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kim24 Posted:

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Did you always go with FH to visit every venue?

Laura Suzanne Posted:

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Yes but only because he wanted to. I would have had no problem with me running around on my own and just showing him the ones I liked best. Boys are just wired differently so don't feel bad if he doesn't want to go to all of the places

agilbe23 Posted:

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Yes! Venue is one of the biggest decisions you'll make and we both wanted to make the decision together where our big day would take place!!! We both wanted to love it :)

MsA2MrsA Posted:

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Yes, I did. I cared more about it then he did though and he just went along with by I wanted lol.

meejack1110 Posted:

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I did bring FH with me to each place, but we only looked at a few. I think if I was visiting a ton of places I probably would have just brought my mom or sister, to help until I had a list of 'must sees' for FH. I am glad he came though because he fell in love with our Venue right away and that made it an easy decision.

jenandivan Posted:

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FH absolutely went with me. Not because I don't drive, but because he's just as involved as I am. He originally wanted this, when I wanted city hall. Now that I'm completely on board, I want him as involved as possible in everything. He had a big wedding the first time, but all he got to do was pick out the tuxes. He wasn't involved in anything else. He felt left out. Not this time. He's even involved in the flowers!

katielynn Posted:

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FH went with me to the venues we looked at (we only saw a total of three) and he also went with me to the DJ and the Photographer meetings.

I offered the flower appointment but I knew he wasn't going to want to go to that. Hell... I didn't even care about flowers.

I definitely think the venue appointment is the most important because we went off how it made us feel. When we went to the venue we chose (it was the 2nd one we saw) we both walked in and was like .... This is it!!
flynn14 Posted:

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Nope he actually never went with me. I'm in an odd situation tho my fh lives in another country. He was fine w me picking by myself. He saw the venue when he was in town but it was after we already booked.

If we were living in the same country I would have likes him to be there tho I feel knowing him he would have been bored after the second venue and then I would
Have ended going by myself picking one I lied and then havig him come
cets1290 Posted:

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nope- i went with my mom to a couple of them, then I went with both my mom and his mom for 2 other ones...When I found the place I really liked, he came back with me to book. He honestly didn't care where what hall we picked haha

Poggi Posted:

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No FH came with me to a few but I went to a bunch with my mom. FH has a crazy schedule and its tough to work around so I went on my own and reported back my findings. Also FH said that it was all up to me that he wanted me to have whatever I wanted, that's not to say that if he said he hated a place I would have picked it but he ultimately said that he was happy if I was happy.

MarryTheNight24 Posted:

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FH and both our parents came with us to every venue. We had such a great time. It was def my favorite part of the wedding planning process.

simba301 Posted:

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I booked the venue with my mom. FH saw it when we did the tasting, a few days later. We could have still canceled at that point, so it was ok with him.

StephanieXO Posted:

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I think FH going to the venues is important. My FH is particular about the room set up and what it has to offer, etc. Granted we only went to 3 venues, lol but he came to all of them, and by the time we went back to our RH to book, we knew what we liked and didn't like about each venue. We also only looked at 3 venues because we've been to a million weddings at various places and knew which venues we liked and didn't like. We also had both sets of parents come to our venue on the day we signed the contracts, and had a champagne toast.

Depending on your FH, different thing will be important to them. FH came to every appointment, and I thought I would spare him on the florist appointment, but he actually wants to come and see what we are getting. They are unpredictable sometimes!

GoingToBoyle Posted:

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My dad and FH came with me to every venue. This may sound silly but a friend of mine use to be a car salesman and he once told me that sales people don't take women shopping alone seriously because they know that they are highly likely to go home to consult someone before buying. I know I remember thinking this was terrible when I heard that. So I felt like this applied to venue shopping because in reality the people at the venues are salesman. I feel like you can negotiate better if you bring a parent or your FH because they know that you have the ability to book on the spot if you know the venue is the one. You have the ability to say “I will book now if you give me…” we did that and ending up getting our farewell table and a craft beer station included. If you know that you are the type of person who wants time to think about your decision it is totally fine to go without your FH because you are just making it easier for him by eliminating the ones that you don’t like.

amanda1126 Posted:

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FH came with me to most of them, but there were a few that he couldn't come to because of work, so my mom and sister came with me. If I really liked a place, I made a second appointment to bring FH back!

MsA2MrsA Posted:

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I always brought my mom with me (since she & my dad were paying) and my FH mom sometimes came along too.

Lori0413 Posted:

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FH actually went to one venue without ME (I had to work), and it ended up being the place we booked. But we saw about 10 venues and he went to all of them. It was just as important to him as it was to me.
dariamarie2 Posted:

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Yes FH came with me - he has wanted to be involved since day 1 and I wouldn't want to make that decision without him.

Gambigoo Posted:

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FH came with me to each venue and was very opinionated, lol. We both loved our venue so we knew it was the one. He went alone to book it and negotiate a better price though. I hate that stuff! He also came with me to a dj showcase where we booked the dj. The flowers and stuff he doesn't really care about but ill prob ask him to go anyway.

Percz2418 Posted:

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Yes. My FH came to every appointment. We wanted to make decisions together. He's new to the world of wedding planning so I wanted to make sure he knew how everything would work especially with venues. When looking at venues we also invited my parents and his mom, dad, and step mom to join if they wanted to include them in the process. Although when it came time to talk money only myself, my FH, and my parents were involved bc my parents are the primary financial contributors. You and your FH should do what feels right for you. If you go see a venue without him and love it you can always go back with and see it. They will def accommodate you guys especially if they think they may get a booking out of it.

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