! Im so lucky that Im going to get a nice one.
Well, in the past month, she has done a 360.
First the day of my shower, we came home to unload presents and my dog had peed on the tile floor (he has kidney problems the poor thing). So while they are bringing in the presents, I mopped up the floor. The next day she tells my FH that my house smells like piss!! I said to him, the dog had just peed! I felt like she was insinuating that I dont clean the house. Of course he didnt think she meant it that way. But how else do you interpret your house smells like piss, and she could have said it while she was still there and not to him the next day.
A couple of weeks ago, we went to her house for dinner, my FBIL was there with his girlfriend, they end up having a big fight and leaving without saying goodbye. So we are all like what happened. Which at that point she says 'I will always take the side of my children when they have a problem with their girlfriend whether they are right or wrong'. Again another slap in the face to me.
Now, my bachelorette party was on Saturday. My friend asked her if she wanted to go to be nice. She asked if my mom was going, my friend said she didnt know. (Meanwhile FMIL has my Moms phone number and could have called her herself.) Well my Mom and my friend never got in touch (phone tag), so my friend thought she wasnt going and told my FH's mother that my Mom wasnt going. In the meantime I had talked my Mother into coming. So nobody knew my Mom was coming until about 3 o'clock the afternoon of the party.
Last night, I am at work, I try calling FH at home, it rings off the hook, the answering machine doesnt pick up, and he doesnt pick up the call waiting. I kept calling back, and no answer for about 40 minutes. Finally, I get through to him, I asked why he wasnt answering the phone, he said Im talking to my mother and shes very upset. I said about what? He said because she feels like she was lied to about the bachelorette party and everybody conspired not to have her there. So I told him the story, and now he was on her side!!! He said shes very upset, you need to call her to apologize. I said screw that, I didnt do anything wrong and Im not apologizing, it was a miscommunication!!
So needless to say, he and I had a huge fight (while Im still at work). And I feel like she is just trying to start trouble. What do you all think...am I just being paranoid or does it sound like she is being a troublemaker? I just cant believe that all this is happening 1 month before my wedding!! Please tell me your thoughts...thanks!
Well, in the past month, she has done a 360.
First the day of my shower, we came home to unload presents and my dog had peed on the tile floor (he has kidney problems the poor thing). So while they are bringing in the presents, I mopped up the floor. The next day she tells my FH that my house smells like piss!! I said to him, the dog had just peed! I felt like she was insinuating that I dont clean the house. Of course he didnt think she meant it that way. But how else do you interpret your house smells like piss, and she could have said it while she was still there and not to him the next day.
A couple of weeks ago, we went to her house for dinner, my FBIL was there with his girlfriend, they end up having a big fight and leaving without saying goodbye. So we are all like what happened. Which at that point she says 'I will always take the side of my children when they have a problem with their girlfriend whether they are right or wrong'. Again another slap in the face to me.
Now, my bachelorette party was on Saturday. My friend asked her if she wanted to go to be nice. She asked if my mom was going, my friend said she didnt know. (Meanwhile FMIL has my Moms phone number and could have called her herself.) Well my Mom and my friend never got in touch (phone tag), so my friend thought she wasnt going and told my FH's mother that my Mom wasnt going. In the meantime I had talked my Mother into coming. So nobody knew my Mom was coming until about 3 o'clock the afternoon of the party.
Last night, I am at work, I try calling FH at home, it rings off the hook, the answering machine doesnt pick up, and he doesnt pick up the call waiting. I kept calling back, and no answer for about 40 minutes. Finally, I get through to him, I asked why he wasnt answering the phone, he said Im talking to my mother and shes very upset. I said about what? He said because she feels like she was lied to about the bachelorette party and everybody conspired not to have her there. So I told him the story, and now he was on her side!!! He said shes very upset, you need to call her to apologize. I said screw that, I didnt do anything wrong and Im not apologizing, it was a miscommunication!!
So needless to say, he and I had a huge fight (while Im still at work). And I feel like she is just trying to start trouble. What do you all think...am I just being paranoid or does it sound like she is being a troublemaker? I just cant believe that all this is happening 1 month before my wedding!! Please tell me your thoughts...thanks!
