very pissed...long vent

well,I was at FI house this past weekend and his obnoxious, arrogant
BIL (well its actually his sister's boyfriend) was there and he begins to
make fun just because I was looking at Brides magazines and had my
wedding planner out. This is what really pissed me offf: he asked me how
much money I was paying per plate and how much money the entire
wedding was going to cost me. I find this incredibly rude!!!!!!!!!!! then he
asked me where the reception was going to be held and when I answered
him, he just made a face and asked why I didn't go with another place, such
as leonards because it looked better. How can you say that to someone?
well then he begins questioning why I am having a big wedding and
that instead we should just buy a house and he kept insisting on the topic.
By the way he was making all these comments in front of my FI's other
siblings (FI was working at the time) He was questioning everything!!!!!
How many guests, why was I having it so far out on the Island, and kept
bragging how he has 3 homes already and is getting ready to purchase
another one!!! ohhhhh he makes me mad!!!!!!!!!!!!! He thinks he's better
than everyone only because he has some money and works for Mercedes
Benz and is going to supposedly become a dentist BIG DEAL!!!!!!!!!!
he's always making comments and is very rude to everyone. He just walks
in and doesn't even say Hi to anyone. on New Years Eve, he just got
up from the table and left right before midnight to be with his family, but he
didn't even say Happy New Year to anyone. I think he might be a little
jealous because he is older and already pretty much has a career and
he has been with FI's sister for 9 years and there is no sign of a ring anytime
soon. Some of the other family members don't like him either. I'm having
second thoughts about inviting him. Do you guys think it would be rude
not to

Uh! What a creep! And a jerk! Ick!

But yes, If they've been together that long, you probably should invite him.

He really sounds like an arrogant, obnoxious a**hole, I can see what he'd get you so pissed off!

Next time he complains about YOUR wedding, tell him that if he ever decides to get married he can plan the wedding of HIS dreams!
People can be so crude - believe me you're going to come across so many more comments from people you would never think could be so insensitive.

idiot

I sorta have that problem. Those who know that Jim & I eloped assume we won't have a wedding. Kinda of rude 'Good for you.. stupid to spend all that money on a wedding.. you don't look that stupid' Uhmm Well sorry I must be a Moron cause Im still having a wedding. Simple mistake right? Nope.. 'Why have a wedding.. you finished already why not save for a house or something, why are you being so stupid?' Bah

He sounds like a real fuc$^*in as$hole..but if he has been with fh sister for that long, you probably have to invite him..but just because he is her boyfriend, that doesnt give him the right to get in your business..Id surely tell him off, and I wouldnt think twice about it!!!! Give it to him goooooodddddd!!!!

You do have to invite him, but I wouldn't put it past someone to ask your FSIL why she puts up with this loser! LOL

the A** has to be invited. Tell him to mind his own damb business. The watermill is beautiful anyway so you know he doesnt know what the hel* he's talking about! I want to know why she has been with a guy like that for nine years when there doesnt even seem to be a ring in site. She needs a pep talk and a self esteem chat.

How rude

Sounds like a a$$ if you ask me.

First off how can he be jealous if he's the one that should be asking your FSIL for her hand in marriage? If he's so jealous then he should get up off his Mercedes Benz and do something about it. Maybe FSIL doesn't want to marry him. LOL!!!

As for the comments, next time he comments, say 'why do you want to know?' Usually that shuts people up. If he keeps it up, just keep asking him why he wants to know? Because the reason is, he's just being nosy and a sh*t stirrer and eventually he'll realize he's being a jerk and will shut up. If he STILL doens't stop, tell him if he keeps making comments then maybe he feels the wedding is too BENEATH him and you are more than happy to take him off the guest list.

Doesn't your FI and his family say anything to him?

now i'm offended too because i'm getting married at the watermill and i think it's a beautiful place to get married!!
this guy sounds like one of those people that simply wants to hear himself talk.
so let him talk and let him think what he wants about your wedding.
at the end of it all, you and your FH will be happily married and he'll still be a miserable a$$ with nothing but the sound of his own voice......
sorry he's such a jerk to you!!

thanks ladies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
reading your comments made me laugh and made me feel better.
FI's younger sister also gave me the idea of just inviting his other sister
with a guest and like that she can bring who ever she likes. I know that
even if I do invite him, he probably won't even come. That's how he is.
I don't really say anything to him because I am close to FI's sister but
I really don't like him at all and I hate how he treats her. Can you believe for
christmas he did not call her all day and did not come over the house
to give her a gift (everyone was there, all 8 brothers and sisters and their
significant others) I know she felt bad. The reason he won't give her a ring
is because his mother does not think she is good enough for him since
her family doesn't have 'money' like they do. they're not even rich!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
but anyways, you know what they say 'money does not buy you class'
because this idiot doesn't have any at all LOL

He's selfish and you need to ignore him.

I'm getting married at Leonards and I think he's a complete idiot. I drive by Watermill all the time and love it.

Tell him to do better - poop or get off the pot. Does he want to be with her or not?

Selfish and no class. Ignoring him probably gets under his skin since he's just looking for attention. And he's giving dentists a bad rep...

PS - you should invite him - if you don't you'll give him something else to blab about and he'll have a reason to badmouth you...don't give it to him!

Totally understandable to be pissed. what a jackass. I find that the people who ask the most ridculous questions about $$$ have nothing whatsoever to do with the wedding. who does this guy think he is??? he's abviously not married for a very good reason. let the baby have its bottle and don't pay him any mind. if he starts to bug you about $$$ again, let him to kiss your you-know-what and leave it at that!! meanwhile, enjoy planning your wedding and enjoy YOUR day!!!!

now that's what I like to hear!!!!!!!!!
LOL thanks again. At one point, I really
thought I was taking it too personally
but he always has a stupid comment to make.
I can't seem to ignore him and trust me I'd
rather not say anything because I can get really nasty when I'm mad and I really don't
want my little truck-driver mouth to come out
LOL