Okay so i have a quick vent/question. So I am the first one to get engaged in my small group of friends. But about 2 weeks ago one of my best friends tells me that her and her bf plan on getting married around September of this year.But i just found out its probably going to be next March. If it bad that i am alittle jealous/upset that i am not the first one? I hate feeling like this, but i cant help.
Thanks for listening. I hope i am not the only one who feels like this.
FutureMrsKuehne
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i felt like this when my MOH got engaged RIGHT before me (knowing it was happening really soon...her FH is my Fh's BM, so they knew) and then they were planning on getting married either right before, or right after, and ill be her MOH so that jus infuriated me for a minute, cuz it wont be all about my wedding then, it would all be overlapping, and stressful....so ya i totally felt annoyed at first...
now, though, they aren't even setting a date, they wanna wait like 2 yrs...so im over it LOL
lori7570
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I don't think what you're feeling is wrong. But what happens is that when you get engaged you think that everything revolves around you and your wedding (I trust me I have lots of these moments!!) and it is sometimes hard to remember that life is going on still around you.
Even if she gets married before you it doesn't mean your wedding will be any less special. She deserves the same encouragement and happiness she gave you when you got engaged...
soontobecruz
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I think how your feeling is totally understandable. I was second to get engaged to my BF we got engaged 6 weeks apart. We both wanted summer 2010 weddings so we worked it out. I did wait and let her chose her date first then I booked after. Atfirst I wasn't going to but realized it was wrong to do that. Your profile says ur getting married in Oct and he is March Ihave to be honest think that is ok. There is plenty of time in between. If she wants a winter/spring wedding I don't think you can expect her to wait an entire year more bc u got engaged first. Sorry if this isn't what u want to hear. I do understand you being upset though. Just focus on your day it will be amazing whether first or second!!
JillandJoe
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no its not bad, id feel the same way... its like as soon as ur engaged other people want to jump the gun
JenBill61210
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don't worry you will be fine... your wedding is going to be different than hers even though you were engaged first. i have a lot of people in my family that were engaged after me but that are getting married before me and i don't mind because i know that my wedding is going to be different than theirs...
Dazzlin217
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I know its normal that i feel like this, but honestly i feel alittle bad that i do. i dont want to feel like this but i cant help it. I know i will get over it and start to feel happy for her.
thanks for everyone input
AdriandSteve
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totally normal to feel like this.
MrsC2010
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Posted by AdriandSteve
totally normal to feel like this.
totally normal...i feel this way too bc there are a few friends who got engaged after me and are planning their weddings before mine...it makes me jealous but i am still so happy for them. no reason to feel bad.
stinenandy2010
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Totally normal....my best friend got engaged months after us but is getting married this August. Of course I was jealous at first b/c I wanted to get married first BUT I honestly couldn't be happier for her. They are just so in love and cannot wait to get married.
Nichole2010
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ugh i know how you feel.
i got pissed that my cousin decided to get married a few short months before me...
she was even engaged when she decided to set her date and book her stuff...
we just neverrr got along
MrsL2010
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i'm kinda the other girl in this whole scenario. one of my best friends got engaged christmas 2007 and set her date for april 2010. i got engaged over the summer and set my date for march 2010. we are getting married only a month apart and are in each others wedding parties. i originally wanted a summer wedding, but when price came down to it, i was not going to wait a whole other year. i just hope that she wasn't mad at me for doing that.
