VENTING.....long

MF9282 Posted: Jan 17, 2007 06:01 PM

VENTING.....long

Girls why are FIL's so difficult???

I am in the process of making our wedding guest list and collecting addresses. The main reason why I am also collecting addresses so early in thegame (besides wanting to be organized) is bc I have my STD's in my possesion and am ready to send em out!! My family and I mafde our list and put down all the addresses, give or take 5-10. But that's ok as long as I have the lump sum. I asked FH to ask his mom to make her wedding list and than put as many addresses down as possible that she had and we will just get the other ones as soon as she can. Well I asked FH today can u bring th elist over he said 'my mom told me it's too early to send out invites and she doesn't want them going to some people the STD magnets.' I said do you listen to what I say its for STD's not invitations are u nuts?! I asked almost over a week ago for them, I don't ask for any help nothing(FYI they have not given any $$$ no help) I don't say anything *** give me the damn listtttttttttttttttttt
Thanks girls
Sorry it makes me nuts

AlmostKulak Posted: Jan 17, 2007 06:06 PM

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Sorry that you are going through this, Maybe you could talk to her yoursef and explain what you need them now for!! Good Luck!!

Mooshyboo Posted: Jan 17, 2007 06:43 PM

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Beleive it or not... some people dont know what STD's are... I had some people call me when they received ours and tell me they received my invitation and they will mail the RSVP ASAP...(hellllooooo there wasnt any RSVP) I am waiting for the rest of my list too.... from my parents & FMIL...

Maybe you could explain to her what STD's are and maybe she has some maybes on her list that she is unsure about... maybe just get the immediate family and send the STD's etc...

Good Luck!

jax1023 Posted: Jan 17, 2007 06:46 PM

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Ha, I;ve been waiting for 5 months for a list. Hope you get yours before me.

I told FH the invites are going out the 2nd week in March. If I dont get adresses by then, their relatives just aren;t getting invited and it wont bother me.

MattandTricia07 Posted: Jan 17, 2007 06:48 PM

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I had a similar problem so I went over to their house with my list and took her address book and wrote them down myself! Sometimes people just don't understand so you just have to do it yourself- it's a pain I know- good luck

camerakrazie Posted: Jan 17, 2007 06:49 PM

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oh man....FIL can be a pain

Princess Cut Bride Posted: Jan 17, 2007 06:51 PM

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I'm sorry you are going through this. Maybe you can call your FMIL and ask her yourself. Just explain to her what you need them for.

naps714 Posted: Jan 17, 2007 07:03 PM

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Posted by MattandTricia07

I had a similar problem so I went over to their house with my list and took her address book and wrote them down myself! Sometimes people just don't understand so you just have to do it yourself- it's a pain I know- good luck

Same EXACT thing I had to do. You know men...they never get the story straight! God knows what he told them! LOL

Licee15 Posted: Jan 17, 2007 07:09 PM

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Melissa -

Hang in there, remember you are never alone - Honestly - I would call her myself tell her you need the list by a certain time and thats the bottom line end of conversation...

Good luck girlie

CrazyLove Posted: Jan 17, 2007 08:34 PM

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I totally know what u mean!! I'm dreading that process. Hang in there!!! It's all about u....

snydl40 Posted: Jan 17, 2007 08:38 PM

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FSIL got married three years ago-so she had FH's family addresses-otherwise it probably would have taken awhile. I would give your FMIL a call and explain what STD's are and that they are usually sent out around this time for an Oct. weddding.

MF9282 Posted: Jan 17, 2007 08:42 PM

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I try ladies I spak and she is polit and says mmmm ok mmm ok sure mmmm ok. Cmon her if its not about her daughter she doesn't care. They are so aggrevating!!!!!!

TeddyFrogsDivaBride Posted: Jan 17, 2007 08:44 PM

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This is SUCH a familiar argument...we ended up going to FIL's house and literally taking our list and getting the addresses on the spot...not ideal, but I got what I wanted, and someone had to talk me down about when I needed the addresses, because I was looking at them really early, but I understand!!

portjeffbride Posted: Jan 17, 2007 09:10 PM

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I still don't have the in law family addresses!

I'd like to start doing the invitations... but no, I don't even know everyone's names

PegaLega Posted: Jan 17, 2007 09:11 PM

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thats stinks...is she missing a peice of her brain? I mean seriously.

kris01 Posted: Jan 17, 2007 09:18 PM

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don't worry!!! I can completely feel for you. We got engaged in July so I asked my FMIL to start making her list...I just got the list last week and am missing addresses..

I love my FMIL BUT she is driving me crazzzzy!! I told her I need the address and anyone else you forgot by June! I know my wedding isn't until November BUT I know her it will take her another 5 months to get me everything.

Good Luck!!! & don't worry you can vent anytime because we all understand!!!!

cmrcmr0430 Posted: Jan 17, 2007 09:23 PM

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It is so funny....When I was mailing out my STDs, FMIL thought it was my invites... I said, yeah...I am sending my invites 1 1/2 years in advance....Come on now!!

MF9282 Posted: Jan 18, 2007 09:21 AM

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See its like cmonnnnn lets use a lil common sense here!!!!

lilqtpie2181 Posted: Jan 18, 2007 09:41 AM

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its never ending with u and ur FMIL huh? u poor thing. i knowu just want to get ur stuff done and organized but others dont see things the way us brides do.
Hope u finally get ur list.. if not then he side wont get STD's oh well.

AlliCatB Posted: Jan 18, 2007 09:51 AM

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I had the same problem with my FMIL. She's from Uruguay and they don't do stuff like this over there so she had no idea why I wanted stuff so many months in advance. And of course FH didn't explain it to her.

I finally went to her house with a STD, showed her how cute it was, and then went through her phone book with her over tea. I wanted to kill her, but instead I acted like it was FUN BONDING TIME WHOOOHOOO!

I ended up getting the addresses and making her happy.

Two birdies, one stone.

I would suggest trying to contact her yourself. Email stinks because things get lost in translation but in person or telephone is good. And pretend this is the first she's hearing of it so you don't feel and susequently come off so annoyed.