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Very Sad News...Girls, I Really Need Your Help!!! *******UPDATE******

Original post by bebita0830

I'm not sure if u girls remember when I made a post a few months ago asking for ur prayers because FFIL was about to receive chemo/radiation for his cancer (which initially started in his lungs) that has spread to his brain. Well he's in critical condition right now At the beginning of the week the doctors had recommended for him to be in hospice care and last night the news got even worst, they highly advised us that all his family should now spend as much time possible with him 'cause unfortunately they didn't think FFIL was gonna live much longer. FFIL hasn't been concious for almost a week!

As u girls can imagine FH's family is completely heart broken and FH is beyond devastated, he hasn't stopped crying and spending nights in the hospital with his dad.

Today, all of us had an open heart conversation and decided that the best thing for everybody and mainly for FH and I is to postpone the wedding. I lost my mom of cancer almost 7 yrs ago and know exactly what FH is going through, losing somebody as close as ur mom or ur dad is one of the most horrible things anybody could ever experience. I believe from the bottom of my heart that having a wedding should be an exciting and happy event, but none of us, especially FH will be able to feel happy when there is so much grief. It's really, really sad having to postpone the wedding, but nothing compares with the fact that in anyday FFIL will not be with us anymore.

I'm gonna start informing all of our guests tomorrow about this decision and thankfully my lovely maids of honor will be helping me.

Although we won't be able to get married this year, I'll continue supporting the rest of our 2011 brides as much as possible, sharing ideas, giving advise, recommending vendors, feeling their pain when venting, or whippin' any a$$ of whoever is nasty to them

Now, I'm not sure what's gonna happen with our vendors. Will they be willing to offer us another day next yr? Will we lose the money we have already paid?

Thank u so much girls and please keep us in ur prayers!!!





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I just wanted to let u girls know that unfortunately FFIL lost his battle with cancer on the weekend as u can imagine it was extremely painful for the whole family, but I'm soooo thankful to God for all the great support of family members and friends that went above and beyond by giving us all the support and love, the gratitude that we feel towards them is just bigger than words!!

Fortunately all of our vendors have been very understanding and told us that they'll be using the money we've paid towards a new wedding date...thank God!!! I think they also know that if they didn't do this, my liw girls will give them hell lolol!

Everything has been upside down, but as soon as our heart, especially FH's, start feeling a little bit better, we'll choose a new date and get on the wedding planning mode again.

THANK U SOOOOO MUCH FOR ALL UR SWEET WORDS GIRLS!!!! FH AND I REALLY APPRECIATE THEM!!!!


itbroi805 Posted:

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so sorry to hear, my prayers are out to your FH and family, and I def think you made the right decision.

pixietina Posted:

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I am deeply sorry that you, your FH, and your families are going through this. Postponing the wedding is a hard decision to make, but is the right one. Your vendors will hopefully understand. If you need anything the LIW girls are always here to support you.

mjm2012 Posted:

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i'm so sorry to hear this, lots of thoughts going out to you. please let us know if you have any problem with vendors. the last thing you need to do is stress about that and i'd feel bad for anyone who doesn't accommodate you. i would never want to mess with LIW brides.

Ang9483 Posted:

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I am so sorry this has happened I know how hard it can be to lose someone. If you need anything we are here for you!!
Alannah22 Posted:

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Crashing....I'm so sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with your family. I believe you made the right decision. I'm sure your vendors will understand.
KrisBren2011 Posted:

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I am soooo sorry My thoughts and prayers are with you, FH, and FFIL during this time. I def agree with your decision to postpone. Please let us know if you need anything girl xoxoxoxo
Gsangel81 Posted:

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Posted by bebita0830

I'm not sure if u girls remember when I made a post a few months ago asking for ur prayers because FFIL was about to receive chemo/radiation for his cancer (which initially started in his lungs) that has spread to his brain. Well he's in critical condition right now At the beginning of the week the doctors had recommended for him to be in hospice care and last night the news got even worst, they highly advised us that all his family should now spend as much time possible with him 'cause unfortunately they didn't think FFIL was gonna live much longer. FFIL hasn't been concious for almost a week!

As u girls can imagine FH's family is completely heart broken and FH is beyond devastated, he hasn't stopped crying and spending nights in the hospital with his dad.

Today, all of us had an open heart conversation and decided that the best thing for everybody and mainly for FH and I is to postpone the wedding. I lost my mom of cancer almost 7 yrs ago and know exactly what FH is going through, losing somebody as close as ur mom or ur dad is one of the most horrible things anybody could ever experience. I believe from the bottom of my heart that having a wedding should be an exciting and happy event, but none of us, especially FH will be able to feel happy when there is so much grief. It's really, really sad having to postpone the wedding, but nothing compares with the fact that in anyday FFIL will not be with us anymore.

I'm gonna start informing all of our guests tomorrow about this decision and thankfully my lovely maids of honor will be helping me.

Although we won't be able to get married this year, I'll continue supporting the rest of our 2011 brides as much as possible, sharing ideas, giving advise, recommending vendors, feeling their pain when venting, or whippin' any a$$ of whoever is nasty to them

Now, I'm not sure what's gonna happen with our vendors. Will they be willing to offer us another day next yr? Will we lose the money we have already paid?

Thank u so much girls and please keep us in ur prayers!!!





First and most importantly my prayers are with you and FH and his family. This is a very difficult decision. I originally was going to get married in March but had to postponed my wedding to november because my father passed away on halloween . I was heartbroken and devasted. I know exactly how you feel but i think that is the best thing to do. I postponed my wedding by 6 months and even though im still going to notice my fathers absence there im in a better place now than i was in March. My vendors were all great and they were very understanding with the exception of one (FM ill tell you who it was you will be surprised) but any thing i can help you with please let me know, just FM me
Chelechel1 Posted:

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So sorry to hear this news. Please keep us posted if your vendors are helpful and understanding. Your FFIL will be in my prayers
RandEWedding2011 Posted:

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Diana, I am so very sorry for what you and you FH are going through! You guys definitley made the hardest but best decision. My thoughts and prayers go out to you guys and your family...
atitus724 Posted:

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So sorry!! Sending lots of prayers your way!
JW2 Posted:

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Oh no! I'm so sorry...
I'm sure your vendors would understand and be able to hold a different date in the future.
jovigirl414 Posted:

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Posted by GlitterBox24

you are def right, how can he enjoy it when anyday something can happen to his dad..

Thsi is what love is all about.. You are making the best decision. Your LIW fam is here for you!



I couldn't have said this better myself ... Take it from me, I know how hard it is - we continued with our engagement party, a week after my father passed away - I was a wreck the whole time, and barely enjoyed it.

You are doing the right thing. DH and I are sending our love and prayers to you both at this difficult time



MNM0805 Posted:

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So sorry this is happening. I hope all of your vendors let you reschedule with them all.

ddms7870 Posted:

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crashing:

You, your fiance, and your families are in my prayers....

I can't imagine what you are going through feeling so many emotions at this point. Wishing you continued strengh through such a devastating time.

MrsDtoB Posted:

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I am so sorry. Keeping you and your FH in my prayers!
thelienne Posted:

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so sorry to hear that,may God be with you and ffil
Jmrosa1 Posted:

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So sorry to hear! My prayers go out to you and your FH and family
bebita0830 Posted:

Re: Very Sad News...Girls, I Really Need Your Help!!! *******UPDATE******

Update on my 1st post (1st page)
gmcamp Posted:

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I am so sorry to hear about your FFIL.

SoonToBeMrsFox Posted:

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i'm so sorry for your loss; my thoughts are with you, your fiance and his family

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