Venting and need advice

dubliner Posted: Oct 02, 2002 11:06 AM

Venting and need advice

I asked my sister (who is not my MOH) to come to the florist with me. I asked her a week ago. She said yes. I made an appointment. I picked a time that suited me and she agreed. Now she wants to make it either 2 hours earlier, or 2 hours later. Neither suits me. I don't want to cause a scene with her (we have a lot of run ins) and I don't want to change the time. I will go alone if I have or ask the MOH. but I asked her because she loves flowers

Advice?

Niecey Posted: Oct 02, 2002 11:13 AM

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What is the reason she gave for not making the scheduled time? Is it a valid one?

If you really don't want to change to time, tell her so. If not, tell her the florist siad they do not have appointments at either time she suggested. Ask if she can change her schedule and if she can't then take someone else.

It is very difficult getting appointments with vendors and it is even worse when you have to add someone else schedule to the mix. I have similar problems. My mom wants some involvement in the planning and I try to involve her but she has a crazy work schedule that doesn't always work for the vendors and myself. Ii can tell she gets sad when she can't come but for the most part she has become understanding.

NovemberSue Posted: Oct 02, 2002 11:13 AM

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You can always tell your sister that you weren't able to change the time. If she can go with you at that time like you had agreed a week ago,great. If not, then you'll see if you can go with a friend. I really don't think your sister should get annoyed because she's the one who is changing the plans you set.

MarcellaBella Posted: Oct 02, 2002 11:14 AM

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I don't see the big deal. Just go when it's good for you.. If she can't make it, then she can't make it..

dubliner Posted: Oct 02, 2002 11:20 AM

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Thanks - I was just looking for feedback as to whether I was supposed to fit into other peoples schedules or not.

I'm going to leave it at 1.30, and if she can make it great, if not, I'll ask some one else, or go alone

Thanks again

michele31 Posted: Oct 02, 2002 12:21 PM

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Tell her that you cannot reschedule but maybe she can try to make it. Ask your MOH to go with you. Sorry you are having a lot of run-ins. Not easy to deal with that too.

NuBride Posted: Oct 02, 2002 03:25 PM

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The way it sounds to me is that you are going to the Florist with or without your sister and if she wanted to come, then great. If you really wanted or needed her input you would reschedule so she can be there. If it were me and I really wanted the person there, I would (reasonably) wait for that person , otherwise I would do what your going to do.